When was the last time you were in the dilemma where your heart said yes and your head said no?
Two parts of you in disagreement, battling with each other for pole position…
How often have you found yourself unable to make decisions based on that inner conflict, not knowing which way to go?
A question I would like you to become familiar with and to apply every time you find yourself reacting to something or someone is to ask yourself:
‘Am I in my head or am I in my heart?’
Often times we are so much in our heads our heads analysing, judging and constantly weighing up the pros and cons of a situation.
We are so far removed from being in our heart space and connecting in love, that we wouldn’t recognise it if it came up and stared us in the face.
Our heads it’s where our ‘voice of doom/destruction/negative thinking’ lives. It will continue to rear its ugly head until we rein it in.
If we’re not careful, we could let our heads rule our hearts and our future, never considering the heart’s needs or wants.
Wherever you go, go with all your heart – Confucius
Opening your heart
An open heart is very powerful, it has the capacity to love and be loved.
• Your heart is wise
• If you listen to it you will find that it knows all the answers to all your questions
• Your heart provides you with valuable sources of information
• Your heart has a blueprint for happiness, joy and compassion for yourself and others
• Your heart stores that which you seek…love, contentment, joy
The heart is where our true self resides, that place of inner knowing and intuition, the higher self, the source, our oneness.
Our heart speaks to us in a gentle voice and will guide us back home to ourselves if we stop long enough to listen.
Our heart truly knows what’s best for us if we can get the head out of the way.
Whatever we are waiting for – peace of mind, contentment, grace, the inner awareness of abundance – it will surely come to us, but only when we are ready to receive it with an open and grateful heart – Sarah Ban Breathnach
Heart Based Exercise: Listening to Your Heart’s Needs
• Listen to your heart’s needs
• Be aware of the fears in your head
• Make a note of where these fears come from. Are they fears from the past, fears related to current concerns or fears about things you imagine happening in the future?
• Bring yourself back to your heart each time you find yourself going back into your head
• Go back to the heart space using heart based breathing, connect with and expand that feeling of love
• Act from the heart in every situation
Wrist Band Exercise:
This is a great awareness exercise that supports you in bringing head and heart into balance.
- Wear a loose elastic band, hair tie, charity wrist band or just your watch around your wrist
- Every time you go into your head (over analysing, judging, labelling and categorising) which takes you further away from love, change the item over from one wrist to the other, to bring you back to heart centred awareness
- Filter your experiences through your heart space and you will experience life through the filter of love
It’s a very effective and simple exercise that further brings awareness to your thought process and will aid you to re-direct your thinking to that which is more positive
It will show you the habits of your thinking and make you realise where your mind wanders to…you just need to pull it back again
I offer this exercise to my clients and some of the feedback I’ve had is:
‘’ I can’t believe how many of my thoughts are negative and critical ’’
‘’Although I got annoyed at how many times I had to change the band over, it made me laugh when I realised half of what I was worrying about might not even happen’’
‘’My wife and I are now doing this together, I want my dad to do it too and he is so negative’’ (of course this in itself is a negative thought and the band has to be changed over to the opposite wrist)
You can read additional feedback about my services, techniques and the results gained from working with me.
Have fun along the way catching yourself; the more you practice the more you get your head and heart in balance.
Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes – Carl Jung
From my heart you yours,