25 Jan

The Voice of the Heart

How often do you truly connect in with your heart?

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Do you find your head ruling your heart rather than the other way round?  If so read my blog ‘get out of your head and into your heart‘ 

It’s possible to increase heart centre connection using the exercise below and also the ones included here 

Heart Based Practical Exercise: The voice of the heart

Copy out or read aloud the following statements and include your positive heartfelt endings

 
• I experience love when I…..

 
• When I think about love I feel it in my (name the area of your body where you feel the energy of love. This might be somewhere else in addition to your heart)…..

 
• I have learnt to love and take care of myself by…..

 
• Love and heart focused connection fills up so much of my time that I forget to….

 
• I can…..

 
• My heart is full of love because I choose to…..

 
• The inner core of my being recognises love through…..

 
• This is my chance to…..

 
• When I listen to my heart it tells me…..

 
• I respect myself totally because…..

 
• I’m determined to…..

 
• I’m so happy that I now choose…..

 
• I am blessed to experience heart connection because…..

 
• I will…..

 
• I am strong enough to…..

 
• Love is now a part of me and I vow to…..

 
• I’m certain that I can…..

 
• I promise to…..

 
• This is my opportunity to…..

 
• It is my mission to…..because…..

 
• I am choosing to make the rest of my life…..

 
• I love myself unconditionally exactly as I am and in doing so I…..

 

Notice what changes in you day, week and month ahead when you get into the space of love and heart centred connection.

 

One love, one heart, one destiny – Bob Marley
When you’re ready to take the next step in exploring your hearts needs to support you in achieving your personal and business goals. I offer a range of support programmes. www.wendyfry.com  for love and relationship support and www.bepositive.me.uk for general therapeutic support.

18 Jan

PAUSE for Positive Change

We all have the same amount of hours in the day though I know many of you might wish you had more time to either get through your ‘In Tray’, deal with the hundreds of daily emails or simply want more time to connect with your family and friends.

I need to let you know, the secret of success is…Less is more!

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Working yourself into the ground, running on empty and worrying about everything creates stress.

Taking just a few minutes out of your day, brings you back into balance.  Getting you out of your head and into your heart.  By slowing down our thoughts, remembering to breathe and taking a moment to pause, will allow you to de-stress, do more and have time for fun stuff too.

Now is the perfect time to PAUSE and connect with your heart space Any time you find yourself going into your head, pause and use heart centred breathing.

Re-connecting with your heart space will support you in remembering your:

 
Passion

Ability

Uniqueness

Sense of Self

Energy of Love

 
Allow the pause to reach your heart space, breathe deeply and allow yourself to fully connect in love.  Feel that love and connection growing and expanding, filling up not only your physical body with beautiful energy.

Blast out that vibrant energy from your heart out into The Universe.

Create a positive ripple of heart connection across the planet.

Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to believe that you do great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you will know when you’ve found it – Steve Jobs

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Heart Based Exercise: Making your future the best it can be

I encourage you to reflect on the following points, to make your future the best it can be. Ask yourself:

 
• What do I need to stop doing that holds me back from having a more heart centred connection with myself and others?
• What do I need to start doing to allow my heart to open fully?
• What can I commit to right now that will allow for a more heart centred approach to life and living?
Heart Based Exercise (apply daily as many of these heart centred self care choices as you possible)

I have listed below some activities that will aid you in being more loving to yourself and making time for you to be with you. What can you choose from these examples that will make you feel pampered, cherished and loved and what other ways can you find to love you?

 
Affirmations – starting and ending the day with positive affirmations while connection from your heart will aid towards general well-being creating balance and positive energy flow.

 
Being out in nature – connecting to nature is very restorative and reduces mental fatigue. It is both healing and cleansing, being out in fresh air and green spaces restoring one’s emotional health and physical wellbeing on many different levels.

 
Complementary Therapies – there are some wonderful therapies that may make you feel relaxed and at peace with yourself – for example massage, Reiki, HeartMath Coherence and Reflexology, as well as EFT are all are treatments which aid in the release of built up emotions in the emotional and physical body whilst also easing the mind.

 
Eating well – choosing healthy foods that you enjoy and which are natural and energising are an important part of looking after you and maintaining a healthy heart. Prepare for yourself delicious meals and treats with love and care. Use beautiful china to eat and drink from. Make eating a beautiful ritual where you honour your body and your health.

 

Exercise – Any form of exercise, whether it’s walking, cycling, swimming, aerobics, dancing or using a trampoline will release endorphins (the ‘happy’ hormone) into your body. Laughter Yoga if you haven’t yet discovered it is perfect for a lasting happiness effect. Exercise can make you feel energised, positive and confident and is also great for toning and shaping as well as pumping blood around the heart. Be sure to have some form of exercise in your daily routine and to build up gradually listening to your body at all times.

 

Gratitude – Practising daily gratitude has so many benefits.  Read this wonderful article by Monica Cafferky, freelance journalist  ‘How Writing a Daily Gratitude Diary Changed Our Lives’  I’m pleased to have been interviewed for this article and share with you how the attitude of gratitude changed me life in the Daily Express.

 

Rest and relaxation – down time such as listening to music, reading, taking a nap or making sure you have plenty of sleep when you need it, is a very loving way to look after yourself and your heart.

 

Meditation – You may also find meditation helps you to relax after a busy day or, as part of a daily morning ritual. Check out  Five Minute Meditations by Caroline Maidment which I highly recommend. Meditation lowers the heart rate and boosts immunity feeding the body with nutrients and oxygen.

 

Self care – such as taking luxurious baths with scented oils, candles burning and using wonderful body moisturisers and having a pamper, generally all helps one’s body to feel loved and cared for. Body brushing increases lymphatic flow through the body towards the heart. Choosing carefully the outfit you will wear for the day ahead, how you style your hair and if you wear make-up, taking care to apply and wear the colours that love you are all an important part of you showing yourself love, attention and care.

 

When you are kind and loving towards yourself connecting from your heart you act from a place of self love, it’s possible to expand, connect, amplify, magnetise and bring balance to your life.  Your thought processes change and you may find yourself being more positive about life in general, as you operate more from heart focused awareness.

It is beautiful to express love and even more beautiful to feel it – Dejan Stoganovic

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When you’re ready to take the next step and make your future the best it can be contact me for love and relationship support at www.wendyfry.com or for general therapeutic support at www.bepositive.me.uk email: info@wendyfry.com.

I work over Skype and also in person from my practice in Surrey offering a range of personal support programmes, workshops and VIP Days.

Remember to PAUSE, you’d be surprised what you find in the gap! 

17 Jan

One True Thing

Nothing in my experience compares to the unique connection and bond we experience with our pets.

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An unspoken mutual agreement is made up of respect, caring and unconditional love.

Sensitive to each others needs and there for each other through all seasons our pets show us how to nurture in completeness, how to relax and how to enjoy simple pleasures.

Whether it be teaching us to take time out and sit in a sunny spot, enjoy the fresh air and freedom of walking or running in a park or to simply enjoy a cool drink of water we can learn so much from our furry friends.

Our pets allow us to be all of who we are, without judgement. I know many people who have conversations with their pets and would not dream of talking this way to others for fear of ridicule.

All creatures great and small put us in touch with the child like part of ourselves, where we can be lovely dovey,  soft and fluffy or airy fairy.

We find a place within ourselves, with their aid  where we roll about in glee or simply find stillness and peace within.  They teach us how to connect with our inner child, to laugh, to play or simply be.

Blessed are we who have the love of pets.

Whether your pet is sitting with you right now or is with you in spirit.  One true thing is your love for each other will live on in your hearts forever.

This blog is in loving memory of my neighbours cat Mac, who had a fondness for rubbing his face on my plants, who always came to see me when I put rubbish out or worked in the garden.  I’ve spent the last six years watching Mac grow up from a fluffy, scrawny kitten into a magnificent and beautiful young man.

I know I will miss him though I thank him for showing me unconditional love.

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Pictures included are not of Mac though represent all our beautiful pets the world over.

 

 

 

11 Jan

Raising Your Love Vibration

We all need love and heart centred connection….

Since we were mere babies, to be loved, nurtured and connected with others is a natural human need inbuilt from our earliest years.

As adults, we no longer need to be reliant to find love and connection from the outside sources; we can meet our own needs independently by going into our hearts.

If you need a little more information about heart connection see my previous blog Get Out of Your Head and into Your Heart 

Heart Based Exercise: Raising Your Love Vibration- connecting with your heart space

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You can use this exercise in the written sense, writing down your answers or simply use as a visual exercise if you prefer.

Think about a dial with -10 being the lowest love score, 0 being neutral and +10 being at its highest rate of heart connection

How high is your heart connection dial right now?
• If your dial is anything less than a + 10 what do you need to start doing, stop doing or do differently to get it to a +10?
• How will your life change when you connecting with your heart space from a +10?
• What things do you love about life/yourself/others when you connect from the heart? (keep adding to that list so that you have a growing list of things to love and appreciate about yourself)
• What memories do you have of giving and receiving love?
• Remember how giving and receiving love felt, what you saw, heard and experienced, how was this achieved when you openly gave and received love through your heart?
• How can you be more loving towards yourself and others?
• What would happen if you accepted, allowed and welcomed more love into your life?
• How would your day change if you filtered for and looked for all the loving experiences you could find through heart centred awareness?
• How would your life change if you operated more from your heart and said yes to love for now and for always?

 

Reflect on your answers and notice where you might be falling a little short in the love vibration department.  If you need some extra help read my previous blog post Creating Possibilities through Heart Centred Connection 

The moment you surrender to love and allow it to lead you to exactly where your soul wants it to go, you will have no difficulty – Neal Donald Walsch

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Practical Exercise: Increasing Raising your love vibration

Use the following statements in addition to the prior exercise, either writing your answers  after the gaps, visualising the process or reading the statements aloud and ending in your own words.
Connecting with my heart I know….

Being more heart centred changes my life because….

I love how it feels when…..

I love knowing…..

It makes me feel so good that…..

I love seeing myself…..

I enjoy…..

I’m excited at the thought of…..

I love being…..

I’m delighted that….

I appreciate….

It feels so good to be….

I’m so happy that….

When you raise your love vibration through heart centred connection,  you feel differently about yourself and your future. When you can change your mind set about what is possible rather than what is impossible this changes your energetic vibration, try it and see.

Wherever you go, go with all your heart – Confucius

When you’re ready to work with me please do make contact at info@wendyfry.com to explore the range of tools and techniques I can share with you, Helping You to help Yourself!

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04 Jan

Communication is the key

Happy New Year to you!

This is my first blog of 2016 and what a joy it is to share with you.

Communication is the key

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Communication is important.  Not only is communication about how we communicate internally, inside our own mind it also covers how we communicate outwardly to others.

If you’d like to learn more about Finding You and how to communicate without fear my first book Find YOU, Find LOVE will aid with this, it’s on special offer at the moment via Kindle.

Outward communication, voicing our thoughts and needs, may leave us feeling vulnerable, though it’s important to stay true to who you are within any relationship, personally or professionally.  This includes voicing your needs from the heart, calmly and constructively, using diplomacy and also considering the others person’s needs, opinion and feelings.

If we are unable to be honest and speak from the heart in our relationships and interactions, we are like actors pretending, behaving as we think the other person wants us to behave and we lose all sense of self.

When we speak up and voice the needs of our heart, no matter how difficult we may anticipate the outcome to be and the more you set free the voice of the heart, the easier it gets.

The hearts needs comes from a space of love, wanting connection, wholeness and peace, operating from this place is liberating as its intention is always for a positive and loving outcome. More about the hearts needs here and a lovely free exercise for you.

By learning to voice your thoughts and needs, it gives you strength. It becomes okay for you to speak up and communicate in a way that states your wholeness.

If you want more heart connection with others and more understanding, start with yourself first.

Relationships are based on how we relate to ourselves first and foremost, that includes how we connect in with our own hearts.

Relationships require clear communication and once you know what your inner most ‘heart needs’ are you have the ability to clearly communicate those needs assertively and with love.

Follow your heart, but be quiet for a while first.  Ask questions then feel the answer.  Learn to trust your heart – Anon

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Heart Based Exercise: Living a life of love (how we communicate to ourselves and others) 

Experiencing life through love every day is a wonderful exercise to practice. Not only are you changing your own internal dialogue and how you communicate with yourself, it also influences how you communicate outwardly to others.

The statements below can be completed by either writing them out or speaking them aloud.

They will set you up for the day ahead and put you in a positive frame of mind, guiding your thoughts to those which are kind and loving.

  • When I look through the eyes of love, how do I choose to see myself physically today?
  • When I feel from the heart of love, how can I be more loving to myself and others today?
  • When I use my heart connection, what thoughts can I choose to think about myself and others that are more loving?
  • When I see the love and beauty all around me I start to notice…..
  • When I focus on all that is possible for me I…..
  • Today, I realise that when I choose heart connection I…..
  • Today, tomorrow and the next day I commit to…..
  • Now and for always I…..
  • I believe that…..

You might also like to check out my previous blog post about heart connection

Sometimes the heart knows what the mind can never explain – Ranjeet Singh

As we step into 2016, consider what may need to change in your communication style.

Communicate your hearts needs and be the creator of your dreams, take action and amaze yourself at all you can be, do and have! 

From my heart to yours, with love, 

x Wendy

If you’d like to work with me to improve your communication style or talk about any other matter I have some special offers this month, simply email me at info@wendyfry.com to find out more.