When was the last time you reached out to another person or group to ask for help?
Asking for help may come easily for some of you though for others there may be untrue beliefs around speaking up which holds you back from voicing your needs.
Here are some of the following statements clients and friends have made when it comes to asking for help, which do you resonate with?
”I can’t ask for help, i’ll look stupid”
”If I ask for help they will think i’m an idiot”
”Last time I asked for help I got shot down and was told I should know”
”If I ask for help I feel too vulnerable, I don’t want people to think i’m weak”
”Asking for help means others will judge me negatively”
”If I ask for help and he/she/they say no I will wish i’d never asked”
”I hate asking for help, it makes me feel uncomfortable and embarrassed”
”I will look like a fool is I ask for help”
”At my age I should know how to do this but I don’t, it’s harder to ask for help when you’re older”
These are just a few of the limiting beliefs and meanings placed on past experiences or future projections which can get in the way of asking for help. By not speaking up we may never get out of our comfort zones to learn new things or give others the good fortune to help us flourish and grow as well as the opportunity for them to share knowledge and feel good about being able to do so.
Asking for help is good for you, not only does it flex your uncomfortable muscle until it’s feels more comfortable to ask, the more you ask the more likely it is you will be offered help and support. If you don’t ask you don’t get. Trying to do everything on your own, by yourself is not only frustrating it can be exhausting too.
Asking for help in the long run can reduce stress, give you the information that’s missing so that what was unknown becomes known and as a result the things you want to be, do and have are more likely to come to pass.
It’s time to end the struggle and ask for help….
What’ the best that can happen?
How will learning how to do something or having something done for you benefit you?
By asking, what does it give both the recipient and the giver of help an opportunity for?
When asking becomes so comfortable for you what will it give you that you don’t have now?
How will having that assist you long term?
This week I have been asking for help with all sorts of things and getting out of my own comfort zone so far I have been offered help in setting up some new software on my PC. Help in unblocking a drain. Support in taking my phone back to a setting which I couldn’t find. Understanding the meanings of some health tests as well as also having the opportunity to help those who have reached out to me.
Please do join me in helping others and giving those people you ask for help the opportunity to see you grow, in doing so you help them grow too. Together we are stronger.
When nothing is certain, everything is possible…..