Category Archives: Mindfulness

12 Mar

The Precious Present

In the blink of an eye life can change and never go back to the same way or shape it was before.

Whether it’s our health, the longevity of others, our careers, relationships or ambitions nothing is certain and it’s easy to take so many things for granted.

Most of us spend time worrying about the future predicting all kinds of catastrophes and for others they are stuck in the past fearful that the past will repeat itself through not taking any action to prove their fears otherwise.  How many of us are actually present?

Just this week I have been reminded about the preciousness of life.  It is a gift given to us although how many of us savour it, enjoy it, appreciate it and respect it?

When was the last time you simply stopped to be? 

Do that now, just stop, sit back, sink into the surface you are laying or sitting on, take a deep breath in and out, roll your shoulders and neck, breathe in and out some more…really deeply this time.  Connect with your heart, go inside, feel the presence of yourself, inside of yourself….

This moment and the precious present is your only guarantee.  The moments before are gone, other moments may come through what of this one? 86,000 seconds in a day to enjoy, appreciate, acknowledge, savour and be grateful for.

Living life moment to moment is all we have ~ Let’s be grateful for the precious present, it is a gift to appreciate and enjoy.

 

 

09 Jan

When Nothing is Certain….

Everything is possible…

So many times different people both friends and clients have said to me ‘what if i can’t?’, my answer is always, ‘what if you can?’

Limits exist only in the mind, what we believe to be true becomes an end result or in some cases no result at all.

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It’s true to say in life there are often many challenges that come at unexpected times and also the events we know will happen with certainty that we have to prepare for.

Here are just a few examples of where people get stuck in their thinking:

  1. It’s impossible
  2. I’m too old
  3. No one will want me
  4. I’m not experienced enough
  5. All my relationships have failed
  6. I keep attracting the wrong types
  7. I don’t have the money
  8. I don’t have the energy
  9. It’s hopeless
  10. I can’t do it

I’m sure you get the picture and perhaps by even reading those few short statements your energy has slumped, you feel defeated, negative, unhappy.  Words are powerful and it’s the words we say to ourselves inwardly and outwardly that contribute to feeling stuck and often if were’re feeling stuck we take no action because we are in a place of fear often trapped in the past and scared it will repeat itself.

So here are my re-frames I offer when I hear the kinds of complaints above:

  1. How do you know?
  2. Compared to whom?
  3. Where is the evidence of this?
  4. What can you do to gain the experience you need?
  5. What have you learnt from these relationships?
  6. If you were to focus on the ‘right types’ what is the right type for you?
  7. What other resources are open to you to achieve what you want?
  8. If you did have the energy what’s the first thing you’d do, how will that one small action benefit you?
  9. What do you want instead of that feeling of hopelessness?
  10. Get rid of the T in can’t and you can

It’s an interesting fact to share…

We are not our thoughts though our thoughts will ultimately take us closer to a desired outcome or further away.

So on that note…

  • What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?
  • What will this look like, feel like and sound like to you?
  • Looking back on how you achieved this how did you do it?
  • What advice would your ‘future self’ give you in order to get started?
  • If you were to become your own best friend what would you say to yourself which offers support, encouragement and praise along the way?
  • What’s one thought, action and deed you can take today which will take you closer to your desire?

Remember you can be, do and have anything you set your mind to and when your thinking tells you otherwise tell it to ‘go and do one!’ or something similar.

You are not your thoughts.  You are a magnificent creator and your dreams can be part of your reality and experience.

Begin today acting as if and work backwards…

Happiness, success, love, career progression, whatever it is you want is only ever a thought away

18 Dec

Staying Sane at Christmas

Christmas for many can be a happy occasion but for others it’s a stressful time of year.

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The classic saying ‘let bygones be bygones’ is often easier said than done.

If your thoughts are on all the things that could go wrong over the festive season guaranteed having the expectation will bring more of the same.

The thing is – you don’t have to do what you’ve always done, you don’t have to think how you’re always thought and you don’t have to act and behave in ways which aren’t helpful to you or anyone else.

It’s natural that we may want to protect ourselves from criticism, the judgement of others, expected arguments and the continuation of a family feud but in reality it can be so different.

Just one small change needs to be made and that change begins with you.

Instead of thinking about what you don’t want, focus on the most positive outcome possible then hold the vision and trust the process that this too will come to pass.

The Spotlight Process will help you to stay sane at Christmas enormously.

You might like to copy out and carry around these questions until they become familiar in your thought pattern.  Instead of responding in the old way, begin afresh by exploring the meaning and beliefs you are placing on an event, experience or in relation to the person you are in conflict with.

1. Where is my thinking right now? (Past, Present or Future?)

2. What proportion of my thinking is negative?

3. How does it affect me when I focus on the negative?

4. Where is the evidence that what I think will happen will happen?

5. What do I want instead of thinking or feeling this way?

6. Coming from my heart instead of my head what would love do here?

Ready to know more about The Spotlight Process and how embracing and applying this process in your life not just at Christmas will change your reality, simply follow this link which will take you to my first book ‘Find YOU, Find LOVE: Get to the heart of love and relationships using EFT.

Here’s to staying sane at Christmas,

From my heart to yours with love,

x Wendy

04 Dec

Stretch and Grow

When was the last time you did something for the first time?

I don’t know about you but this passing year has been one where i’ve well and truly stretched myself out of my comfort zone doing both fun things and also taking risks even through my insides were shaking.  Have you been in that place too, part of you quaking in your boots and the other part excited, body rushing with adrenaline?

It’s all too easy to get set in our ways and say no to doing things because we’ve never done them before and our mind plays tricks on us showing us the worst possible outcome of how something will pan out.  The good news is, in my experience all the worse case scenarios I have projected into doing something new for the first time have never actually happened.

This year i’ve been invited to do many things I have never done before: Appear on Oxford TV (you can see me in action here being interviewed with the lovely Emma-Jane Taylor) I’ve been asked to speak in front of a large group of people (like 500 people which is yet to happen) Bring it on!  and asked to write some content for a friends forthcoming book.  I will admit building a new website and getting to grips with technology and recording meditations has been truly frustrating, confusing and downright annoying but I got there in the end even though I could have honestly given in more than once.

Now so as to get that all important work life balance I put myself and four friends forward to attend learning to play a Djembe drum along with African singing and dancing, it sure was a lot of fun even though we sang the wrong words out of tune and hit the drum drum when everyone else was silent.  We stretched ourselves as a group and the challenge was easier.  We simply laughed at our mistakes and had fun trying.

All of these new opportunities and invitations filled me with fear or concern that i’d get things right but then I thought ‘what the heck’, I may have never done these things before but if I do them for the first time, I can learn from from the experience and from the point of learning, next time I have to do the same things or something similar I will have more knowledge and wisdom as to how best have a positive outcome.

So yes, I felt the fear and did it anyway and I want you to know i’m no different to you, I still have fears though recognise fear get’s in the way of achieving the things which are important to me.   So on that note…will you join me in a stretch or three?

If you could do anything knowing you could not fail, what would you do? 

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What’s the cost if you do nothing to stretch and are you willing to pay that price?

Because I don’t believe in New Years Resolutions instead choosing to believe in stretching myself at every opportunity, I invite you to do the same.

Let’s begin with the power of two:

List two things you would like to do but have been avoiding, then break down these two goals into realistic and achievable steps and from this point (today) begin by making a commitment to yourself to take action until you too stretch and grow.  You will be glad you did.  In fact the future you is already saying c’mon, get your rear in gear, we are going on an adventure.

Feel the fear and do it anyway…it sure feels good!

Let me know how you get on with your journey and if you need a stretch buddy or someone to hold you accountable just make contact at www.wendyfry.com and we will work out a plan…

So  let’s reach two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight…..and breathe….

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Our comfort zone operates as a self protection mechanism and although we say that we want positive change we still stay in this zone, although it might be comfort-
able it can be compared to being trapped inside a cage too frightened to move out of it even if the cage door is open.

Consequently, the love that we search for is often slower to obtain, or there is no
change at all if we stay stuck where we are. It’s as though this invisible comfort zone

 

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is made up of a million voices telling us why we shouldn’t, mustn’t, ought not to, daren’t, don’t want to do whatever it is we say we really want to do.

ARE YOU STAYING IN YOUR COMFORT ZONE?

 

 

Insightful Questions

 

 

  • Has life been consistently knocking you down that as soon as you get

up, you feel as if you’re being pulled back down again?

  • Has it been too scary for you to take risks that could lead you to the

love you have been searching for?

  • Have you been using your past to motivate you or limit you?
  • How long have you been staying in the safety of your comfort zone?

Anything outside of this zone can appear scary, risky or downright dangerous and our survival instincts kick in. Fear and excitement are so similar in the way we expe-
rience the feelings, that we may be uncertain which one we are feeling and so talk ourselves out of doing certain things.   It’s natural to feel apprehensive when trying new things, but unless we take action, nothing will change.

Mistakes, or rather the fear of making mistakes and not getting things 100% right, create a comfort zone.

A comfort zone consists of mental conditioning that may not always be based on
fact and has been made up of our perceptions and the meanings we have placed
on things and people.   If we feel we have taken risks before and those risks have
not worked in our favour, we may be hesitant to take risks again in case it all goes
wrong.

CREATING OUR OWN PRISONS

The truth is, if we stay within the boundaries of the self-imposed walls we build up around ourselves, change won’t happen – we’ll be doing what we always did and getting the same results, feeling stuck, uncertain and unafraid.

By thinking and doing the same things, we get the same results. I don’t really need to tell you that as I know you are already fed up with getting the same results.

 

 

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MOVING ON FROM THE PAST AND CREATING THE FUTURE OF OUR DREAMS

So, it’s time to join me and the hundreds of women I have worked with and form a united army moving on from the past and creating the future of our dreams.  Focus on all that could go right and take those first steps towards achievement.

 

 

 

31 Jul

Trigger Happy!

You’ve probably heard the term ‘Trigger Happy’ without really thinking too much about what it means. If you search the term on various dictionaries it will relate to the use of guns, violence, aggression and hot-headed behaviour.

I’ve been thinking a lot about ‘triggers’ of late and how each of us, whether we are aware of it or not are triggered in various ways by other people, our environment, culture and immediate circle of influence as well as the media, religions and even marketing for food, cars, fancy watches and designer clothes.

We are sensory beings filtering, responding and storing information through our senses of touch, taste, smell, sight and sound. Gut instinct and intuition comes into it too.

So before I go into too much jargon (i’ve been knows to do this at times) i’d like to talk with you about ‘Happy Trigger’s’

I said Happy Triggers, not Happy Tiggers!

Who here knows and loves Tigger from Winnie the Poo?  I thought i’d post a picture of me here in costume, what do you reckon?

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Before I digress…back to happy triggers!

What makes you happy?

  • Waking up at the weekend knowing you haven’t got work
  • Having time to play with your children
  • Eating your favourite meal or snack
  • Gazing at the stars, sunrises or sunsets
  • Meeting your friends
  • Listening to your favourite band
  • Reading a book
  • Seeing your family
  • Being in nature
  • Soaking in a luxurious scented bath 
  • Treating yourself or someone else to a gift
  • Stroking a pet
  • Planting a garden
  • Watching your favourite movie
  • Laying in the sun
  • Playing a sport
  • Singing, acting or dancing
  • Seeing other people happy 

Guaranteed reading through this list you will have been triggered by a word, a thought, a feeling and a memory or series of memories.

When you feel out of kilter, notice what triggered a bad mood, was it something you saw, heard, felt, touched or tasted, or just a sense of gut intuition kicking in?

When you become more aware of your triggers, you don’t have to keep shooting yourself with them, playing the scenario over and over (you know that’s no fun), you can catch your triggers and begin to recognise what you are responding to might have nothing at all to do with what’s going on in the moment and everything to do with something from the past.

Load your thoughts with happiness….

Now for a little ‘home play’, because it’s so much nicer than ‘home work’.  Grab yourself a pen and paper or open up your notes on your phone, pc or tablet and get busy writing down 100 things which make you happy, then when you’re done, write another 100.

And while you’re at it, feel free to sing along Come on Everyone Get Happy!

 

 

22 Jun

Ten Years in the Making

A decade.  Ten years.  A passage in time.  Ten years of hopes and dreams and in betweens…..

When you think of the number 10 what comes to mind?

Do you jump back to the age of ten, think about Ten Pin Bowling, remember your ten times tables, the movie Ten or something else entirely?

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Well, I have a little confession and I got my 10 and 8 muddled up (for those of you who know about cockney rhyming slang, one would say ”I got myself in a two and eight” = state)

Just recently…with much excitement, drum rolling and even celebratory drinks, I shared a post on Facebook proclaiming a anniversary of ten years in my business when in fact it’s only been eight….woops

Maybe the ‘Freudian Slip’ is to blame (an error of speech, memory, internal train of thought or subconscious wish) or perhaps it actually feels like i’ve been doing what I love for longer than I have.   And, well…for those of you who know me i’m never one to miss a chance to celebrate!

So why am I writing this blog?

Firsty my good friend Jayesh suggested I write up my ten (eight years) in the making and secondly i’m reaching out to that part of you who, maybe just a tad could also do with celebrating your successes.

If you were ever hesitant about celebrating and having a bit of self-recognition now you have an excuse, because this blog is encouraging you to do just that…celebrate your wins, big and small.  In fact let’s celebrate right now, you’re here reading this and that in itself is a celebration!

So whether you’ve been doing something new for a day, a week, a month, a year or ten, my message is celebrate your successes, achievements, milestones and greatness, heck let’s start a Mexican wave and see how far across the globe it travels….

I bet if you look back over the last ten years and reflect on what you’ve overcome, the challenges you’ve got through, the problems you’ve resolved and what you’ve achieved you might actually start nodding your head as you read, smiling and saying out loud ‘wow’…..

Before you start chasing your next goal, dream, rainbow or bus, my invitation to you is to stand still (after the Mexican wave move) take a deep breath in and out, roll your shoulders back, stick your chest out and your tongue if you must and take stock on just how far you’ve come…then…and this is the fun part, point to yourself and say ”i’m amazing”, now say it even louder! Say it again and again.  Walk round and say it, do a little dance, jiggle your bottom, hold your head up high…take a bow…salute yourself and give yourself a round of applause. Yay, you rock!

Okay, now you can sit down now…

You are amazing, you’ve been through so much already and I know, right now, wherever you are in achieving the things which are important to you whether it’s learning Spanish, taking dance classes, improving your health, learning to knit or simply stretching yourself out of your comfort zone to be all you can be, there will be a time in the future when you’re having so much fun the concept of time runs away with itself and Julie Andrews style you’ll running around on a hill top pointing at yourself and saying ”i’m amazing”.

So my ten years in the making, albeit eight wouldn’t be possible without the engagement of others.  I love what I do.  It’s true, along the way i’ve fallen down, got back up, tried a new route, asked for help, had to learn a shed load of ‘stuff’, i’ve had some doubts, some fears, plenty of tears and yet…i’m ‘proof in the pudding’ (and I do love pudding)  that what you want to achieve you can!  Step by step with those little and large celebrations along the way, you will get there.  Remember, sometimes you just need to ‘be’, in the moment, taking that bow, recognising you, breathing, living, loving and celebrating you!

When you do what you love and you celebrate your achievements along the way you get more of what you want.  Appreciating the small steps, giant strides and leaps of faith you have taken and will continue to take will soon add up to actualising the dream, fulfilling your ambition, completing a task and well, a celebration or three.  Are you in?

Happiness is not a destination, it is a journey.  Make time to smell the roses along the way. 

Now…

Just for fun, stand up again, put up both hands up in front of you and give me a high ten, you are amazing!

 

05 Jun

What is it you believe?

In recent weeks we’ve discussed:

How our beliefs influence the way we feel and what we choose to do ~

Limiting beliefs and lifetime issues ~

Discovering your limiting beliefs ~

This week’s blog gives you an opportunity to get clear on what it is you believe.

Insightful Questions

Read through the following questions and notice your responses. You might be surprised at how unkind the thoughts you have about yourself really are.

• How many of your thoughts about yourself are critical, blaming, bullying, shaming, ugly, unloving, downright rude and uncaring?

• What do you say to yourself on a regular basis that’s damaging and unkind?

• How often do you project into the future the idea that love and relationships are pointless, that you’re not good enough, slim enough, tall enough, worthy enough, attractive enough, smart enough?

• Would you talk to a best friend or a child the way you talk to and criticise yourself?

• Would you tell that person that they will never amount to anything, that they are useless, unlovable, worthless, stupid, ugly, shameful, inadequate, and pitying?

Chances are, you would not say these things or others like them to another person and so it’s time to stop speaking about yourself in a limiting way. It’s time to stop the war against yourself, it’s time to stop rejecting yourself, time to stop replaying the past, time to stop beating yourself up and playing small and time to get rid of the voice from the past.

Thought Power

It’s time to start loving yourself and giving yourself the time, attention love and care that you deserve. It’s time to listen to and meet your own needs by yourself for yourself.

Our main problems and limiting beliefs, come from the perception of our level of success, love, belonging, self worth, control, security, reality and reason. Getting really honest with yourself about the core beliefs that you may be running like a film or story in your mind, is a very important step in change work. Once we realise that a lot of the stories and movies that we play in our minds are outdated and unhelpful, we know what areas to work on.

Be aware that some core beliefs come from our conditioning whilst growing up. There is no blame here on our caregivers, we were very young when we formed our core beliefs and at the time, these beliefs seemed to be appropriate for us. Core beliefs may be formed based on the following conditions:

• Fear associated with rejection/not being lovable, worthy or approved of

• Fear associated with not meeting expectations, being good enough, adequate, recognised

• Fear associated with criticism, judgement, being made wrong, being told off, being compared

• Fear associated with people giving you attention, unwanted attention, smothering, feeling singled out, harassed, embarrassed

Core beliefs can be likened to a table. At the top of the table is the limiting core belief. This is held up by the table legs which are formed from family conditioning, societal conditioning, emotional events, upset and trauma. Your core beliefs may also have many other beliefs underlying them supporting the core belief.

Remember, there is never any blame. Whatever you discover that shaped your beliefs (if you felt unloved, unimportant, ignored or rejected by a parent or significant other) it doesn’t mean they didn’t love you, it was purely the meaning and belief you placed on an event or series of events and experiences with the knowledge that you had at the time.

We forget as adults that many of the beliefs we formed in childhood are outdated, destructive and are often completely wrong. Working through and having an awareness of the memories that you would like transformed is the start to the road of finding you and finding love.

Joking aside, I would like to remind you of some old, outdated, beliefs that you may have moved on from already:

• Father Christmas
• The Tooth Fairy
• Monsters under the bed
• Fairy tales and other stories

EFT and The Spotlight Process will offer further support on moving on from your limiting beliefs. Everything you need is right here in my first  book Find YOU, Find LOVE, a small price to pay for a major change. What is the cost of holding on to those limiting beliefs?

 

23 May

Limiting Beliefs and Lifetime Issues

In childhood we form many beliefs, in fact childhood represents a huge percentage of our overall life experience.

The experiences we have growing up contribute to our inner dialogue and we may often tell ourselves that we are at fault in some way for whatever went wrong in our early years, even though this assumption was based on false information or a misguided perception.

Creating our own prisons

If you want to back track and read the start of the series of blog posts about limiting beliefs go here

Limiting core beliefs are the driving force in our lives and reflect our deepest vulnerabilities and pain and it’s from the younger part of ourselves that we react from. Often our limiting core beliefs are what distance us from believing we are lovable and open to receiving love. Operating from the negative parts of ourselves, we cannot see the positives and opportunities available to us.

Working through these beliefs will bring more balance to your life and allow you the opportunity for personal transformation. This section supports you in gathering together the negative messages you heard about yourself or others growing up, the abuses, the traumas, and the conflicts. We have all had these kinds of experiences growing up and are affected in different ways. Giving a voice to our feelings and experiences, no matter how old we are now, gives us a new sense of liberation, a sense of empowerment and an opportunity to put the past in the past once and for all.

Discovering limiting beliefs, behaviours, thoughts and emotions

Here is a list of limiting beliefs that you may have formed about yourself, life and love relationships.

Life issues related to core beliefs come from the perception of success, love, belonging, self worth, control, security, reality and reason.

Core beliefs often grow stronger rather than weaker (as we are filtering for perceived evidence to back up the false belief)

Practical Exercise (10 minutes)

Work through this list and record which limiting beliefs are true for you:

I’m unlovable

I can’t do it

I’m flawed/imperfect

I’m unwanted

I’m different

I Don’t matter

I’m bad I’m unforgivable

I must be approved of

Something bad will happen

Something must change for me to be ok

I’m powerless

The world is dangerous

I’m helpless

Life is hopeless

People take advantage

I must be perfect

I must be in control

I don’t belong

I’m not good enough

I can’t trust anyone

I’m a failure

I’m insignificant

I’m shameful

I’m a mistake

I’m helpless

I’m not special enough

I’m invisible

I’m guilty

I’m not interesting

I’m unworthy

I’m undeserving

I’m worthless

I’m incapable

I’m misunderstood

I’m abandoned

I will be betrayed

I’m unproductive

I’m unattractive

I’m Incompetent

I’m a failure

I’m a victim

I’m a burden

I’m dumb

I’m used

I’m alone

I’m bad

I’m guilty

I’m sinful

I’m confused

I’m trapped

I’m unlovable

I’m powerless

I’m inferior

I’m separated from God

I’m un-teachable

I’m vulnerable

I’m stupid

I’m weak I can’t get it right

I’m vulnerable

I’m unsuccessful

I’m ugly

I can’t say no

I can’t stand up for myself

I don’t belong

I should not be here at all

I’m afraid

I’m fat

I’m unattractive

I’m left out I don’t deserve to be loved

Global Issues

Global issues relate to people who you may have had negative experiences with in your life and who have contributed negatively to your concept and beliefs about yourself:
Mother/Father Religious Institutions

Societal influence Brothers/Sisters

Extended family/step family

Teachers/School/College

Other relationships

The good news is, beliefs aren’t permanent and can be changed

Beliefs are nothing more than empowering or limiting thoughts. The beliefs we choose to give our attention to, guide our actions, behaviours and circumstances. Our core beliefs were developed at a time when we were children, when we had minimal ability to reason and think rationally for ourselves. The beliefs that were handed down to us were formed by our parents, mentors, teachers, environment and culture.

Core beliefs form the picture we paint of ourselves, a portrait of our own abilities, our worth, flaws, strengths and our relationships with others and with the world. Our beliefs establish the limits of what we think we can, or can’t, achieve.

We behave in ways consistent with our beliefs and values. Our beliefs impact on much of what we do, the thoughts we think, our feelings and our physical symptoms. We delete, distort and generalise information by forming an intricate filter of opinions, emotions and memories and we only notice what we think supports the existing belief.

Working through your limiting beliefs may bring up a range of emotions.  Please go to www.wendyfry.com/book/resources and download your free EFT Tapping Chart and EFT Process to work through any emotions associated with these limiting beliefs.  If you need any further support in working 1-2-1 please do make contact via my website.

Changing your beliefs puts you back in control of living your life with passion and purpose!

16 May

Discover Your Limiting Beliefs

What is a limiting belief?

A limiting belief is a mental block stored in your mind which limits your ability to achieve any goals you may set for yourself. A limiting belief acts as a barrier stopping you from achieving the success you desire and deserve, not only connected with love and relationships but in fact, with many other aspects of your life.

You will unconsciously organise your actions and behaviour depending on your beliefs, your beliefs are guiding principles and maps of how you make sense of the world. Some of your beliefs are not true and are simply thoughts that lead to your learnt behaviour and responses to people and events.

A limiting belief is a repetitive, habitual thought that you may think over and over and over again and it is my intention to guide you to discover what your negative beliefs and blocks to love and relationships might be.

Until you question your limiting beliefs, you may think that they are true and for this reason often your beliefs may come true, your limiting beliefs may act as self fulfilling prophecies even if the thought is undesirable.

Your limiting beliefs create your perception, through self talk and the internal dialogue that you run inside your head. You can talk yourself into doing or not doing something and what you believe influences your behaviour and performance.

You may find yourself staying in the safety of your comfort zone if a belief creates F E A R (False Evidence Appearing Real).

Look carefully and you will see that a limiting belief is nothing more than a thought that you believe to be true. The word ‘beLIEf’ itself includes the word LIE and until we explore our beliefs, perceptions and judgments, we will not be aware of what lies we have been telling ourselves about love and relationships that are no longer helpful to us.

The truth is we get so comfortable with our beliefs

As with judgements, limiting beliefs are nothing but patterns of thoughts. Just because your experiences in the past may have been true, it does not necessarily follow that they will continue to be true. You may find yourself building up walls of protection, trying to keep yourself safe from disappointment and heartache when in fact, it is these very walls that confine you and may stop you from having amazing relationships with yourself and others.

The conversations that you have inside your own mind may build on existing limiting beliefs, as you find yourself replaying the limiting beliefs over and over. Limiting beliefs can affect every part of your life, your work, your well being, your relationships and it is the beliefs we form about love in our early years, which impacts our lives in later years.

The limiting beliefs you have formed may be based on old fears, old hurts or old stories that have no relevance in the present moment. You may be blocked within certain areas of your life because of the beliefs that you are running, these beliefs do not just influence how positive or negative a relationship will be, our limiting beliefs impact all areas of our lives. Those beliefs will collapse the moment that you stop feeding the limiting belief and you can achieve this through the use of EFT and The Spotlight Process.

These processes will be shared in my blogs across the coming weeks ahead.

Limits exist only in your mind!

If waiting to learn more about your limiting beliefs seems like torture you can read more about how to change them here

21 Apr

Why doing what you love is good for you

Whether it’s reaching a high and experiencing a surge of endorphins at the end of running, raising money for charity, organising an event for friends, fishing, rambling or simply getting your hands dirty as you plant up your Spring tubs, doing what you love has so many health benefits.

Reduction in stress and anxiety, emotional and physical health improvement, increased self esteem and a more positive attitude are the only side effects of doing more of what you love…it makes sense, yes?

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  • When was the last time you made time for you to do whatever you wanted without the need for anyone elses approval, permission or judgement?

 

  • How often do you meet up with your best friends for those all important girly  chats and hugs or for an evening of boys banter over a pint or a round of golf? 

 

  • What sets your heart alight, is it creating some artwork, singing, amateur dramatics, writing prose, dancing or something else and when was the last time you did that?

Doing what you love may or may not cost money.

Most of the things I love are free such as walking in nature, watching my friends children play, writing, digging in the garden, spending time with friends over a cuppa or simply watching the sky.  There is so much you can do to increase daily happiness when you make time for it.

January is a classic for New Year’s Resolutions, though I like to set new goals for myself in the Spring.  Perhaps you’d care to join me in doing more of what you love?

Spring is a time of new birth, new beginnings, a time for flourishing, living and loving.

What can you do today that your future self will thank you for?

Dance like nobody’s watching

Love like you’ve never been hurt

Sing like nobody’s listening

Live like heaven on earth 

Verse by William Perky

If you need more positivity in your life and want to say yes to you, you might like to invest in yourself and make the rest of your life the best of your life right here