Many people say ‘you can’t choose your family but you can choose your friends’ so this weeks blog is all about friendships and indeed how friendships bring love and laughter into our lives.
Think back over the years, right back to childhood and remember the various friendships that you’ve made.
Perhaps you are still friends with people from your primary years, childhood sweethearts or even neighbours that you grew up with?
I was talking to a client recently who said that she has different friends for different things. This makes absolute sense! If you love bungee jumping, white water rafting and adrenalin sports and your girlfriends don’t it’s time to perhaps consider finding ‘your tribe’.
A tribe is a group of people who often share the same values, beliefs, common goals and who are supportive to you.
- Who do you have in your tribe right now?
- What do you love the most about these friendships?
- How do the people who are in your tribe provide you with what you need?
- What do you offer to these connections and friendships that your tribe enjoys receiving?
- How does having this connection bring fulfilment to your life?
Perhaps you are a parent and enjoy coffee mornings after you’ve dropped your children off to school.
Maybe you tend to hang out with work colleagues after work for a drink or bite to eat.
What groups and societies do you belong to where like minded souls gather?
Who do you enjoy being with the most?
How are you spending your spare time?
Are you doing enough of what makes you happy?
If you don’t have the equivalent of a tribe I can guarantee to you that once you get clear about how you like to spend your time you can either set up your own tribe or find out where there are tribes already set up doing what you love.
So if it’s walking, photography, arts and crafts, Zumba, train spotting, candle making, an interest in Dr Who, music, dance, ladies who lunch, dating sites, Reiki shares, choirs, tap dancing, flying light aircraft, running groups or writing blogs to connect others together. There is someone just like you waiting to meet you!
My friends consist of a group of girls (well women now) that I have know for over 20 years, we meet for coffees, meals cinema trips, movie nights in, clubbing on the odd occasion (though now I no longer dance on tables they still tease me with the tales of it!) We call each other The HOGS (Girlfriends With Hearts of Gold)
We have a good old gossip, laugh hysterically and we are also there with a listening ear when personal health or family issues come up.
I have other tribes for the spiritual aspect of my work who help me to develop both personally and professionally. These are other therapists, people who are involved in holistic health care who share the same skills as myself who are Hypnotherapists, EFT and Future Life Progression Practitioners, Life Coaches, Speakers and trainers.
If you feel you’re lacking in the friendship department or have had difficult friendships as many do, it’s never too late to move on from the past and to make new friends or work towards improving current relationships and friendships.
Much of my work covers relationships with others as well as the relationship that we all have with ourselves.
I work with individuals, couples, families and friends, helping each person to understand their unique beliefs about friendships and relationships. We explore communication styles and how to ask assertively for what we need in that relationship or friendship.
Our early relationships often shape our current ones and we can also explore how the past may influence the future addressing any misunderstandings about love, relationships and friendships.
If you’d like some help in making closer relationship connections with family, friends or indeed a new tribe and improving your confidence to take the actions to meet others who would love to meet you. Please do make contact Here
I offer a range of free resources that you might like to use in your own time, download them at www.wendyfry.com
Here’s to making a connection with like-minded people because friends matter!
Wendy Fry Emotional Health, Love & Relationship Consultant, Author of Find YOU, Find LOVE helping you to get to the heart of you love and relationship problems