Your mind is amazing!
It’s a complete storehouse of information that you have gathered throughout your life from birth to now.
We store information through our senses (sight, sound, taste, smell and through feelings)
Our minds can be compared to enormous filing cabinets or hard drives storing various movies that contain the good, bad and ugly experiences from out pasts.
Just imagine your mind as this enormous warehouse storing your own personal past.
What movies do you have archived away?
Which movies bring up fear, anger, sadness, bitterness and pain, putting you in a state of dis-ease?
These films are like taped conversations playing over in your head or an endless series of thoughts, feelings and emotions moving through you.
Although an event happened in the past we might re-live it a thousand times over by thinking about it, re-experiencing it like it was actually happening all over again.
• Which personal movies of yours are on constant replay?
• How often do you wake up and go to sleep with an old movie still running?
• How does this affect you emotionally and physically?
• What do you want instead?
These movies often represent a constant flow of negative experiences that we’ve been through (the voice of our inner critic/voice of doom, like a parasite that eats away at us from the inside and a voice we start to believe in and feelings that we think are real).
We replay over and over the same movies and the same story, until story becomes engrained.
The movie or inner story then becomes a default behaviour that we respond to when presented with a situation that is like one we have experienced before and triggers off what we believe to be true.
Most of what we react to has very little to do with a new experience and everything to do with past experiences (old movies)
What a liberation to realise that ‘the voice in my head’ is not who I am. ‘Who am I, then? The One who sees that – Eckhart Tolle
Pardon my language here, though I feel it needs to be said. What we allow into our minds and what we play over and over really does leave us feeling f**ked at times.
Think back to the past and remember a time when you spent all day worrying over something. Perhaps you experienced sleepless nights and upset stomach? Were you, smoking or drinking too much to help you cope?
We are our own worst enemies, re-living arguments from decades ago, complaining about the weather, our partners, the rate of inflation, the youngsters of today, the state of the health service, our fears for the future….I’m exhausted just typing this up and this is what our thoughts can do to us.
We cling onto negative feelings, thoughts and emotions not realising that it’s us that suffers.
We become addicted to talking about all the things wrong with life seldom coming up for air.
- How often do you feel overwhelmed emotionally?
- What happens to your physical body when your thought time is filled up with worrying thoughts?
- What are your energy levels like when your focus is on what’s wrong going wrong for you?
- What happens to your sleep pattern?
- How is your daily diet and digestion affected?
- What do you actually gain by going over and over events from the past, ranting, complaining, moaning and perhaps even nagging?
If you want a happier life, more connected relationships, greater confidence and good health read on.
Unless we gain control over our minds we really will be F****d!
Remember, you are not your thoughts!
In order to change the world, you have to get your head together first – Jimi hendrix
Practical Exercise – Mind Dump: Freeing the mind one thought at a time
Find yourself a note book or better still a lovely big pad of A4 paper and grab yourself a pen. You’re literally going to dump out what’s in your mind freehand.
There’s nothing more liberating than setting yourself free from the ‘poop’ from the past that you’ve been holding onto.
For this mind dump activity, I suggest that you do it first thing in the morning, last thing at night and whenever you feel emotionally overwhelmed.
If you’re dumping a lot that’s good – better out than in!
There’s nothing complicated about the activity you simply write out what’s on your mind un-censored. Let rip and have a good old rant on paper, really say what you want to say, nothing is banned here, only you will see it.
You may have several topics that you write about such as people or outside circumstances that are causing you stress.
Write about your worries, concerns, fears, doubts, injustices, anxieties, frustrations, uncertainties etc.
Just write what comes into your head and allow yourself the freedom to voice your thoughts.
Write until you can no longer think of what to write. Get it all out!
The more frequently you do the mind dump exercise the less you will find you have to think about and in turn the less you will have to write.
You will feel better for doing this exercise on a regular basis and feeing your mind.
No one else has had to hear your rants, you haven’t gone into the same story over and over in the day telling everyone you know what you’re going through, making them feel f****d too, you simply write and get it all out freely and easily.
If you need to cry do, get some extra soft tissues and make sure to give yourself some TLC (Tender Loving Care) as you work through freeing your mind.
Things can only get better from here on in.
The primary cause of our unhappiness is never the situation but the thought about it –Eckhart Tolle
The Past is Over and You Have Your Whole Life Ahead of You
When we begin to realise that the past is over and it’s purely our thinking keeping it alive, we gain a sense of freedom.
No one ‘thinks us’.
We wake up and realise that we do in fact have ownership over of the power of our own minds and that we can choose how we react and respond to life’s ups and downs.
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