What is it that you have been worrying about?
Who or what has been taking up your thought time?
How often does ‘not knowing’ the result of something and ‘uncertainty’ throw you off balance?
What outcome do you focus on when what you want to know about something which isn’t yet known?
What percentage of your thoughts are positive?
It’s natural for our minds to think and prepare us for the worst case scenario when we are faced with making choices. It tries to protect us from danger and harm.
Our animalistic’ fight and flight’ mechanisms kick in and sometimes we may also experience the freeze response and we are trapped inside our own thinking, too frightened to move.
In fact, what we create in our minds isn’t actual reality, it’s a story that we make up about what we think will happen.
I bet half of the things you’ve worried about from birth to now haven’t even happened!
Fear disables. It stops you from growing, advancing, progressing and achieving!
Don’t let your fear based thinking get in your way, your thoughts can be changed!
I personally now tell fear to ”go and do one!” I’m too busy thinking about what else IS possible!
FEAR = False Evidence Appearing Real
FEAR = Feeling Excited And Ready!
Which one are you?
Fear and Excitement are often felt in the gut (solar Plexus). Don’t confuse your fear with excitement, use the energy of excitement to motivate you into achieving positive outcomes for yourself.
I personally love writing happy ending stories and getting into the mindset of what is possible…
From this moment on , begin to pay attention to your thoughts….
Are you thinking ‘worse case nightmare’ or ‘best possible dream’ when your mind runs riot around an unknown outcome?
My best advice is to focus on what you want, not what you don’t want!
Notice how your energy, passion and zest for life, love, health and happiness improve simply by changing your thoughts.
Over a year ago I decided to write my first book
Find YOU, Find LOVE
Back then nothing was certain!
I’d never written a book before, I didn’t know how to do it, I knew zero about publishing, marketing a book let alone know how to balance my time to write it.
I had to learn things I never knew. I had to work through some limiting beliefs about my book ‘being good enough’, I had to bring up old skeletons from my cupboard and work through them, I had to set boundaries, I had to learn a heap load of ‘stuff’ . I had to stretch myself beyond what I thought was possible for me and I’m still stretching as we speak right now!
I focused on the positive outcome of what I wanted to achieve!
My goal was and still is to get my book out to as many people as possible who need help with love and relationships and understanding the significant role they play in creating happy outcomes for themselves.
Part of my not knowing became clearer when I chunked down all that I had to do. I used what seemed close to a million post it notes to form the structure and chapters of my book.
I asked for help and hired the right people to help me. I surrounded myself with people who believed in me and also had to turn the ‘self belief’ notch right up as high as it would go.
Every day for 6 months I got up earlier, I wrote every day, I laughed, I cried, I used EFT Tapping to get me past the blocks, fears, doubts and insecurities and came out the other side with a big grin on my face when I opened my fist copies of Find YOU, Find LOVE
You can watch me here at the Book Opening so wish I’d done my hair! But hey ho, this is me, opening the books as soon as they arrived!
Today everything is certain!
Find YOU, Find LOVE is featured in Today’s Daily Express 20th July 2015
‘ Change Your Life While Relaxing on a Sunbed’
A summer special written and shared by the lovely Monica Cafferky with much gratitude.
This achievement was made by taking my own advice…
Take action every day in the direction of your dreams ~
When nothing is certain, everything is possible!
I’m no different to you. I’ve had my doubts, fears, insecurities and experiences from the past that I don’t wish to repeat. I simply used my fears as stepping stones to achieve the things that are important to me.
What action, thought or deed can you make today that even though nothing is certain, everything is possible?
If you’d like to work with me to explore what else is possible for you please do make contact
From my heart to yours, with love