30 Jun

The Past is Over


The past is over. It’s gone. It’s history. Only your thoughts keep the past alive.  It’s only your thinking and the energy connected to this experience that remains not the actual experience itself.

• What would it be like for you to move on from the past?
• How would your life change?
• What opportunities might come your way?
• What about love?
• What about relationships?
• How might your relationships be different if you chose right now to put the past behind you?

You have the power to change your thoughts and your relationships. You are the driving force to use your past to work for you not against you. It’s time to take a breath, time to stand still, time to spill out your monkey mind and discard the thoughts which no longer serve you and only put back in the thoughts that make you feel good. It’s time to be who you always were and just forgot about. It’s time for love, yes love, all of that wonderful love that you have been seeking and searching for is inside you, and it was just buried under that tangled ball of past negative thinking. You are going to re-discover love with the absence of fear.
It’s time to stop shining the light on the past because that’s not where the future is.

My forthcoming book Find YOU, Find LOVE, will take you through The Spotlight Process, a unique tool that I have developed to support you to the heart of your love and relationship issues.

Find You, Find Love is now available on pre-order  http://www.amazon.co.uk/Find-You-Love-heart-relationships/dp/1910202460/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1401990225&sr=8-1&keywords=find+you+find+love+wendy+fry

The Past is Over

23 Jun

Thought Power

The first step to understanding your thoughts, feelings, emotions and behaviours is to monitor your self-talk.  Becoming aware of the constant stream of internal chatter and noticing what you say to yourself and how you say it is the first step in awareness and from that point you can literally catch your thoughts and change them to those which are more positive.

Spend time noticing the content of the chatter using The Spotlight Process and explore where your thinking it is focused (past, present or future?) This is not about criticising yourself for thinking in a self limiting way or to berate yourself, the exercise is designed for you to be very gentle and loving with yourself when you go into the space of just noticing your thinking without attaching any label

In my forthcoming book Find YOU, Find LOVE I share with you The Spotlight Process a unique technique that I have developed that helps you to identify how to get to the heart of your love and relationship problems.  The technique is not about criticising yourself for thinking in a self limiting way or to berate yourself, the exercise is designed for you to be very gentle and loving with yourself when you go into the space of just noticing your thinking without attaching any label to it that it’s good or bad. Not judging yourself as right or wrong just noticing the content of your thoughts the same way you might notice clouds passing by on a blue sky, just noticing them, and being aware of the thoughts and if they stem from past, present or future.

Over time and with loving kindness you will be able to reassure yourself that you are in fact just having thoughts, whatever the content of the thought, that’s all it is, just a thought that you are creating in your mind that causes an energetic response in your body.  If the thought is distressing in any way and causes you to experience negative emotions and feelings (energy) then remind yourself gently of what you were thinking about that has caused an energy surge and become aware that it’s just a thought and your energy shifting and changing.

The Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) can be applied to any distressing thoughts to bring your energy back into alignment.  This technique and the various ways of applying EFT to your love and relationship problems are featured in the book. Noticing your thoughts is a habit that will serve you well and applying EFT to resolve the emotional charge of any distressing thoughts and emotions will shift and transform your energetic vibration and your life.

Gently reminding yourself, as and when you have a negative emotional response that your thoughts are not always fact and often are a replay of an old story and an old energetic response to the past or fears projected into the future.

Spending time thinking about your thoughts may not be something you normally do though unless you challenge and correct the negative internal voice it may continue to nag at you in unhelpful ways keeping you back from finding you and finding love.


Thought Power

15 Jun

Are You Stuck in the Past?

Find YOU, Find LOVE, my forthcoming book will guide you through The Spotlight Process helping you to work out what is stopping you from achieving the love and relationships that you desire.spotlight process 1A

Where have you been shining your light? Do you spend a lot of time thinking about the past? Are you constantly evaluating, judging and filtering for all the things that could go wrong for you in the future instead of all the endless possibilities available to you by living in the moment?

It’s time to think about where you have been targeting your light. It’s time to examine what has shown up, time to explore what needs to be cleared and resolved and from that point once you have cleared the past your light will offer a ray of hope bringing clarity and brightness to your future, sparkle and dazzle to your every day and most of all a warm glow of love from deep in the heart of you.

If you have been directing your light beam towards the pain and disappointments from the past, this is what you will see. If you have been shining your light on failed relationships and lack of love, this is what you may attract in the future. If you have been pointing the light on being alone, lonely and loneliness this only magnifies the feelings associated with being alone. Whatever you shine the light on it multiplies and grows so shine it wisely. It’s time to conserve energy and really stop and think about how your energy and light may be drained when you focus on lack rather than possibility.

When you are ready to direct your beam to a positive future your focus will bring to mind all that is possible, all that is achievable and all that is attainable. Your sunbeam of light will bring hope, create joy and illuminate the potential getting to the heart of love and relationships in far easier ways than you even imagined. You will have everything you need inside the pages of  Find YOU, Find LOVE available on amazon will guide you  to get to the heart of love and relationships.


09 Jun

How do I get to love?

Creating loving relationships comes from loving yourself first. Your outer world will mirror back to you your inner world. What you believe about yourself in positive or negative terms will attract itself towards you. When you are more tender and loving towards yourself, you will have reflected back to you boundless opportunities for love.

You have an opportunity right now to learn from the past and to work towards treating yourself differently, learning to respect, love and honour yourself completely. It’s time to start appreciating and acknowledging yourself for who and what you are.  Any time you come away from your truth, your wholeness, your centre and lose sight of your greatness and your lovability gently forgive yourself and go back to treating yourself with love, respect and care. When you slip back into old behaviours of self criticism, self judgement and harshness think about what was it that made you act in an un-loving way towards yourself and be aware of any thoughts, words and actions that you expressed towards yourself that were hard hearted and insensitive.

When you learn to be more loving and considerate to yourself first and foremost , the inner mirror reflects to the outer world that you are happy, content and already filled with love and this is what will show up for you…even more love!

Repeat after me ”TODAY I THINK AND SPEAK LOVINGLY ABOUT MYSELF AND OTHERS” and notice what changes

This excerpt is taken from my forthcoming book Find YOU, Find LOVE, now available on amazon http://www.amazon.co.uk/Find-You-Love-heart-relationships/dp/1910202460/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1401990225&sr=8-1&keywords=find+you+find+love+wendy+fry

today i think and speaklovingly

02 Jun

Standing in the Spotlight of Love

Seeing yourself through the eyes of love every day is a wonderful exercise to practice.  Complete the statements below either by writing out or speaking them out loud.  They will set you up for the day ahead and put you in a positive frame of mind, guiding your thoughts to those which are kind and loving.

  • When I look through the eyes of love how do I choose to see myself physically today?
  • When I feel from the heart of love, how can I be more loving to myself today?
  • When I use my inner wisdom, what thoughts can I choose to think about myself that are more loving?
  • When I see the love and beauty all around me I start to notice…
  • When I focus on all that is possible for me I …
  • Today, I realise that when I choose love I…
  • Today, tomorrow and the next day I commit to…
  • Now and for always I…
  • I believe that …

This excerpt is taken from my forthcoming book Find YOU, Find LOVE which features a unique technique called The Spotlight Process which I have developed for you so that you can get to the heart of your love and relationship problems