09 Oct

Get in the ‘Write’ Frame of Mind

Hypnosis for Authors, Writers and Bloggers

An authors journey can be compared to a roller coaster ride.  A vulnerable and lonely one. When you have an inner battle about sharing your message and being seen as an author you may find yourself coming up with hundreds of reasons why you can’t or shouldn’t write.  Self-doubt, criticism and perceived judgement can often be the order of the day along with writer’s block, but it doesn’t have to be that way. 

Get in the ‘Write’ Frame of Mind – Hypnosis for Authors, Writers and Bloggers

I reach out from my heart to yours to share what I’ve learnt in the past twenty years as a therapist and writing coach to fast track you into transforming your limiting beliefs and personal blocks to writing.  What’s the best that can happen when you achieve the author success you deserve?

These eleven guided hypnotic audio recordings work with you subconsciously to support you in being free from overwhelming emotions on your writer’s journey.

Emotional Calm

Worn out with being at the mercy of your emotions, sick and tired of feeling sick and tired? Ready to experience more fun and joy in your life? This emotional calmness audio will provide you with feeling freedom from your overwhelming emotions, allowing you to attain emotional calmness in any situation wherever you are.  It will support you to enjoy the process of writing and expressing your words of wisdom when you’re at your best.

Fear Release

When fear becomes destructive, it stops you from achieving the things in life which are important to you. As a writer fear can stop us in our tracks, never again to pick up our pens or get into the writing seat.  Whether it’s a desire for happier relationships, improved health and emotional well-being or simply living a more abundant life fear has a lot to answer to when it gets in the way of writing with ease. This guided audio will support you in letting go of what’s been weighing you down and moving past your past and enabling you to create for yourself a happier future.

Negative Memory Release

Fed up with reliving experiences from the past over and over? How often are you overwhelmed by your emotions or other people’s? Whatever it is that’s stopping you from living a joy-filled life and writing from your heart this guided audio will support you in detaching from anger, anxiety, guilt, shame and all those negative limiting beliefs holding you back from being in writers flow. Begin today, take leave your past in the past and continue life’s journey in a more positive, happy, confident and content frame of mind where you can share your authentic message with ease.

Anger Release

Learn the art of controlling your anger with this guided recording which will enable you to heal at the deepest level and share your truth succinctly. Anger is a healthy emotion if used wisely and this guided audio will help you to release unresolved anger enabling you to write from your heart. Anger hurts you more so than anyone else; it eats away at us and robs us of valuable time and energy. Listen to this audio to release past and current anger. Set yourself free and get into writing flow free today.

Self-Belief

Whatever your struggles, doubts or insecurities about writing and becoming an author this guided meditation leads you to experience feelings of calm, relaxation and inner peace wherever you are in your writer’s journey. When you connect with the stillness within you can shut out all negative influences from entering your life. Today is the first day of the rest of your life and I know your future self will benefit from increased self-belief. What are you waiting for? Act now. Use this audio daily to improve your self-belief and confidence as a writer.

Saying Goodbye

Losing someone we love and care about whether through a relationship break up or death is often one of the most difficult things we must go through as writers losses such as this may stop us writing left unaddressed.   This guided audio is ideal if you want to come to terms with a relationship ending or indeed finding a way to say goodbye to a loved one who has passed away. Allow yourself to grieve fully the emotions within and gain acceptance of what has come to pass. 

Forgiveness

We all experience negative life events, situations and people. Often, part of us festers over injustice or perceived wrongdoing holding on to what happened as a form of self-protection and avoidance of being emotionally or physically hurt again.  The trouble is the ‘good stuff’ in life doesn’t have a chance of getting through the barriers we have put up when the need for protection get’s out of control. This guided audio leads you to a place where you can draw a line under your past, supporting you to move forward to create a life free from the dis-ease which resides within.

Guilt Release

Guilt left unaddressed has a way of growing inside.  It stops us living in the present and keeps us stuck in the past and most definitely gets in the way of writing.  Holding onto guilt not only hurts you, but it also stops you living a healthier and happier life. Use this guided audio to let go of wherever it is you have been holding onto.  End the pain and misery today to get down to the business of writing.  Making a mistake or a judgement error is part of life’s learning.  By releasing guilt you are free to advance and get into the writing flow.

Healing the Inner Child

Within you lies an ‘Inner Child’ with unmet needs, hopes and dreams. A child who may have experienced a lack of love, affection, acceptance, praise, or being valued or accepted. You and your inner child have been waiting for a long time to feel heard, supported, encouraged and loved unconditionally and this beautiful guided audio will support you in healing the hurt within, setting your inner child free to live life with a sense of fun and curiosity. Don’t put off until tomorrow what you could do today, your inner child will be grateful to you.  Use this audio to give voice to the part of you who’s been playing small as yet who has been too afraid to speak up.

Rebuilding Trust

Do you have trust issues? Limiting beliefs about yourself or others? Scared of being hurt, let, down, disappointed or rejected as an author, writer or blogger? You are not alone. If you’ve lost that loving and fallen out of love with yourself, your book and writing this guided audio is designed specifically for you to connect with that part of you who wants to love and be loved.  The part of you who wants acceptance, praise and success.  The part of you who wants to trust again and is unsure where to start. This beautiful recording will guide you to a place of understanding and will offer you hope for the future as an author.

Back to the Womb

Writing a book can be compared to ‘birthing a book’ and requires nurturing, time and care.  This delightful guided audio takes you back to experience connection with your birth mother bringing you together to bond and to receive her love and nurturance regardless of the relationship with your mother now. This audio will guide you back home to you, connecting you with a never-ending fountain of love within so you are truly free to write from your heart. When we feel ‘at home’ within ourselves and accept ourselves and experiences as they are and have been, writing flow improves.

The series of audio’s retail at £9.99 each.  The full series of eleven audio’s to keep and enjoy whenever you wish to are £57

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I look forward to supporting you and guiding you on your writer’s journey to Write from Your Heart! 

 

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The recordings are intended for your personal listening only.  All audios are copyrighted by intellectual property which means they should not be shared with any third party or copied in any way.  Thank you for your understanding and acceptance of this agreement. ​ I make no medical or psychological claims regarding these meditations.  If you are suffering from a medical or psychological condition, please seek professional help from your GP or physician. ​ As the listener, you are accepting full responsibility and accountability for any life changes that occur as a result of listening to these audio recordings.  Do not operate machinery or drive while listening to these audios.  Ideally, you will be seated or laying down in a relaxing setting. ​ Copyright © 2019 Wendy Fry. All rights reserved

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01 Oct

Let Go With Love

We can learn a lot from nature along with the change of seasons and ask ourselves ”What do I need to let go of?”

It’s all too easy at this time of year to get down about the seasons changing and to realise nearly a whole year has passed since we set those New Year Resolutions, yet to come to pass.

Trees don’t give a second thought to letting go of leaves, nor does the wind blowing against us as we hurry through our days. The rain can be relentless as can life challenges and yet, the sun is still there behind the clouds when we look for it.

As we move into a new season, what’s the best way for you to move forward in the direction of your dreams?

Intuitively what do you know you need to move on from so when Spring comes you can bloom into your fullness?

Write it down. Record what’s holding you back. Let it go.

Every ending is an opportunity for a new beginning.

www.wendyfry.com Supporting you to write from your heart and live your life on purpose.

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12 Aug

Real Life

Have you heard the saying ‘’what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger?’’ 

Real-life isn’t always kind.  Anyone of us may experience a setback, an overwhelming challenge or something which takes us off the course of action we had planned.  No one is infallible to ‘real life.’ 

You can read about some of the automatic negative and overwhelming thoughts we may each experience when the ‘poop hits the fan’ adding  fuel to the fire right here.

In times of stress, in my life experience as a coach and mentor I’ve listened to people shout ‘’Life Sucks,’’ and ‘’Stop the ride I want to get off’’ or worse still” I can’t take it anymore.” The information shared here will support you in exploring your thinking in relation to life’s stressors and to question is life really as bad as you think it to be.  

All those worries, fears and imaginings.  How much of that mountain of stress came true?  All that anxiety you put yourself through – for what?  Time wasted worrying about ‘what if’ this, that or the other happens when there is no evidence it will come true except in your thinking?

So – over to you.  Let’s go there, let’s address ‘real life.’ Take my hand if you need to, I got my big girl panties on and we can do this okay? 

What’s your catchphrase when life takes you down and the going gets tough?

Write about a time in your life when you were screaming your little head off and at the end of your tether.

Perhaps right now, you’re dealing with issues you hadn’t foreseen, and the pressure is building up – write about it, please.   You can thank me for being pushy later… 

Write about your experiences freehand in a journal express what it feels like to be living real life when it’s in its most raw form.  

What have you had enough of? 

What keeps you awake at night?

Write that stull down before you go to sleep! So, you can actually, yes sleep. Makes sense, right? 

Journaling has considerable positive health benefits.  Emotional, physical and mental health can all be improved through writing, so much so my third book ‘Write from Your Heart-Discover your authentic voice through journaling’ due for release in 2020 is dedicated to this subject.  If you can’t wait that long to get the facts, contact me here and let’s get the party started. 

In addition to writing about life’s challenges as and when they hit, it will also support you to write about your inner strengths.  Resilience.  Attitude and personal ability detailing how you moved beyond past problems and what you did move through life being a b*tch.  

For every problem there is a solution.  I believe you will find it.  I do, I believe in you.  Can you go there with me and believe this for yourself? 

Did you know, you can even write words of encouragement from your ‘future self’ to the you that’s sitting there reading this blog post right now?  It’s easy to write this way, try it and see.  The you who has moved beyond today’s challenges will love to hear the ‘future you’ s loving, nurturing and understanding voice of the heart. 

What reassuring words do you need to hear right now?  Write them down. 

Everything will be okay in the end…  

Where you’re at right now isn’t the end.  It’s a phase you are going through.  This too will come to pass. 

Life is precious and we are truly blessed to be here.  

We may forget at times to enjoy life and find happiness no matter how small when everything seems overwhelming. 

Life is worth celebrating when we stop to pause.

Take a moment.  Join me right now.  Stop.  Slow your breathing down.   Take nice, deep and easy breaths in and out, again.  Repeat.  Notice you are still breathing – amazing isn’t it.  

You are here right now.   It’s okay.  You’re going to be okay.

Give thanks to you.  A moment of self-appreciation.  A pat on the back.  A smile of acknowledgement.  After all, look how far you’ve come.  You are amazing.

Living to Tell the Tale

  • What’s your journey, what have you overcome despite all odds?
  • What makes you personally grateful to have the life you are now living?
  • How did you get this far?
  • What would be your best advice to someone who has gone through your own experience?
  • What’s your new motto for life in hindsight of what you’ve learnt and overcome? 

Mine is’ ‘Bring it on.  What’s the best that can happen?’’ 

When you write from your heart freely by handwriting in and of itself can be cathartic, energising, motivating and inspiring so you can get on with the ‘busyness’ of life. 

” A problem shared is a problem halved,” so says ‘the old wives’ tale.’  The truth of it is, if there really is no one to listen to what you have to share your writing journal will always be there for you, ready to support you with a listening ear. 

I believe we are all natural storytellers and have the ability to write and speak from the heart and although this blog is aimed at writers and aspiring authors any of the articles and exercises shared within my blog pages can be adapted to  suit your personal situation and real life.

On the subject of life and writing.  If it really does get too much to handle and the going gets tough you can contact me here to support you in getting to the heart of the matter.  Offering tailored solutions, support programmes, VIP Days and writing retreats to support you with everyday problems and matters of the heart.

 

 

 

 

 

 

09 Aug

Your Words Changed My Life

Words have the power to harm, hurt, heal and transform.  How will you use yours?

Words can make us or break us.  Lift us up or tear us down.   Bring us joy and last our whole life long. 

What words spoken by another do you carry around with you today which are echoes from words said in bitterness, rage or anger?  

What words do you remember which made your heart sing? 

Each of us has an inspiring message to share.  A unique voice waiting to be heard.  Many say in a small and childlike voice ”if only I were brave enough.”

What aren’t you saying which needs to be expressed either by talking it through or journaling? 

The words trapped inside once released can be transformational.  Pivotal.  Life-changing and lifesaving.

Sharing what we have to say with positive intention and love offers immense value to those on the receiving end of our communication.  Speaking freely from your heart sharing your love, kindness and consideration inspires others to share the voice of their heart.

What words would you have liked to have heard growing up? 

Which specific words do you wish your spouse, boss, or family member would say or have said in the past? 

What were the ‘missing words’ you never heard from that one person whose words would have made all the difference to you now? 

Say those words to yourself right now. Remind yourself of these words every day until you believe them for yourself.  ‘’I love you.’’ ‘’You are amazing.’’ ‘’It’s great having you here on this team.’’ ‘’You mean so much to me.’’ ‘’Thank you.’’  ”You rock.” ”You are the best.”

If you don’t share your words, they stay locked away inside.   Don’t die with your words inside you. 

Set your words free.   It’s never too late to say ‘’I’m sorry,” ”I forgive you.” or ‘’I love you’’ to yourself or another.  

May your words change lives.  Heal.  Help.  Transform. 

Go share your words now.  Someone’s life may depend on them including your own…

 

08 Aug

Get on your feet – You can make it happen!

When are you are being NICE and when are you being REAL?  What’s the DEAL here? If something isn’t working, change it. 

As a writing and creativity coach those I’m mentoring often complain about not having enough personal space, writing time and privacy or metaphorically speaking juggling too many balls while riding the emotional rollercoaster of the writer’s life.  Whether it’s walking the dogs, cooking the cat – oh, no I mean grooming the cat, children to feed, clothes to wash, shopping to buy and gardens to garden that’s even before the writing day begins! It’s all too much.

You may be scratching your head or your armpit and if you’ve really lost the plot scratching someone else’s and wondering what can I DO about all the balls I’m juggling along with the occasional ‘’balls’’ **B*ll*cks**variations of grammar slipping out in peak moments of tension.

Few people have mind-reading skills and whether it’s your spouse, your boss, co-workers, friends, the bus driver while you are running your little legs off to catch the bus, the people in the line-up at the supermarket checkout being obnoxious or whoever it is you want to ‘just get it and KNOW what you want.’ I suggest you don’t hold your breath waiting for IT to happen. 

So, stop the armpit scratching.  If you’re desperate to carve out writing time, need time for you or simply want whoever it is to pick up their socks or ‘just read my mind and move over.’

I need to have a quiet word in your ear – Complaining won’t change it!

So, without further ado – Get on your feet – You can make it happen!

If something isn’t working this will help you get clear in expressing the voice of your heart and will support, you in starting to be real so others can hear you. Okay….

This fabulous writing invitation and activity relates to setting healthy personal boundaries in relationships, work, life and all the B*ll*cksy areas you are fed up with and get down to the business of creating, writing and carving out personal space and time for you.   You can use this exercise on anything you wish.

 

 

 

Let’s DO IT! 

Get on your feet!

Find two sheets of A4 paper or equivalent

Draw a circle in the middle of each sheet with some space around it.

In the centre of one sheet write ‘This is okay for me’ on the outside ‘This isn’t okay for me.’

On the next sheet in the centre ‘I AM’ and on the outside ‘I AM NOT’

Write in on both sheets the inner and outer statements of where your boundaries are being violated.   What is okay and what’s not okay.  I am this/I am not this.

Go do that activity to define your boundaries and write from your heart.

When you are clear about what you want and what is okay and can begin to take assertive steps forward.  You walk your talk and voice your requests instead hoping people will just be nice and read your mind.  Set the example dear hearts and you may encourage others to be true to themselves – I invite you to be the REAL DEAL after all ‘everyone else is taken.” Dare to be YOU. 

Communicate what you would like, prefer, appreciate, welcome, need and want.  Pass over the mindreading and going blue in the face or scratching other people’s armpits it isn’t pretty.  You have your one life.  How do you want to spend the rest of your time? 

As well as this practical exercise I offer a well-formed outcomes exercise and many other fun and practical ways as part of any support programme Working with you and for you, sharing your message, your passion and your purpose. 

‘’When are YOU being NICE and when are you being REAL?

What’s the best that can happen when you write and speak from your heart?

Contact me here for further fun, creative and energising exercises to Get on Your Feet! 


 Get on your feet – You can make it happen!

07 Aug

Time – How are you spending yours?

It’s Time to Stop Wasting Time!

Go grab yourself a loose sheet of paper any size – quick, there’s no time to waste!

 

Fold in 4 equal portions vertically (in half and half again)

 

Along the bottom write the numbers 0 – 120 as 30, 60, 90, along the three folds 0 and 120 at either end

 

Mark off the age you are now on the timeline (you can write it on if you wish) draw or take a picture of what you look like now add this to the diagram

 

Mark off the age you think you will live to (make a mark or write the age you believe you will no longer be living) Imagine what you will look like if you continue as you are…Yes.  Go there.

 

Rip off the past (the numbers before the age you are now) That’s done.  The past is over.

 

Tear off the future you believe you will not live to.  What if you’re right?

 

There is only this amount of time remaining between the age you are now and the age you believe you will live to.   

What are you left with?  What you want to do with your remaining time?

Write that ‘stuff’ down.  Act every single day and make your one life count! 

IT’S TIME TO STOP WASTING TIME.  Start NOW – MAKE CHANGE HAPPEN. 

Make your time a priority and have the time of your life….

Whether you’re an aspiring or published author as a writing and creativity Coach I’m here to empower you to set and achieve your writing goals.  Offering transformational, simple and practical strategies together we will tap into your innate confidence and creativity to attract the success you deserve. 

Working with you and for your sharing your message, your passion and your purpose. www.wendyfry.com – making time for you, because you, your health and your happiness matters and your life may well depend on it.

 

 

 

 

03 Aug

Twenty Questions to Help You Challenge Thinking When it Comes to Writing and Self-publishing

ANT’s – Automatic Negative Thoughts 

Take control of those pesky ANT’s and succeed as a writer, author and becoming self-published.  What’s the best that can happen? 

In yesterdays blog post we talked about ANT’s and how they may be stopping you from succeeding as a writer.  Often times we can get into the habit of automatically thinking in negative terms without stepping back from our thoughts to filter through the heart and following our big ‘WHY.’ 

Why do I want to write and publish my book? 

List all the reasons why writing and publishing a book are important to you.   Next-

Go back to the blog and record all the ANT’s which are true for you and which get in the way of your why actualising.

You’d be majorly helping yourself to use this series of questions to challenge those ANT’s. 

What’s the best that can happen when you re-frame your thoughts to work for you and notice for yourself the benefits of leaving behind the old and brining in the new?

Ask yourself: 

  1. Am I confusing a thought with a fact when it comes to writing and self-publishing?
  2. Am I jumping to conclusions about how badly my book or blog will do?
  3. Am I assuming my view of things is the only one possible and not gathering or researching opinions?
  4. Do negative thoughts help or hinder me when it comes to writing and self-publishing?
  5. What are the advantages and disadvantages of thinking this way?
  6. Am I asking questions that have no answers?
  7. Am I thinking in all or nothing terms?
  8. Am I using ultimatum words in my thinking?
  9. Am I telling myself I’m a bad writer and will never succeed as an author because of things that have happened in my past?
  10. Am I concentrating on my weaknesses and forgetting my strengths?
  11. Am I blaming other people for something I have control over?
  12. Am I taking things personally when it comes to having my work edited?
  13. Am I expecting myself to be perfect?
  14. Am I using a double standard?
  15. Am I only paying attention to the negative side of writing and self-publishing?
  16. Am I overestimating the chance of disaster?
  17. Am I exaggerating the importance of becoming a published author and having a major deal?
  18. Am I worrying about the way things ought to be rather than dealing with them as they are and working to change things?
  19. Am I assuming I can do nothing to change my situation?
  20. Am I predicting the future negatively when in fact it could be quite positive?

Take control of your ANT’s and become the self-published author you’ve been dreaming of.

Contact me here to make the best that can happen, happen!

 

 

 

02 Aug

Have you got ANT’s in your pants when it comes to writing?

ANTs (Automatic Negative Thoughts)
 
Ant infestation?  Can’t get to itch that scratch? 
 
You know you need to do something about those pesky ants when  your thoughts stop you writing from your heart.
 · Mind reading- you assume you know what people, editors, publishers and readers think without having enough evidence
 
· Fortune telling- you predict the future negatively, things will get worse or there is a danger ahead, your book won’t sell and you’ll be starving
 
· Catastrophizing- you believe that what has happened or will happen will be so awful and unbearable that you won’t be able to stand it so you lock yourself away and procrastinate about writing
 
· Labelling- you give global negative traits to yourself and others including ‘Self-publishing.’  Discounting positive outcomes- Self-publishing could make your book a best seller on Amazon
 
· Negative filtering- you focus on the negative all the time and don’t often notice the positives of writing for fun, enjoyment and to get paid 
 
· Over generalising- you see a global pattern of negatives based on a single incident Dichotomous thinking you view events or people in all or nothing.  ”They turned my book away therefore I’m a useless piece of dog doo .”
 
· ‘Shoulds’- you see events in terms of how things should be, rather than simply focusing on what is.  ”I will only write if I can get a book deal so there!’ 
 
· Personalising- you assume an unreasonable amount of the blame to yourself for negative events and fail to see that certain events are caused by.  My mother said ”don’t be a show off or big myself up.” Oh, I better not be an author then…
 
· Blaming- you focus on the other person as the source of your negative feelings and you refuse to take responsibility for changing yourself. ”I can’t possibly write I have a home and family to run, they would never put up with it.”
 
· Unfair comparisons- you interpret events in terms of standards that are unrealistic, you focus on others who do better than you and find yourself feeling inferior.  ”I’m never going to be the next J.K Rowling.”
 
· Regret orientation- you focus on the idea that you could have done better in the past, rather than on what you can do better now.  ”I’m too old to write now – look at me.” 
 
· What if?- you keep asking a series of questions about “what if” something happens and you fail to be satisfied with any of the answers. ”What if I write and no one wants my book.”  
 
· Emotional reasoning- You let your feelings guide your interpretation of reality.  ”Me write – oh, no I could never do that it’s way too scary to write and publish a book.  What would my parents, neighbours, husband think? ”
 
· Inability to disconfirm- you reject any evidence or arguments that might contradict your negative thoughts.  ”No. My English teacher clearly said I would never amount to anything if I was staring out the window and swinging on my chair all day.”
 
· Judgement focus- you view yourself, others and events in terms of evaluations as good-bad or superior-inferior, rather than simply describing, accepting or understanding. You are continually measuring yourself and others according to uninformed standards and finding that you and others fall short. You are focused on the judgement of others as well as your own judgements of yourself.  ”Nope, not doing that.  People will judge me, they will think…”Heck you know this story I’m not even going to type it up here. 
 
Don’t let those ANT’s in your pants or your head eat you alive. 
 
ANT control to your rescue itch that scratch. ! 
 
This excerpt is an adaption from my first book Find YOU Find LOVE  especially for antsy writers. 
 
Don’t make an anthill out of it. Take control of your ANT’s NOW.  What’s the best that can happen? 
29 Jul

Fear – What Stops You?

Say no to fear and yes to you.  

Now is the time to question your fears. 

Now is the time to challenge your limiting beliefs. 

Now is the time to recognise the outdated behaviours. 

Your past is not your future. 

Being aware of the past is helpful. 

Living there isn’t….

Fear only has to be acknowledged to be transformed.  Getting real with fear is beautiful, it’s freeing, it’s joyful.  It’s like no other feeling when you express what you know inside. 

Turn fear on its head.  Let’s do it together.  Feeling Excited And Ready?  I know I am…

I invite you to acknowledge your fear.  After all, it generally has had a positive intention up to now, most likely trying to keep you safe from some perceived danger or threat.  It hasn’t meant to cause you to harm or hold you back.  Fear was doing it’s best with the knowledge it had.

95% of what we think will happen doesn’t happen and now we’ve discussed that we may as well get down to business and write from the heart!

What story have you been telling others about yourself, your life and experiences which has an undercurrent of fear? 

What do you share about yourself on a first meeting? 

On those dark days when you retreat inside, how do you put yourself down?  What thoughts, actions and behaviours make you unkind towards yourself? 

With fear out of the way, what will communicate about your abilities and strengths?  Hopes, dreams, Joys? 

How will changing the meaning you place on fear and re-writing the story of your future serve you? 

What’s Your Story?  Rewriting your past – Transforming your future

I know I’ve been guilty of being a ‘so-called victim.’  I won’t even go there, I know those stories inside out and back to front.  They was sucking the life out of me and probably not very nice for those who are on the receiving end of draining and complaining.  I used to tell those stories at any given opportunity.  My negative experiences became my comfort zone, my identity, my go-to which I knew so well.  When I told those stories it was like a bad case of the farts, everyone got a waft of it. Phewwww.  Are you farting on everyone with your story and how does it serve you?

  • What fear-based story are you telling?
  • How long have you been sharing your fear?
  • What part of your experience is hindering you?
  • What is the cost of your fear? 
  • Are you willing to keep paying the price?

You are the author of your life.  You are the narrator, the publisher, the marketer.  What story are you telling?   

I invite you to write a letter to fear – Here’s mine

Dear Fear,

Thank you for protecting me and looking after me, I know you meant well.  I don’t know if you realise, you’ve been stopping me from what I know is in my heart is what I’m really want to do.  I have a calling and a purpose.  I want to live my life, not yours.   

I’m sorry fear, I have to let part of you go now.  I forgive you for the actions you have encouraged me not to take.  I forgive you for the opportunities you held me back from and the things which may have been rather fun. I forgive you for showing up when I didn’t ask you to. 

I want you to work with me now.  I want you to partner me on a new kind of adventure.  I love how you keep me safe from burning my hand, just like when my mother said ‘’ don’t touch the stove.’’ I love how you can make me run fast for the train so I can get to my appointment on time.  I welcome those times when my survival is at the threat to protect me intuitively.  I’m happy to keep that part of you and as for the rest, shall we both let go together with love so we can make the rest of our lives the best of our lives? 

I apologise for not acknowledging before the goodness and your constant giving to me. That was a heck of a lot of giving, all my life so far, all that fear, you obviously love me very much and showed that in the best way you knew how.  I understand you were doing your best to save me from myself , other people and experiences that reminded you of our past.  I am okay now.  I am an adult and I can handle it. 

I now choose to let that 95% of fear which wasn’t helping me go with love and maybe a little bit of glitter because even fear can play, shimmer and have some fun – it’s about time don’t you think?  As we are letting go of fear and there’s a hoofing amount to let go of, in its place, because we have been together for so long,  I ask you to go on an adventure with me.  We can fill that space with something far better.

I want you to stay by my side and show up this time differently.  I invite you to travel with me now so we can Feel Excited And Ready together.  How does that sound?  We can hold hands if you would like to until you are completely comfortable with this new behaviour.  Are you ready to see just how far we can go?  Come on, we can do it.  Let us explore life beyond fear and live it to the full.

I love you.  Thank you, Fear.  You taught me so well.

Wendy

Fear only has to be acknowledged to be transformed.  Getting real with fear is beautiful, it’s freeing, it’s joyful.  It’s like no other feeling when you express what you know inside. 

Your story matters.  Let it out from inside.  Write from your heart!

28 Jul

If You Want to Write You Will Find the Way

You’ve been lying to yourself or worse still making excuses.  Let’s go there.  I’m going to say it how it is.  You need to get out of your own way! 

What Gets in the Way of Writing

Print out the list before reading in full. I made it oh, so easy for you – click on  What Gets in the Way of Writing invitation and hey presto there’s your lovely Free pdf from little ole me.  I’m good like that. 

ACTION STATIONS!  QUICK. 

GET YOUR BODY MOVING GO GRAB A PEN while it’s printing. 

Run to your neighbour’s house ask them to print it out if you still haven’t replaced your in the cartridge or fixed your printer. 

Heck, if you have to, use the work printer when no one is looking! Shhh, I won’t tell. 

QUICKLY – Read the list and tick or highlight the excuses – whoops I mean reasons which apply to you.  Make sure your heart is racing as you read, this is going to be life-changing!

Add to the list any personal additional blocks which you foresee getting in the way writing.  yep, that one too.  Let’s have it! 

SPEED UP.  COME ON.  THIS IS LIKE FIGHTING FIRE.  DO IT QUICK SPEEDY GONZALEZ.  NO PONDERING.   IF THERE IS ANY HESITATION WHILE YOU ARE PAUSING FOR BREATH THEN MARK THE ENTRY IN SOME WAY.  YES.  JUST MARK IT! YOU CAN REST LATER…

What Gets in the Way of Writing

  1. Getting started
  2. Confidence
  3. yourself
  4. Patience
  5. Distractions
  6. Pen or pencil running out
  7. Guts
  8. Writer’s block
  9. Laziness
  10. Literacy
  11. Finding your authentic voice
  12. Self-judgement
  13. Perception of another person’s judgement
  14. Need for validation or approval
  15. Time management
  16. Self-prioritising
  17. Overwhelm
  18. Work
  19. Homelife
  20. Emotions
  21. Procrastination
  22. Taking responsibility
  23. Life Events
  24. Self-sabotage
  25. Fear of failure
  26. Shame
  27. Guilt
  28. Embarrassment
  29. Vulnerability
  30. Memory
  31. Lack of ideas
  32. Too many choices
  33. Environmental triggers
  34. Finances
  35. Being seen
  36. Perceived criticism
  37. Self-criticism
  38. Negative self-beliefs
  39. Self-doubt
  40. Negative opinions from others
  41. Articulation
  42. Forgetfulness
  43. Energy
  44. Motivation
  45. Lack of focus
  46. Exposure
  47. Fear
  48. Perceived rejection or criticism
  49. Comparison
  50. Honing your creative process
  51. Not feeling/believing ‘you’re good enough’
  52. Self-esteem
  53. Confidence
  54. Physical disability
  55. Learning Label (Dyslexia etc)
  56. Intimidation
  57. Depression
  58. Stagnation
  59. Self-discipline
  60. Perfectionism
  61. Boredom
  62. Emotions, thoughts and feelings
  63. Writer’s block
  64. Self-acceptance
  65. Hopelessness
  66. Learning about how to write
  67. Lack of self-belief
  68. Having your written works accepted
  69. Having your written works rejected
  70. Illness
  71. Developing positive writing habits
  72. Not completing what you’ve started
  73. Your inner critic
  74. Self-judgement
  75. Completing things
  76. Finding your writing community
  77. Other – Please list

Well done you!

Now ….

Drum roll…

Rip up the listWhat Gets in the Way of Writing

Turn it into a confetti storm

Shout out loud and proud…

‘’I’m done with that!’’

 76 excuses are not reason enough not to write.   You’ve been lying to yourself.  If you want to write you WILL find the way!  

Now write this down


 Give yourself a pat on the back for making time for you! 

You can have a little dance and ‘Celebrate Good Times, Come On!’ – Just for fun. Oh yes!

Clap your hands together and shout ‘’hoorah.’’

Point to yourself and say, ‘’I AM a Writer!’’ 

Cartwheels, high fives Goddess and Warrior dances  and other extravaganza optional. 

And now we have calmed down.

Let’s get down the business of writing!

This prelude is taken from my third book ‘Write from Your Heart’ due for release in 2020. please do make contact when I can be of help and support to you.  I have a range of personal support programmes, writers workshops and fabulous writing retreats.  

My mother taught me how to read and write. As much as I hated learning the alphabet at the time sitting amongst balls of scrunched up paper crying my eyes out as I simply could not get it right the first time or the next, or the next.  I am grateful for the legacy she left behind. To write from your heart like a bird on a wing is freeing. Soaring above my past and looking back on how far I’ve come.  I invite you, dear reader, to do the same.


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