When are you are being NICE and when are you being REAL? What’s the DEAL here? If something isn’t working, change it.
As a writing and creativity coach those I’m mentoring often complain about not having enough personal space, writing time and privacy or metaphorically speaking juggling too many balls while riding the emotional rollercoaster of the writer’s life. Whether it’s walking the dogs, cooking the cat – oh, no I mean grooming the cat, children to feed, clothes to wash, shopping to buy and gardens to garden that’s even before the writing day begins! It’s all too much.
You may be scratching your head or your armpit and if you’ve really lost the plot scratching someone else’s and wondering what can I DO about all the balls I’m juggling along with the occasional ‘’balls’’ **B*ll*cks**variations of grammar slipping out in peak moments of tension.
Few people have mind-reading skills and whether it’s your spouse, your boss, co-workers, friends, the bus driver while you are running your little legs off to catch the bus, the people in the line-up at the supermarket checkout being obnoxious or whoever it is you want to ‘just get it and KNOW what you want.’ I suggest you don’t hold your breath waiting for IT to happen.
So, stop the armpit scratching. If you’re desperate to carve out writing time, need time for you or simply want whoever it is to pick up their socks or ‘just read my mind and move over.’
I need to have a quiet word in your ear – Complaining won’t change it!
So, without further ado – Get on your feet – You can make it happen!
If something isn’t working this will help you get clear in expressing the voice of your heart and will support, you in starting to be real so others can hear you. Okay….
This fabulous writing invitation and activity relates to setting healthy personal boundaries in relationships, work, life and all the B*ll*cksy areas you are fed up with and get down to the business of creating, writing and carving out personal space and time for you. You can use this exercise on anything you wish.
Let’s DO IT!
Get on your feet!
Find two sheets of A4 paper or equivalent
Draw a circle in the middle of each sheet with some space around it.
In the centre of one sheet write ‘This is okay for me’ on the outside ‘This isn’t okay for me.’
On the next sheet in the centre ‘I AM’ and on the outside ‘I AM NOT’
Write in on both sheets the inner and outer statements of where your boundaries are being violated. What is okay and what’s not okay. I am this/I am not this.
Go do that activity to define your boundaries and write from your heart.
When you are clear about what you want and what is okay and can begin to take assertive steps forward. You walk your talk and voice your requests instead hoping people will just be nice and read your mind. Set the example dear hearts and you may encourage others to be true to themselves – I invite you to be the REAL DEAL after all ‘everyone else is taken.” Dare to be YOU.
Communicate what you would like, prefer, appreciate, welcome, need and want. Pass over the mindreading and going blue in the face or scratching other people’s armpits it isn’t pretty. You have your one life. How do you want to spend the rest of your time?
As well as this practical exercise I offer a well-formed outcomes exercise and many other fun and practical ways as part of any support programme Working with you and for you, sharing your message, your passion and your purpose.
‘’When are YOU being NICE and when are you being REAL?
What’s the best that can happen when you write and speak from your heart?
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Get on your feet – You can make it happen!