25 Sep

Courage of Your Convictions

You and I both took our first steps with courage.

It never entered our minds to give up, we simply got back up and put one foot in front of the other and another and then another and there you are walking, talking, singing and dancing, all things you’ve had to learn at some point and whether you know it or not, that took courage.

Courage is all about taking action and having the determination to carry out one’s goals  and to do or say what you think is right regardless of another’s opinion.  Courage is about having confidence in yourself (or acting ‘as if’) until you become fearless.

Success and courage go hand in hand.  Limits I have to tell you only exist in your mind.

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Reflecting back, what have you already achieved despite believing it wasn’t possible?

What challenges have you overcome?

How did you achieve what you’ve already learnt? 

In what situations do you become fearful?

What’s beneath the fear? (is it fear of other people’s judgement, fear of failing, fear of not being good enough etc?) 

Acknowledging fears are nothing more than thoughts which create a physical response what small action can you take today to stretch yourself out of your comfort zone?

What can you hold yourself accountable for tomorrow, the next day and the day after that to conquer your fears and take those all important steps in the direction of your dreams? 

Half of what we fear never happens!  We make up stories in our minds to prepare us for the ‘worse case scenario’.  I personally prefer to take my mind to ‘what’s the best that can happen here’ and add to the movie how good it feels to achieve my goal, what I will see and hear and then I keep focusing on the results I want.  Truth is you can’t think a negative and a positive thought at the same time, try it and see.

Our thoughts can limit us until we acknowledge we are afraid.  Try shifting focus and know the end goal is much more compelling than the feeling of staying stuck where we are.   Make friends with Focus and Intention.  Spend time each day thinking about what you want and how wonderful it will be for your goals to come to fruition.  Heck, even buy the bottle of champagne in preparation of the celebration.

If you need some extra help in feeling the fear and doing it anyway.  You’ll enjoy reading ‘The Magician’s Way’  by William Whitecloud.  Although this book talks a lot about playing golf,  you don’t need to be a gold player to improve your swing and how you approach life.  Simply focusing on the target and acting as if will improve all life areas.

I want you to know you matter!  Take just four and a half minutes to watch this video Find Your Courage, you’ll be glad you did.

And just for the record, i’d been feeling nervous and uncomfortable about a forthcoming opportunity on Tuesday where to begin with I felt more than a little out of my depth but I had a word with myself and turned round my fears.  I’ve spent some time preparing and learning things I have previously put off and now my focus is on excitement and wondering what the best outcome will be.  Working through my own limitations and overcoming the obstacles and limiting beliefs in my mind, well i’m set for a great day and you know what, whatever the outcome it will be a perfect experience for me.

Courage is beginning with the first step and taking the next and the next and the next.  What’s the best that can happen?

” Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition they somehow know what you truly want to become” Steve Jobs

31 Mar

Stop Playing the Fool

Stop Playing the Fool. 

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  • How often do you find yourself laughing things off when deep down you’re hurting?
  • What makes you wear a mask of who you think you should be rather than being all of who you are?
  • When do you find yourself not putting you first in relationships only to find the relationship fails anyway, when you’ve given all you’ve got and then some? 

April Fool’s day comes but once a year, though how often are you playing the fool and not really living your life on your terms? 

Help is at hand.

If you’re:

  • Fed up with waiting for more love, fun and happiness in your life…
  • Ready to let go of the past and focus on having a positive and loving relationship that fulfils you…
  • All set to be accepted for who you are and totally and free to be yourself…
  • Eager to make the rest of your life, the best of your life…

I hate to say it.  The only thing stopping you is you!

I stopped playing the fool a long time ago and have to say it’s liberating.  Gone is the mask of fear, the long nose of lying to please others, the need for approval or acceptance.  Gone is the me I thought I had to be, it’s the best thing i’ve ever done and I want to share with you the tools and transformation techniques which stopped me playing the fool.

On your marks, get set, go! Ready to discover all you can be….

Using an extensive tool kit, I can not only show you how to be the best that you can be, I will guide you to get out of your own way so that you can experience the love that you truly deserve.  Playing the fool and wallowing in the self-sabotage that goes with it will be history when you say yes to you!

By examining the events, perceptions and beliefs you have formed about yourself,  love and relationships you will gain the awareness that the past need not influence the future.

I will share with you the transformational tools and techniques to give you freedom from your past including the emotional baggage, self doubt and fear. You will move from helplessness to happiness and become the person who you’ve always have been and just forgot about.

Offering you the strategies for positive and lasting change guiding you back home to you, the place where love resides.
Who you are is so worth loving.  You are the key to finding and keeping the love you deserve.

For the month of April and in recognition of April Fool’s Day you be foolish not to take up this great offer.

Save 10% off ‘12 Weeks to Total Love and relationship Transformation’ when booking in April 2016.

Would you like to:

  • Get to the heart of your love and relationship problems?
  • Release the past?
  • Start believing in yourself more?
  • Move on from doubts and fears?
  • Improve your confidence and self Esteem?
  • Improve current relationships?
  • Learn to trust again?
  • Let go of feelings that you’re unlovable?
  • Remove the blocks that are holding you back from love?
  • Find practical solutions to your love and relationship issues?
  • Accept yourself just as you are?
  • Turn up your love dial and let love in?
  • Redirect your focus and find love?
  • Envision your future exactly as you want it to be?

It is easy to fool the eye but it’s hard to fool the heart – Al pacino 

Say yes to you!

26 Mar

Slow Down You Move Too Fast

You’ve got to make the morning last…

Just kickin’ up the cobble stones…

Looking for fun and feelin groovy…

I wonder how many of you found yourself singing along with this all time famous Paul Simon and Art Garfunkel song? Feel free to listen in by clicking the link and hum along as you read this week’s blog which is all about slowing down, going inside and finding out about you and what you want.

In recent weeks I’ve become a bit overwhelmed with things.  I wonder if you too can relate to saying yes to other people’s requests when you really mean to say no?

Do you find yourself over committing, saying yes when you mean no, agreeing to do things and then wondering how you can get out of it?

I love to help people, it’s second nature to me to say a big fat YES without stopping to consider, do I have time for this extra thing?  I’ve realised the more I say yes to others, the more I say no to me and this often depletes my energy supply and source of happiness.

So just like Mr Snail here, I slowed down, had a serious word with myself, reflected on what i’ve already committed to, I re-evaluated my goals and also explored what is it about me that says yes before I say no.

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Many of us learn in childhood to put our needs last and to consider other people before we think about what it is we want.  We are told it’s selfish not to do so.  It’s natural as children and as adults too,  to seek the approval of others and to want be accepted and in doing so have this default behaviour of opening our mouths, saying yes and then squirming when you really meant to say no.

In what situations do you find yourself saying yes when you really don’t want to?

  • Work
  • Relationships
  • Family
  • Friends
  • New ventures
  • Neighbours

In my experience ‘The Universe’, will keep throwing the same lessons to you until you learn what it is you need to learn from the situation.  In the case on my own recent yes, yes, yes, I realised this was a very old pattern of mine which needed some serious updating.

Even if you have an underlying fear of upsetting other people, by saying yes it’s only you who suffers.

Saying yes to you doesn’t mean you don’t care about other people, it’s a little like putting the oxygen mask on first, if you aren’t saying yes to you your emotional and physical health may suffer as a result of overstretching yourself.

  • What can you do today to say yes to you?
  • What do you need to start doing, stop doing or do differently  in order to fulfil your dreams?
  • Trace back where you first learned saying yes to you and no to others was wrong.  How old were you and is it still appropriate right now to operate from an outdated belief?
  • How does keeping your early behaviours limit you?

If you can’t say no these options may help you:

  • I have too much on right now
  • Have you asked …if they can help, i’m not able to
  • Thanks for asking me, I appreciate it, it’s not something i can say yes to
  • I’m flattered you’ve asked me, thank you, i’m going to say no as it doesn’t fit in with my plans
  • It sounds like you need some support, have you thought about who else can give this to you as i’m not available 
  • Can you come back to me in a few months time if no one else can help I may be able too once i’ve worked through prior commitments

Saying no, or versions of no might well make you uncomfortable at first, though the more you do it the easier it gets.

I will leave you to ponder:

  • In what areas of your life you might be over stretching yourself?
  • What is the negative aspect of over giving, how does this show up emotionally and physically for you?
  • By saying  yes to things you don’t want to how does this impact your time, energy, health and well-being?

Let your yes be yes and your no be no now 

Say yes to you!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

07 Sep

The Hidden Meanings of Dreams

Did you know, your dreams can offer so much insight into resolving problems as well as achieving goals?

Recently I discovered the power of my own dreams and how to use dream time to it’s best advantage.

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Our minds are amazing, used wisely, spending a little time each day recording your dreams and beginning to understand your subconscious messages, no longer do we need to try and resolve a problem consciously, our dreams can do that for us.

~ How often do you have a reoccurring dream?

~ What percentage of your dreams are random and make no sense at all?

~ On waking and remembering a dream how often do you experience the left over feelings of the dream and feel like it’s actually happened?

~ When do you experience nightmares or bad dreams that seem so real you become anxious about sleep?

~ Do you have dreams that seem impossible to comprehend? 

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Fear not, dreams are a gateway to learning…. 

If you are experiencing nightmares, a regular dream theme or even random dreams, all can be understood using simple processes.

If you want to resolve a problem and work towards an outcome which is desirable for you, you can set a dream intention asking your Higher Mind (often known as Higher Conscious Mind) to send a message to you unconscious mind which encodes the message in words, pictures or symbols.  Your conscious mind can then interpret the meaning of the message.

You can easily begin to understand how dream time might offer you an understanding how to resolve a problem in your life right now, or indeed a left over problem from the past that might need clearing.

Dreams also guide you as to what the next steps in your life might be and the actions you can take to achieve your goals and purpose.

You may experience your dreams in visions, symbols, words, even smell and taste can be experienced in dreams.  I know many of mine have seemed very real, others seem to flit from my mind in seconds.

Dreams can help you achieve your physical dreams.  If there is something you want to achieve in the future, perhaps you have an event coming up that you will be speaking at, sitting an exam or a test, perhaps you want to know if a relationship is right for you or what to do next in your career.

Dream time and the dreams you dream will offer insights to you, helping you to take action away from a problem or towards achieving your goals. Dream time will also support you in answering questions you may have been trying to find solutions to at a conscious level.

Amazing isn’t it that we can work all these things out while sleeping by simply handing over the working outs to our higher minds.

If you’d like to understand your dreams, my best advice is to use a dream journal and become curious as to what you can learn from them.

Whether you wake in the middle of the night and remember a dream or if you find yourself waking and remembering dreams, begin to make simple notes of what you saw, heard, felt and experienced in your dream.

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I propose to offer some Analysing Your Dreams workshops later on this year and can also offer one to one dream interpretations, working with you and guiding you so YOU understand the meaning of YOUR dreams.

Using some great techniques which I will keep as a surprise for now you can speak directly with your subconscious mind, set dream intentions and became the expert in analysing your dreams!

Your dreams aren’t for me to analyse, I can teach you to do that for yourself and then you will have everything you need to find out the hidden meaning of your dreams. 

If you’d like to find out more please sign up and follow this blog for new posts about dream-time, workshops and future offerings or contact me direct at info@wendyfry.com

Dreams are today’s answers to tomorrows questions ~ Edgar Cayce

 

31 Jul

Trusting your Intuition

How often have you found yourself bypassing your intuition.  Only to regret later that you wish you’d listened?

Thinking back over the past, how might your life have turned out differently if you’d listened to that all important inner voice, feeling or knowing?

What have you learnt about not paying attention and going along with things in the hope that they will change – BUT, they don’t!

What is it that remains to be achieved for you?  

Perhaps a career goal, learning something new or indeed  that all having that all important relationship that’s right for you?

What if you were to start to listen and trust your intuition from now on?  

How will that serve you? 

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We can use our intuition on many levels and for many aspects of our lives. 

For example even though it isn’t ways nice to know my intuition has told me that people three different people I was very close to and a devoted pet were going to die.

These were all situations that were out of my control and I could not have changed the events, though I knowing how strong my intuition is, I now pay more attention to it.

In the past, I’ve also know intuitively when relationships haven’t been right for me but went into them blindly, thinking that things would get better.   Not any more!

Think about your own intuition now.  How does it present itself to you?

~ Do you get an inner knowing?

~ A feeling?

~ See something?

~ A thought or word come into your head?

~ A sensation?

We each experience our personal intuition differently. For me it’s very much a physical response, often my skin tingles, I feel heat or coolness, also I hear words alerting me to positive and negative experiences.

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I spoke to a friend recently who had a decision to make between two choices.  Totally torn between making a choice, even more so after asking hundreds of people ‘what do you think’ making a decision seemed even harder.

Trouble is when we put our decisions ‘out there’ for others to decide for us, those people would be telling you what they think based on their thinking/intuition or opinion.

So I took my lovely friend through a short process where they were able to listen to their own intuition. Simply by asking questions and waiting for the answer.

Our bodies are amazing and already have the answer.  Several times over my friend had definite clarity over what intuitively was the right decision.  They never thought of going within to find out what to do.

~ When it comes to love relationships, how has listening to your intuition served you well?

~ How has not listening impacted you?

~ What did you learn from either not listening or paying attention?

If you made a deal with yourself right now to pay attention to your intuition in what areas of your life do you want answers?

Set an intention and ask your intuition to provide you with the answers.

Be open to receiving intuition in a number of ways:  Knowing, sensing, seeing, hearing, feeling, symbols, dreams etc.

If you’d like to find out how to use your intuition and set your intentions in love relationships you might like to listen to these 2 free audio recordings  Standing in the Spotlight of LOVE and 21 Steps to LOVE

I’m also available for VIP Days Helping you to get to the heart of love.

 

Here’s to you and you your amazing intuition! 

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