05 Sep

Don’t Worry, Be Happy

I wonder how many of you remember the song ‘Don’t Worry, Be Happy’ by Bobby McFerrin?  You can listen in right here  as you read this blog post…

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What is this happiness lark you might say!  You might even go a little further and find yourself thinking any number of the following responses when it comes to happiness:

How can I be happy when XYZ has gone wrong

How can I be happy when XYZ is bound to be a disaster

How can I be happy after what he/she did to me

How can I be happy when it’s inevitable XYZ will happen

Happiness isn’t long lasting, something always happens to me to ruin it

I hear you and believe me I know what’s it’s like to be unhappy, it’s part of human experience just as much as happiness is.  What might make me unhappy you might be okay with or vice versa.   I personally believe happiness is a choice as are your thoughts.  No one thinks you and you are in control of what you think and what goes on inside your grey matter…

You might be wondering why I decided to write a post about happiness when there are so many other wonderful or miserable things to write about, well the truth is just yesterday someone said to me ‘I don’t think we’d make a good match, you’re one of those constantly happy people, I prefer a degree of cynicism’.  Now I could have taken this as a complete blow, thrown all my toys out of the pram, argued as to why I choose happiness and tried to convince the other person why for me I prefer to be happy rather than cynical.  I did none of this and I simply said ‘I hear you and I agree we wouldn’t make a great match, best of luck and enjoy your weekend ahead’…woops, I did it again and finished the interaction with a burst of happiness.

So despite the outcome this chappy actually inspired me with his comments and I want to thank him as it’s given me the title of today’s blog post.

As we begin the working week my best advice is don’t carry last week’s dirty laundry into this week, today is a brand new day, it hasn’t happened yet (except maybe in your thinking) If you’ve been dreading getting back to the school run, getting on the train that is always late, getting stuck in traffic, seeing your boss or co-workers miserable faces my best advice is…don’t worry, be happy!

You are the master of your destiny, you are the controller of your thoughts, you are the one who can change your thinking by replacing negative thoughts for happy ones.

Take yourself to the end of your working day, how do you feel when you have chosen the happy response, what do you hear inside your own mind when you choose happiness, what do you see when you look through your happy glasses, what did you enjoy the smell or taste of when you chose things which made you happy, what did you sense when whatever the outcome of others people’s actions, words and behaviours you simply decided to not worry and be happy?

It’s estimated it takes 72 muscles to frown and 13 to smile…what are you choosing for yourself today and every day?

The original recording of the song Don’t Worry, Be Happy, was recorded by Bob Marley you can check it out on You Tube or download to your phone so wherever you go you always choose happiness…if you want to 🙂

 

29 Aug

The Best of Friends

When you think of the word friend or friendship who or what comes to mind?

I love using a Thesaurus and found the following meanings in terms of friendship and the components of what we might mutually bring to a relationship with friends.  Reading through how many of these statements resonate with you and the friendships you’re blessed with?

  • accord
  • affection
  • agreement
  • closeness
  • devotion
  • harmony
  • intimacy
  • love
  • rapport
  • understanding
  • affinity
  • amiability
  • company
  • consideration
  • empathy
  • fondness
  • friendliness
  • sodality

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I don’t know about you but I personally have the best of friends and have known many of them for over 35 years, oh boy, that makes me feel a little old though all things considered my friendships have lasted longer than my relationships.

Friends come in all shapes and sizes, nationalities, ages, sexes with common goals and aims or opposing opinions.  I can understand the term ‘friends for life’ as so many of us are blessed with life long friendships from the day we form the friendship until the day we die, so many wonderful experiences can be shared with friends.

I invite you to take a moment today to honour your friendships and acknowledge them in some way, whether it be a call,  meeting up, sending a greeting by social media or indeed sharing this blog post just to say ‘thank you for being my friend.’

It’s often our friends who are there for us in our darkest hours and who are the first to want to celebrate our successes.

So on that note to all my wonderful friends, I love you, thank you for being in my life, you are the best!