In childhood we form many beliefs, in fact childhood represents a huge percentage of our overall life experience.
The experiences we have growing up contribute to our inner dialogue and we may often tell ourselves that we are at fault in some way for whatever went wrong in our early years, even though this assumption was based on false information or a misguided perception.
If you want to back track and read the start of the series of blog posts about limiting beliefs go here
Limiting core beliefs are the driving force in our lives and reflect our deepest vulnerabilities and pain and it’s from the younger part of ourselves that we react from. Often our limiting core beliefs are what distance us from believing we are lovable and open to receiving love. Operating from the negative parts of ourselves, we cannot see the positives and opportunities available to us.
Working through these beliefs will bring more balance to your life and allow you the opportunity for personal transformation. This section supports you in gathering together the negative messages you heard about yourself or others growing up, the abuses, the traumas, and the conflicts. We have all had these kinds of experiences growing up and are affected in different ways. Giving a voice to our feelings and experiences, no matter how old we are now, gives us a new sense of liberation, a sense of empowerment and an opportunity to put the past in the past once and for all.
Discovering limiting beliefs, behaviours, thoughts and emotions
Here is a list of limiting beliefs that you may have formed about yourself, life and love relationships.
Life issues related to core beliefs come from the perception of success, love, belonging, self worth, control, security, reality and reason.
Core beliefs often grow stronger rather than weaker (as we are filtering for perceived evidence to back up the false belief)
Practical Exercise (10 minutes)
Work through this list and record which limiting beliefs are true for you:
I can’t do it
I Don’t matter
I’m bad I’m unforgivable
I must be approved of
Something bad will happen
Something must change for me to be ok
The world is dangerous
Life is hopeless
People take advantage
I must be perfect
I must be in control
I don’t belong
I’m not good enough
I can’t trust anyone
I’m a failure
I’m a mistake
I’m not special enough
I’m not interesting
I will be betrayed
I’m a failure
I’m a victim
I’m a burden
I’m separated from God
I’m weak I can’t get it right
I can’t say no
I can’t stand up for myself
I don’t belong
I should not be here at all
I’m left out I don’t deserve to be loved
Global issues relate to people who you may have had negative experiences with in your life and who have contributed negatively to your concept and beliefs about yourself:
Mother/Father Religious Institutions
Societal influence Brothers/Sisters
Extended family/step family
The good news is, beliefs aren’t permanent and can be changed
Beliefs are nothing more than empowering or limiting thoughts. The beliefs we choose to give our attention to, guide our actions, behaviours and circumstances. Our core beliefs were developed at a time when we were children, when we had minimal ability to reason and think rationally for ourselves. The beliefs that were handed down to us were formed by our parents, mentors, teachers, environment and culture.
Core beliefs form the picture we paint of ourselves, a portrait of our own abilities, our worth, flaws, strengths and our relationships with others and with the world. Our beliefs establish the limits of what we think we can, or can’t, achieve.
We behave in ways consistent with our beliefs and values. Our beliefs impact on much of what we do, the thoughts we think, our feelings and our physical symptoms. We delete, distort and generalise information by forming an intricate filter of opinions, emotions and memories and we only notice what we think supports the existing belief.
Working through your limiting beliefs may bring up a range of emotions. Please go to www.wendyfry.com/book/resources and download your free EFT Tapping Chart and EFT Process to work through any emotions associated with these limiting beliefs. If you need any further support in working 1-2-1 please do make contact via my website.
Changing your beliefs puts you back in control of living your life with passion and purpose!