09 Jan

When Nothing is Certain….

Everything is possible…

So many times different people both friends and clients have said to me ‘what if i can’t?’, my answer is always, ‘what if you can?’

Limits exist only in the mind, what we believe to be true becomes an end result or in some cases no result at all.

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It’s true to say in life there are often many challenges that come at unexpected times and also the events we know will happen with certainty that we have to prepare for.

Here are just a few examples of where people get stuck in their thinking:

  1. It’s impossible
  2. I’m too old
  3. No one will want me
  4. I’m not experienced enough
  5. All my relationships have failed
  6. I keep attracting the wrong types
  7. I don’t have the money
  8. I don’t have the energy
  9. It’s hopeless
  10. I can’t do it

I’m sure you get the picture and perhaps by even reading those few short statements your energy has slumped, you feel defeated, negative, unhappy.  Words are powerful and it’s the words we say to ourselves inwardly and outwardly that contribute to feeling stuck and often if were’re feeling stuck we take no action because we are in a place of fear often trapped in the past and scared it will repeat itself.

So here are my re-frames I offer when I hear the kinds of complaints above:

  1. How do you know?
  2. Compared to whom?
  3. Where is the evidence of this?
  4. What can you do to gain the experience you need?
  5. What have you learnt from these relationships?
  6. If you were to focus on the ‘right types’ what is the right type for you?
  7. What other resources are open to you to achieve what you want?
  8. If you did have the energy what’s the first thing you’d do, how will that one small action benefit you?
  9. What do you want instead of that feeling of hopelessness?
  10. Get rid of the T in can’t and you can

It’s an interesting fact to share…

We are not our thoughts though our thoughts will ultimately take us closer to a desired outcome or further away.

So on that note…

  • What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?
  • What will this look like, feel like and sound like to you?
  • Looking back on how you achieved this how did you do it?
  • What advice would your ‘future self’ give you in order to get started?
  • If you were to become your own best friend what would you say to yourself which offers support, encouragement and praise along the way?
  • What’s one thought, action and deed you can take today which will take you closer to your desire?

Remember you can be, do and have anything you set your mind to and when your thinking tells you otherwise tell it to ‘go and do one!’ or something similar.

You are not your thoughts.  You are a magnificent creator and your dreams can be part of your reality and experience.

Begin today acting as if and work backwards…

Happiness, success, love, career progression, whatever it is you want is only ever a thought away

10 Oct

The Power of Perseverance

Ever known what it’s like to struggle but worked your way through a problem anyway? Found yourself despairing as to how you can make something happen and found a way? Overcome limitations despite limiting beliefs to begin with?

I do believe if we are all honest none of us have lived a life which has been smooth running and this is where we develop the perseverance muscle.  The more we use it the stronger we get!

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There are all kinds of sayings related to perseverance.  Frank Sinatra is a great example of this  for him he sums it up as, ”I did it my way”, Julie Andrews states ”Perseverance is failing 19 times and succeeding the 20th” and Victor Hugo advises us ”Perseverance, secret of all triumphs”.  I’d say they are all right.

It is in fact my own struggle which inspired my blog post today.  I’m having technical difficulties which I don’t understand, I’d set time aside in a peaceful location to write and record some meditations and there are roadworks outside.  I’ve spent money on new equipment which I don’t know how to work and don’t understand the technical aspects of what i’m being told but hey…..

Instead of endless fretting (because it’s all too easy to get into this mindset) what I was going to do today i’ve parked for now until I can get the help and support I need from software developers.  Instead of having an inner rant about not being able to do what i’d planned, what I can’t do and what’s frustrated me, I’ve taken a walk in the sunshine, had a delicious breakfast of coffee and croissants (yes two croissants, I know!) I’ve updated my website.  I looked up how to spell perseverance as I wasn’t one hundred percent sure sure if is was a c or an s which came first.  I’ve crossed off some other tasks on my to do list and I now have the whole day to myself to do whatever I please.

So going back to the power of perseverance.  I may not achieve today what I hoped to but I know  whether it’s  tomorrow, next week or next month I will still reach my deadlines as I have faith that I will find a way around my current problems.  Instead of holding on to rising feeling of frustration…i’ve simply decided to let it go.

What feelings, limiting beliefs or doubts are you holding onto which would benefit you in letting go of too…just for a moment, if not forever.

We can’t control outside circumstances but we can control how we react and respond to them.

So today I am grateful for the sunshine, ears that can hear roadworks, roads we can walk and drive on.  I’m grateful for what I can do on my PC and also to the courier who will be bringing out a new piece of equipment I hope to understand.  I am grateful for my hands which allow me to type and connecting with you through this blog.  Most of all i’m grateful to the power of perseverance.  I may not be there yet but i’m closer than I was yesterday.

If you knew you couldn’t fail, what will you begin today knowing you will find a way to make it happen?