12 Aug

Real Life

Have you heard the saying ‘’what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger?’’ 

Real-life isn’t always kind.  Anyone of us may experience a setback, an overwhelming challenge or something which takes us off the course of action we had planned.  No one is infallible to ‘real life.’ 

You can read about some of the automatic negative and overwhelming thoughts we may each experience when the ‘poop hits the fan’ adding  fuel to the fire right here.

In times of stress, in my life experience as a coach and mentor I’ve listened to people shout ‘’Life Sucks,’’ and ‘’Stop the ride I want to get off’’ or worse still” I can’t take it anymore.” The information shared here will support you in exploring your thinking in relation to life’s stressors and to question is life really as bad as you think it to be.  

All those worries, fears and imaginings.  How much of that mountain of stress came true?  All that anxiety you put yourself through – for what?  Time wasted worrying about ‘what if’ this, that or the other happens when there is no evidence it will come true except in your thinking?

So – over to you.  Let’s go there, let’s address ‘real life.’ Take my hand if you need to, I got my big girl panties on and we can do this okay? 

What’s your catchphrase when life takes you down and the going gets tough?

Write about a time in your life when you were screaming your little head off and at the end of your tether.

Perhaps right now, you’re dealing with issues you hadn’t foreseen, and the pressure is building up – write about it, please.   You can thank me for being pushy later… 

Write about your experiences freehand in a journal express what it feels like to be living real life when it’s in its most raw form.  

What have you had enough of? 

What keeps you awake at night?

Write that stull down before you go to sleep! So, you can actually, yes sleep. Makes sense, right? 

Journaling has considerable positive health benefits.  Emotional, physical and mental health can all be improved through writing, so much so my third book ‘Write from Your Heart-Discover your authentic voice through journaling’ due for release in 2020 is dedicated to this subject.  If you can’t wait that long to get the facts, contact me here and let’s get the party started. 

In addition to writing about life’s challenges as and when they hit, it will also support you to write about your inner strengths.  Resilience.  Attitude and personal ability detailing how you moved beyond past problems and what you did move through life being a b*tch.  

For every problem there is a solution.  I believe you will find it.  I do, I believe in you.  Can you go there with me and believe this for yourself? 

Did you know, you can even write words of encouragement from your ‘future self’ to the you that’s sitting there reading this blog post right now?  It’s easy to write this way, try it and see.  The you who has moved beyond today’s challenges will love to hear the ‘future you’ s loving, nurturing and understanding voice of the heart. 

What reassuring words do you need to hear right now?  Write them down. 

Everything will be okay in the end…  

Where you’re at right now isn’t the end.  It’s a phase you are going through.  This too will come to pass. 

Life is precious and we are truly blessed to be here.  

We may forget at times to enjoy life and find happiness no matter how small when everything seems overwhelming. 

Life is worth celebrating when we stop to pause.

Take a moment.  Join me right now.  Stop.  Slow your breathing down.   Take nice, deep and easy breaths in and out, again.  Repeat.  Notice you are still breathing – amazing isn’t it.  

You are here right now.   It’s okay.  You’re going to be okay.

Give thanks to you.  A moment of self-appreciation.  A pat on the back.  A smile of acknowledgement.  After all, look how far you’ve come.  You are amazing.

Living to Tell the Tale

  • What’s your journey, what have you overcome despite all odds?
  • What makes you personally grateful to have the life you are now living?
  • How did you get this far?
  • What would be your best advice to someone who has gone through your own experience?
  • What’s your new motto for life in hindsight of what you’ve learnt and overcome? 

Mine is’ ‘Bring it on.  What’s the best that can happen?’’ 

When you write from your heart freely by handwriting in and of itself can be cathartic, energising, motivating and inspiring so you can get on with the ‘busyness’ of life. 

” A problem shared is a problem halved,” so says ‘the old wives’ tale.’  The truth of it is, if there really is no one to listen to what you have to share your writing journal will always be there for you, ready to support you with a listening ear. 

I believe we are all natural storytellers and have the ability to write and speak from the heart and although this blog is aimed at writers and aspiring authors any of the articles and exercises shared within my blog pages can be adapted to  suit your personal situation and real life.

On the subject of life and writing.  If it really does get too much to handle and the going gets tough you can contact me here to support you in getting to the heart of the matter.  Offering tailored solutions, support programmes, VIP Days and writing retreats to support you with everyday problems and matters of the heart.

 

 

 

 

 

 

27 Jul

Creative Play – Writing by Hand

Your handwriting is personal and intimate in the same way your voice and fingerprint is unique. 

In my work as a therapist, writing and creativity coach, it never ceases to amaze me how much fun adults can have when they bring the creative play to writing.  As adults we forget to play and miss out having fun. 

Whether it’s finger painting, conducting a ‘word’ orchestra with fingertips and making the shapes of letters in the air, writing with pasta shapes or etchings in the sand, creating and expressing freely ignites the heart. 

When you make time for play, writing can be fun.  Choosing to express yourself fully in the written word by hand transmits the voice of your heart to paper.  Creative play in whatever shape or form makes the journey of your personal and writers evolution a magical one. 

Don’t take my word for it.  Try out for yourself.  Notice your energy and joy for life rise and your productivity increase. 

Today, tomorrow, every day of your life.  Write and play from your heart. 

25 Jul

ABC, Easy as 123, simple as do re mi

From an early age, I hated writing.  As much as I tried, tongue sticking out in concentration, trying to remember the shape and the curve of each letter.  My little fingers gripping a stubby pencil and saying ‘bottoms’ when I missed out sections of the alphabet or confused the letters back to front.  As for the ‘b’s’ and ‘d’s well that’s another story.  I simply couldn’t get it right.  Perhaps you’ve been there too? 

I dreaded having to recite the alphabet though I must admit, between you and me, the ‘L, M, N, O, P’ section was the most fun.  Taking a deep breath in when I got to this part, puffing up my chest in a sing-song voice and waving my arms about as if I was conducting an orchestra, I always remembered the lemon part as I called it! Join me now, stand up, take a breath and shot out ‘’L, M, N, O, P’’ in your best voice and have a little shimmy with it if you must.

When it came to writing out the alphabet in its completeness, I can remember sitting on the chocolate chequered carpet which made my eyes go funny in Milton Road, Wimbledon, SW19, the house where I grew up. It wasn’t often I was allowed chocolate and definitely not before teatime! but  seeing the chocolate carpet  and thinking about chocolate well, on occasion when needs must, and no one was looking I’d clamber up on the kitchen stool, prize of the Tupperware lid of the chocolate stash container and have a good old much blaming  any unaccounted for chocolate bars on my brother!

Grumpy, tearful and afraid of ‘THE ALPHABET’ which seemed as bad as saying or hearing a rude word and not knowing what it meant, I KNEW IT WAS BAD!  I sat cross-legged, full of pins and needles in my legs from lack of movement, surrounded by balls of scrunched up paper crying my eyes out. 

My mother’s angry red face looking fit to burst because I couldn’t learn the alphabet as quickly as she wanted me to.  The memory of her shouting and waving her index finger in a pointed way – ‘’you’ll learn this bloody alphabet if it kills me’’ stayed with through the days of trying to write and the night times too hoping I would eventually remember and save her from ALPHABET DEATH.  In the confused mind of a four-year-old didn’t I want to get it right in case it killed my mum, subconsciously I was blocking myself from getting things right and writing.  What past experience might be blocking you? 

I will let you into a couple of secrets.  Oh, no, not ‘those ones,’ they are still a secret.  Learning can be stressful and when my mum wasn’t hovering over me with that look of hers on the ‘You Will Learn the Bloody Alphabet Days,’ and left me to my own devices to practice, practice, practice, I poked out my tongue, pulled the underneath of my eyes down with one hand and pushed my nose up with the other hand at the same time.  I’m laughing aloud here as I remember this.  Try it out for yourself.  It’s a lot of fun!

All joking aside, to release the emotions building up because I was making my Mum mad, I would sit and press, and press, and press in the dimples of the ‘Rice Crispy Wallpaper’ surrounding the fireplace (the bubbly kind of raised paper which you can deflate with your thumb and make a little mark)  now that really did feel good and gave me a sense of triumph.   If she did notice, she didn’t say anything or maybe thought it was my brother. 

So you see as much as I love The Jacksons song  ‘ABC, Easy as 123, simple as do re mi,’ It really wasn’t easy for me.

What do you remember about learning to read and write?

What actions did you take to make your past work for you, not against you? 

Got a book inside you and don’t know where to start? 

Your words and your story matter!  

Let’s find a way to make it happen and turn your book ideas from dreams into reality. 

Offering you an invitation and opportunity to join my FREE 21 Day Write from Your Heart Journaling Invitation starting 1st August 2019 online via a private Facebook group to discover your authentic voice within. 

Contact directly to request to join and to discuss your writing goals and options of support.  

What’s the best that can happen when you write from your heart? 

 

22 Jul

Blog

The Seeds You Plant Today Become the Story of Your Future 

Your Story Needs to be Told 

On researching why people don’t write, stop writing or simply give up on the dream it became evident to me the emotional side of writing needs to be dealt with first and foremost. 

Writing isn’t about writing, it’s about showing up as who you are.  Confidently sharing your message.   Writing and speaking from your heart regardless of what other people think, say or do.  It’s about gaining courage, sharing your truth and growing into YOU.

‘’Your life tells a story and there is someone out there who needs to hear it.  You may think your story is not sensational, but it does not have to be sensational.  It just has to be sincere.  If your audience can relate to you and your experiences, and chances are they will, then you need to tell what you have been through, share your life, share your love and share your message with the world’’ Mark Brown 1995 World Champion public speaker.

I will leave you with this thought.  Once you take action, get yourself out of your way and ditch the limiting beliefs about writing and becoming an author.  Writing is easy!

You may as well start writing from your heart! Contact to get started on your writers journey.