12 Jun

Author Confessions: Part Two

I was fifteen, neither a child, not an adult in limbo-land.  Part of me still wanting to play with Fuzzy Felts and Etch a Sketch and the other part, immersed in Rimmel Twilight Teaser Lipstick, jumper dresses and heels I couldn’t walk in.  Crimped hair, Duran, Duran and ‘Adam Ant’ were calling me.  As for boys, they were still stinky and yucky and yet there was a curiosity building. 

Author Confessions
’’When you are true to yourself, you can express all of who you are, holding nothing back.  By doing so, you gain a sense of self-acceptance and confidence.  As a writer and author, this is part of the journey of daring to be you, being brave enough to be real no matter how ugly it gets and sharing your story. ‘’ Wendy Fry

Author Experience

My wake-up call to falling in love with writing freely from my heart was in secondary school when ‘Mr Howard’, the English Teacher at Sutton West set a homework essay to write on the topic” My Family.” This writing project was BANG on time, and I couldn’t wait to spew the contents of my heart.  My parents were getting a DIVORCE. I had no idea what a DIVORCE was though it is sure as hell worse than LEARNING THE ALPHABET!

Growing up was a confusing time for me.  All that I had known had become unknown.  I felt like a zombie, staggering about in a stunned daze.

I didn’t tell a soul about how I was feeling.  Instead, I wrote pages and pages about My Family.  Pen and paper became my trusted friend. Communicating in a new way without fear of judgement, blame or upsetting either parent, I wrote out my deepest hurts and fears. 

I knew in that turning point moment, swinging on my wonky chair by the window in the English hut, 5B my life would never be the same because I’d fallen in love with writing.  Writing truthfully about my heartfelt experiences was then and still is now totally freeing. 

As a result of this life-changing poop storm, homework of the essay kind took on a new meaning and my writing ability improved prolifically.  Not writing for reward or recognition, purely to release emotional pain, it was an unexpected bonus to receive A’s in red pen for my English work.

I nearly kissed Mr Howard for introducing me to ‘writing from my heart’, but he had an orange beard with some of his lunch attached and the overwhelming stale smell, I rapidly reigned in that idea.  The man was a genius, a master in the making; he knew the power of words and how they can change lives. I am genuinely grateful for that day.  

Author’s Story & Attitude

So, you see, ‘My Story’ and my writing journey began out of shock, fear, confusion and uncertainty.  I do believe writing from my heart saved my life and got me through those dark days. 

You are not what happened to you – YOU define who you become – Wendy Fry

My BIG WHY (the reason I write) is plain and simple.  I write to Help Other People Evolve.  To encourage them to share their story and write from their hearts. 

Be sure to share the words of your heart with your journal as a starting point to writing your first blog, self-help book, memoir or novel.  Perhaps you will agree, it’s about time you set your words free? Write from Your Heart, my third book will show you how.

Feel free to feedback on your experience of learning to read and write in the comments below. I’d love to find out what you’re working on and how I may be of support to you as a writing coach and mentor.

Author Bio

 

Write from Your Heart – Amazon Bestseller. Order your copy here

Wendy Fry – Writing Coach, Ghostwriter and Therapist with over twenty years in the writing and wellbeing industry will empower you to set and achieve your personal and writing goals. Offering transformational, simple, and practical strategies, you will discover your innate confidence and creativity to attract the success you deserve.  www.wendyfry.com  Helping you write from your heart.

Bestselling Author of Write from Your Heart, Mothers & Daughters & Find YOU, Find LOVE Available in e-book and paperback for your enjoyment.  Order your copy of Write from Your Heart Here

11 Jun

Author Confessions

Twenty-six letters of the alphabet are shaping your life.

How will you use your words to work for you?

Author Confessions
You can change your life through writing!

Author Confessions: Part One

From an early age, I hated writing.  As much as I tried, tongue sticking out in concentration, trying to remember the shape and the curve of each letter, I could not get it right.  My little fingers, gripping a stubby pencil and saying ‘bottoms’ when I missed out sections of the alphabet or confused the letters back to front it was infuriating.   Perhaps you have been there too? 

I dreaded having to recite the alphabet though I must admit, the ‘L, M, N, O, P’ section was the most fun.  Taking a deep breath in when I got to this part, puffing up my chest in a sing-song voice and waving my arms about as if I was conducting an orchestra, I always remembered the ‘lemon part’ as I called it!

Join me now, stand up, take a breath and in your best singing voice let’s have a rendition of ‘’L, M, N, O, P’’ and have a little shimmy with it if you must.

Grumpy, tearful, and afraid of ‘THE ALPHABET’ which seemed as bad as saying a rude word and not knowing what it meant, I KNEW IT WAS BAD!  I sat cross-legged, on the chocolate coloured carpet in the house I grew up in, 13 Milton Road, Wimbledon SW19 in despair. My chubby legs were full of pins and needles from lack of movement, surrounded by balls of scrunched up paper.  Eyes streaming with tears and crying hysterically as my mother’s angry face looked fit to burst because I could not learn the alphabet as quickly as she wanted me to. 

The memory of her shouting and pointedly waving her index finger, ‘’you’ll learn this bloody alphabet if it kills me,’’ in the confused mind of a four-year-old didn’t I want to get it right in case it killed my mother. 

Subconsciously I was blocking myself from writing.  I know the therapists amongst you will be nodding with understanding right now. 

How will your future change when you write the story of your past and leave it there? – Wendy Fry

Wendy Fry Author Ghostwriter Writing Coach
You are not what happened to you. Use your experience shape who you become!

Author’s Style & Tone

Your beliefs about writing and the power of your words ultimately shape your life.   

If you think it is hard to write or become an author, it will be. 

What do you remember about learning to read and write? 

Was it a joyful experience learning the alphabet or one which may have blocked you from achieving success as a writer up to now?

Write your account and detail what you remember about your learning experiences in a journal.

Where are you now in relation to starting or completing your first book and is the ending of the story you are telling compelling?

What stories have you been telling yourself about what could go wrong?  Are they true?  Where is the evidence expert in you thinking?

What’s your reason to write and how will using your words to your best advantage serve you?

Chapter and verse, self-help book, memoir, fiction novel, children’s book, a blog post, website content, even your text messages and emails all started with intention and a passion for writing. 

Twenty-six letters of the alphabet are shaping your life. 

How will you use your words to work for you?

We are all authors. Write your story into being.   

Author Bio

Wendy Fry – Writing Coach, Ghostwriter and Therapist with over twenty years in the writing and wellbeing industry will empower you to set and achieve your personal and writing goals. Offering transformational, simple, and practical strategies, you will discover your innate confidence and creativity to attract the success you deserve.  www.wendyfry.com  Helping you write from your heart.

Bestselling Author of Write from Your Heart, Mothers & Daughters & Find YOU, Find LOVE.

Wendy Fry Author Ghostwriter Writing Coach
Working with you and for you sharing your message, your passion and your purpose. When you write from your heart, your words will not fail you!
07 Jun

JOURNALING INTERVENTIONS TO REDUCE STRESS & IMPROVE CREATIVE THINKING

Journaling and writing by hand helps you to understand your behaviours, stressors, emotions, thoughts, feelings, and motivators.  Writing about the crud of life as well as the juicy and fun parts allows you to become more solution-focused than problem-centred.

Journaling Therapy, Journaling Techniques, Journaling Intervention
The writing process in an outlet for all kinds of emotional overwhelm. You can tell anything you like to your journal, and it won’t bat an eyelid – Wendy Fry

Side effects recorded by my private journaling case study clients are a noticeable improvement in relationships, assertive communication, improved confidence, understanding of self, clarity of thoughts, and noticing an increase in wellbeing. 

Those who write every day consistently felt happier, lighter and freer. 

Journaling about overwhelming emotions provides catharsis helping you let go of negative thoughts and everyday stresses along with your responses to them.

The following statistics indicate a research-based study across a range of journaling styles. 

Keeping a mood diary of thoughts, feelings, emotions, and behaviours while experiencing depression has been known to boost mood and lessen the symptoms of negative emotions. 

  • People diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder repeated significantly lower depression scores after three days of expressive writing for twenty minutes a day (Krpan, Kross, Berman, Deldin, Askren and Jondies, 2013)
  • Reduces the physical symptoms of health problems, and anxiety in women (LaClaire, 2008)

SELF-HELP STRATEGIES TO BEAT DEPRESSION

Focusing on and writing about what is going well boosts mood. Gratitude journaling also sees improvement in the reduction of depressive symptoms and duration of the problem.

  • Boost long-term well-being, improve length and quality of sleep encourage exercise and reduce physical pain and symptoms through gratitude journaling (Emmons and McCullogh, 2003)
  • Gratitude journaling is an aid to help you make progress toward your goals (Emmons and Mishra, 2011)
Gratitude Journaling, Creative Writing, Creative Skills
Journaling helps you at the deepest level to share your story and voice your thoughts, feelings, joys, hopes and fears.  A place to record the innermost workings of your heart and mind – Wendy Fry
  • Begin the process of journaling freely writing by hand what comes into your mind or using the journaling prompts and exercises include in Write from Your Heart
  • Notice any repetitions of your thoughts, feelings, behaviours, and emotions you record within your journal
  • Reflect upon the benefits gained from journaling
  • With new awareness, what positive changes and actions can you take toward creating a happier future for yourself?
  • What have you noticed about your mood after journaling consistently for a minimum of 21 days?

WRITING SKILLS TO IMPROVE MENTAL HEALTH

Writing Skills to Improve Mental Health
‘’Being aware of the past is helpful.  Living there isn’t.  Now is the time to get on with the joy of living and writing from your heart ~ Wendy Fry

Write from Your Heart, the authors third book is available on Amazon.  It offers the reader a range of engaging writing invitations, inspiring prompts, and author tips to support you in gaining confidence as a writer and sharing your story.

Writers Block Journaling Techniques, Writing Skills Reference

This easy to apply writing guide includes powerful principles to overcome the fear of writing, encouraging you to keep your name on the page and your words flowing. The principles shared may support in improving physical. emotional and mental health.

You will gain the following benefits as you read through:

  • Tools and techniques to get you in ‘The Write Frame of Mind’
  • Journaling invitations to express your voice confidently 
  • Guidance on how to feel comfortable unleashing the power of your truth
  • Heart-centred exercises to revive a tired mind and body to create writers flow
  • Prompts to write a better story for yourself
  • Access to The Spotlight Process tapping into your innate creativity with confidence
  • Topic ideas to keep you engaged on your writing journey
  • Exercises for self-journaling and creative writing groups
  • Processes to boost your writing flow
  • Guidelines to support you in finding your preferred journaling style
  • Writing invitations to aid personal transformation and healing
  • Tips for integrating journaling into your daily routine
  • Prompts to set your author voice free

Journaling has many health and wellbeing benefits, but it doesn’t stop there.  As writers, if we get blocked on a writing a page, a chapter, back cover synopsis or in defining our unique message there is much we can do to support ourselves in writing our thoughts down by hand. 

My best advice is if overwhelming emotions prevail in your life, journaling is one of the best ways to gain emotional catharsis and release the build-up of what is left unexpressed. 

Releasing the thoughts of a busy mind frees up your focus and energy so you can get back to the business of writing from your heart.

Author Bio 

Wendy Fry Author Ghostwriter Writing Coach
When nothing is certain – writing is possible – Wendy Fry

Wendy Fry – Writing Coach, Ghostwriter and Therapist with over twenty years in the writing and wellbeing industry will empower you to set and achieve your aspiring author goals. Offering transformational, simple, and practical strategies, you will discover your innate confidence and creativity to attract the success you deserve. 

18 May

We Are All Authors

Only you know your story.  Isn’t it about time you wrote it from your heart?

The writing prompts and exercises shared in Write from Your Heart will help you understand your past, present and future exploring various journaling methodologies.

The words of your heart matter – Now is the time to set them free!

Your words and your story matter

JOURNALING – HOW TO GET STARTED

What you need to get started:

A desire to make a positive change for yourself first and foremost. 

  • This book
  • Your amazing self
  • Your Thoughts 
  • Your Heart
  • A sense of curiosity
  • Pen & paper

Keep journaling simple: Pen and paper, journal, loose-leaf paper or notebook is all that’s needed.  You may wish to carry a pocketbook or diary around with you or by your bedside to make notes and journal entries when the writing mood hits, and I promise you, it will. 

The more you write, the more you want to.  In my experience, you may find yourself reaching out for your journal as the best means of personal expression and support. Your journal is there for you when you wish to speak freely.

JOURNALING TIPS

  • Write every day (start with ten minutes and build up to twenty minutes or more)
  • Make it easy (pen and paper or notebook)
  • Write from your heart uncensored
  • Care more about substance and less about style, grammar and punctuation
  • Recognise the importance of journaling and how regular self-expression can improve your life

Copy the following prompts into the front of your journal for easy reference

  • How will this journal piece support me as an author?
  • What benefits did I gain from writing this journal entry?
  • What did I find particularly interesting about this piece?
  • What have I learnt about myself personally or professionally in this piece of writing?
  • Based on my experience and my journal entry, who else may benefit from reading my words?
  • How can I best use my experience in the form of a book to inspire my reader?
  • How is my life experience translatable into a critical message for those reading?
  • What words of wisdom can I share as an author to help others heal, evolve and transform? 
  • What ideas and themes do I notice for future books, blogs and topics to share with my audience?
  • What can I choose to do now do to make the rest of my day, evening, week, month or year ahead even better after considering what I have recorded?

Whatever life challenges you have overcome, the ‘poop’ you may be trying to wade through right now or your fears for the future, please know and remember, you carry the solution to any problem inside yourself. 

Benefits of using Write from Your Heart processes :

‘’Everything is easy with your uncomplicated guidance, thanks.’’ Lara 

‘’Thank you so much, Wendy, for your wealth of knowledge provided.’’ Loretta

‘’Your programme gave me the new perspective I needed to write and publish my first book.  Thank you, Wendy.’’ Jillian

I encourage you to use the exercises shared throughout Write from Your Heart to bring balance to your thinking and activate the words of your heart.  In doing so, when you write uncensored, you learn about yourself and the world at large.  Take time to understand your behaviours, stressors, emotions, thoughts, feelings and motivators. 

Writing about the crud of life as well as the juicy and fun parts allows you to become more solution-focused than problem-centred. The more you write the easier it becomes. Books are made of writing.

We are all authors. Isn’t it about time your wrote the story of your life?

You find many in roads and out roads through journaling which bring new beginnings and undiscovered horizons for writing opportunities.  You may even find the thought of the uncertainty becomes exciting for you and welcome each new day knowing whatever happens you can handle it.

All changes, both the planned and shocking ones, require inner mastery as does writing and completing a book.   I have written Write from Your Heart while amid a global crisis. My hope is, with awareness, you too can adapt and gain flexibility when life is unknown and take one day at a time savouring the positives in life.

Some of my clients using the journaling process alongside coaching and therapeutic support state they sleep better and have an improvement in energy and find the joy of life returns. 

If you know, before starting your writing journey, you will benefit from my coaching and mentoring to include emotional support do reach out to discuss my range of support options. www.wendyfry.com 

Every day is a great day to write from your heart ~ Wendy Fry

Author Bio 

Write from Your Heart and Discover Your Author Voice Within

Wendy Fry – Writing Coach, Ghostwriter and Therapist with over twenty years in the writing and wellbeing industry will empower you to set and achieve your personal and writing goals. Offering transformational, simple, and practical strategies, you will discover your innate confidence and creativity to attract the success you deserve.  www.wendyfry.com 

29 Apr

Get the Nation Writing During COVID- 19

Surrey Author Helps Aspiring Writers Make the Most of Lockdown

Whether you’re calling it lockdown or writing retreat, it’s all about perspective

Wendy Fry, a Surrey author who has completed her third book Write from Your Heart during the coronavirus lockdown, wants to get the nation writing. “Life doesn’t need to be limiting when you take to journaling to help you through unexpected change.” states the author.

With business uncertainty looming.  Wendy’s in-person support and writing workshops cancelled.  Instead of being defeated, it made the Sutton author more determined to finish her third book amidst the COVID- 19 outbreak proving there are new ways to break out even in lockdown. 

Preferring to call the ‘stay at home’ directive a ‘Writing Retreat,’ Wendy believes it’s possible to change the way you look at things and use time effectively.  There may be things you can’t do though there is much you can do when you put your mind, heart and soul into it.  Sutton author made it her mission to complete her project in lockdown to create something tangible, which will benefit others longterm. 

Here are just a few of the general benefits to journaling during uncertain times

  • Used as an outlet to record thoughts, feelings and emotions as and when they occur
  • Helps you understand your past, present and future thinking
  • Connects you to discovering joy and gratitude in the present moment
  • Supports you in writing about your life, hopes and dreams
  • Journaling enables you to express how you think and feel without judgement or opinion
  • External means of support and constant companion

You have a story to tell, a unique message to share, an authentic voice wanting to speak and be heard.  Your story, your truth, the words of your heart matter.  Now is the time to set them free amidst the COVID- 19 pandemic.   Let your fears motivate you and write from your heart.

JOURNALING – What you need to get started:

  • A desire to make a positive change for yourself first and foremost
  • Your amazing self
  • Your thoughts
  • Your heart
  • A sense of curiosity
  • Pen & paper

Keep journaling simple: Pen and paper, journal, loose-leaf paper or notebook is all that’s needed.  You may wish to carry a pocketbook or diary around with you or by your bedside to make notes and journal entries when the writing mood hits, and I promise you, it will. 

The more you write, the more you want to.  In my experience, writing can be a healthy addiction, and you may find yourself reaching out for your journal as the best means of personal expression and support. You can tell anything you want to your journal, and it won’t bat an eyelid. 

JOURNALING TIPS

  • Write every day (start with ten minutes and build up to twenty minutes or more)
  • Make it easy (pen and paper or notebook)
  • Write from your heart uncensored
  • Care more about substance and less about style, grammar and punctuation
  • Recognise the importance of journaling and how regular self-expression can improve your life

Wendy’s third self-help book Write from Your Heart, is due for a May 4th launch because let’s face it in the words of Obi-Wan Kenobi we all need to hear ” may the force be with you.”

20% of the 2020 profits from Write from Your Heart are being donated to St Helier Hospital.

Wendy Fry, a sole-trader and a finalist in the South London Business Awards 2019, is committed to inspiring you to use your experiences to work for you not against you.  Your past need not define you, let it shape who you become.

Beta readers of her book latest book have expressed great enthusiasm for writing from the heart:

“There is a possibility that I could fall in love with writing.  Wendy, your work and teachings are so powerful.” Louise.

“All I can say is “WOW” what an inspiring person you are Wendy.   Thank you so much for everything you have shared.  I don’t think anyone could have asked for more from you.” Ann

“You have provided an incredible foundation as a platform for my book, going forward.” Christine

“I learned that when I connected with my heart, the writing did flow.  No halting or procrastination. Thank you for that, Wendy.” Peggy

“At times, we find ourselves holding back instead of telling our story. By journaling, we find the real you, the authentic you. Read, Write from Your Heart and with Wendy’s guidance, your words will become magical.  In this book, you will discover how to ‘own’ your words, to develop your skill as a writer, and how to be brave. Yes, brave, brave enough to heard and to reveal the real you.” Foreword by Anne Jirsch, author of Future Vision Your Working Life   

Write from Your Heart is available on Amazon or direct from the author for bulk discounts for your writing group, community projects and as thank you gifts to the key workers in your area.  Both e-book and paperback versions will be available for the 4th May 2020.

Whether you’re an aspiring author, structuring content for a blog or simply want to fall in love with writing the practical exercises shared within Write from Your Heart will inspire you to move out of your own way and empower your author voice within. 

Let’s get the nation writing – we are in this together!

Author Bio: Wendy Fry – Writing Coach, Ghostwriter and Therapist with over twenty years in the writing and wellbeing industry will empower you to set and achieve your aspiring author goals. Offering transformational, simple, and practical strategies, you will discover your innate confidence and creativity to attract the success you deserve.  www.wendyfry.com

 

22 Apr

Blog

The Seeds You Plant Today Become the Story of Your Future 

Your Story Needs to be Told 

On researching why people don’t write, stop writing or simply give up on the dream it became evident to me the emotional side of writing needs to be dealt with first and foremost. 

Writing isn’t about writing, it’s about showing up as who you are.  Confidently sharing your message.   Writing and speaking from your heart regardless of what other people think, say or do.  It’s about gaining courage, sharing your truth and growing into YOU.

‘’Your life tells a story and there is someone out there who needs to hear it.  You may think your story is not sensational, but it does not have to be sensational.  It just has to be sincere.  If your audience can relate to you and your experiences, and chances are they will, then you need to tell what you have been through, share your life, share your love and share your message with the world’’ Mark Brown 1995 World Champion public speaker.

Once you take action, get yourself out of your way and ditch the limiting beliefs about writing and becoming an author.  Writing is easy!

You may as well start writing from your heart! Contact to get started on your writers journey.