12 Aug

Real Life

Have you heard the saying ‘’what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger?’’ 

Real-life isn’t always kind.  Anyone of us may experience a setback, an overwhelming challenge or something which takes us off the course of action we had planned.  No one is infallible to ‘real life.’ 

You can read about some of the automatic negative and overwhelming thoughts we may each experience when the ‘poop hits the fan’ adding  fuel to the fire right here.

In times of stress, in my life experience as a coach and mentor I’ve listened to people shout ‘’Life Sucks,’’ and ‘’Stop the ride I want to get off’’ or worse still” I can’t take it anymore.” The information shared here will support you in exploring your thinking in relation to life’s stressors and to question is life really as bad as you think it to be.  

All those worries, fears and imaginings.  How much of that mountain of stress came true?  All that anxiety you put yourself through – for what?  Time wasted worrying about ‘what if’ this, that or the other happens when there is no evidence it will come true except in your thinking?

So – over to you.  Let’s go there, let’s address ‘real life.’ Take my hand if you need to, I got my big girl panties on and we can do this okay? 

What’s your catchphrase when life takes you down and the going gets tough?

Write about a time in your life when you were screaming your little head off and at the end of your tether.

Perhaps right now, you’re dealing with issues you hadn’t foreseen, and the pressure is building up – write about it, please.   You can thank me for being pushy later… 

Write about your experiences freehand in a journal express what it feels like to be living real life when it’s in its most raw form.  

What have you had enough of? 

What keeps you awake at night?

Write that stull down before you go to sleep! So, you can actually, yes sleep. Makes sense, right? 

Journaling has considerable positive health benefits.  Emotional, physical and mental health can all be improved through writing, so much so my third book ‘Write from Your Heart-Discover your authentic voice through journaling’ due for release in 2020 is dedicated to this subject.  If you can’t wait that long to get the facts, contact me here and let’s get the party started. 

In addition to writing about life’s challenges as and when they hit, it will also support you to write about your inner strengths.  Resilience.  Attitude and personal ability detailing how you moved beyond past problems and what you did move through life being a b*tch.  

For every problem there is a solution.  I believe you will find it.  I do, I believe in you.  Can you go there with me and believe this for yourself? 

Did you know, you can even write words of encouragement from your ‘future self’ to the you that’s sitting there reading this blog post right now?  It’s easy to write this way, try it and see.  The you who has moved beyond today’s challenges will love to hear the ‘future you’ s loving, nurturing and understanding voice of the heart. 

What reassuring words do you need to hear right now?  Write them down. 

Everything will be okay in the end…  

Where you’re at right now isn’t the end.  It’s a phase you are going through.  This too will come to pass. 

Life is precious and we are truly blessed to be here.  

We may forget at times to enjoy life and find happiness no matter how small when everything seems overwhelming. 

Life is worth celebrating when we stop to pause.

Take a moment.  Join me right now.  Stop.  Slow your breathing down.   Take nice, deep and easy breaths in and out, again.  Repeat.  Notice you are still breathing – amazing isn’t it.  

You are here right now.   It’s okay.  You’re going to be okay.

Give thanks to you.  A moment of self-appreciation.  A pat on the back.  A smile of acknowledgement.  After all, look how far you’ve come.  You are amazing.

Living to Tell the Tale

  • What’s your journey, what have you overcome despite all odds?
  • What makes you personally grateful to have the life you are now living?
  • How did you get this far?
  • What would be your best advice to someone who has gone through your own experience?
  • What’s your new motto for life in hindsight of what you’ve learnt and overcome? 

Mine is’ ‘Bring it on.  What’s the best that can happen?’’ 

When you write from your heart freely by handwriting in and of itself can be cathartic, energising, motivating and inspiring so you can get on with the ‘busyness’ of life. 

” A problem shared is a problem halved,” so says ‘the old wives’ tale.’  The truth of it is, if there really is no one to listen to what you have to share your writing journal will always be there for you, ready to support you with a listening ear. 

I believe we are all natural storytellers and have the ability to write and speak from the heart and although this blog is aimed at writers and aspiring authors any of the articles and exercises shared within my blog pages can be adapted to  suit your personal situation and real life.

On the subject of life and writing.  If it really does get too much to handle and the going gets tough you can contact me here to support you in getting to the heart of the matter.  Offering tailored solutions, support programmes, VIP Days and writing retreats to support you with everyday problems and matters of the heart.

 

 

 

 

 

 

08 Aug

Get on your feet – You can make it happen!

When are you are being NICE and when are you being REAL?  What’s the DEAL here? If something isn’t working, change it. 

As a writing and creativity coach those I’m mentoring often complain about not having enough personal space, writing time and privacy or metaphorically speaking juggling too many balls while riding the emotional rollercoaster of the writer’s life.  Whether it’s walking the dogs, cooking the cat – oh, no I mean grooming the cat, children to feed, clothes to wash, shopping to buy and gardens to garden that’s even before the writing day begins! It’s all too much.

You may be scratching your head or your armpit and if you’ve really lost the plot scratching someone else’s and wondering what can I DO about all the balls I’m juggling along with the occasional ‘’balls’’ **B*ll*cks**variations of grammar slipping out in peak moments of tension.

Few people have mind-reading skills and whether it’s your spouse, your boss, co-workers, friends, the bus driver while you are running your little legs off to catch the bus, the people in the line-up at the supermarket checkout being obnoxious or whoever it is you want to ‘just get it and KNOW what you want.’ I suggest you don’t hold your breath waiting for IT to happen. 

So, stop the armpit scratching.  If you’re desperate to carve out writing time, need time for you or simply want whoever it is to pick up their socks or ‘just read my mind and move over.’

I need to have a quiet word in your ear – Complaining won’t change it!

So, without further ado – Get on your feet – You can make it happen!

If something isn’t working this will help you get clear in expressing the voice of your heart and will support, you in starting to be real so others can hear you. Okay….

This fabulous writing invitation and activity relates to setting healthy personal boundaries in relationships, work, life and all the B*ll*cksy areas you are fed up with and get down to the business of creating, writing and carving out personal space and time for you.   You can use this exercise on anything you wish.

 

 

 

Let’s DO IT! 

Get on your feet!

Find two sheets of A4 paper or equivalent

Draw a circle in the middle of each sheet with some space around it.

In the centre of one sheet write ‘This is okay for me’ on the outside ‘This isn’t okay for me.’

On the next sheet in the centre ‘I AM’ and on the outside ‘I AM NOT’

Write in on both sheets the inner and outer statements of where your boundaries are being violated.   What is okay and what’s not okay.  I am this/I am not this.

Go do that activity to define your boundaries and write from your heart.

When you are clear about what you want and what is okay and can begin to take assertive steps forward.  You walk your talk and voice your requests instead hoping people will just be nice and read your mind.  Set the example dear hearts and you may encourage others to be true to themselves – I invite you to be the REAL DEAL after all ‘everyone else is taken.” Dare to be YOU. 

Communicate what you would like, prefer, appreciate, welcome, need and want.  Pass over the mindreading and going blue in the face or scratching other people’s armpits it isn’t pretty.  You have your one life.  How do you want to spend the rest of your time? 

As well as this practical exercise I offer a well-formed outcomes exercise and many other fun and practical ways as part of any support programme Working with you and for you, sharing your message, your passion and your purpose. 

‘’When are YOU being NICE and when are you being REAL?

What’s the best that can happen when you write and speak from your heart?

Contact me here for further fun, creative and energising exercises to Get on Your Feet! 


 Get on your feet – You can make it happen!