If you ever wondered what heart centred connection is, I’m about to share with you some beautiful exercises to get you into your heart and out of your head.
Free Heart: The needs of the heart
It is always possible to be more loving towards ourselves, once we know what our needs are. When we are able to meet those needs independently, we take control of our lives.
When we open our hearts and give love to ourselves, then and only then can we love and honour others and be open to receiving love.
When we are able to experience love from within without being dependent on another for love, we gain a new sense of strength and optimism.
One question I often ask myself is ‘what does my heart need right now?’ Just asking yourself this question on a regular basis tips the balance and brings head and heart into equal position.
Trust your own instincts, go inside, and follow your heart. Right from the start. Go ahead and stand up for what you believe in. As I’ve learned, that is the path to happiness – Lesley Ann Warren
Heart Centred Connection Exercise: What does my heart need?
Ask yourself ‘’what does my heart need right now?’’ and notice how it answers.
Does your heart connect with you through feelings, words, pictures or a combination of these things?
Often there is an intuitive knowing of what the heart needs ‘you just know’ without necessarily being aware of how you know.
Being aware of your own needs and how you can meet them for yourself is a huge turning point in getting out of your head and into your heart.
Consider your unmet needs from childhood; it is never too late to meet those needs now as an adult.
Sometimes, we lose connection with our hearts. We go into our heads looking outside of our hearts for love, instead of looking within.
This exercise will lead you back to heart centred connection.
Copy out the picture of heart quadrant in a journal or on pieces of paper (or go to www.wendyfry.com to download a larger version)
Write or draw symbols or pictures inside your heart shaped flower petals of what your heart does in fact need.
Write inside as many of these heart shaped flowers as you can, all the choices, affirmations, loving statements and acknowledgements that make you feel loving and lovable.
For example: peace, love, acceptance, joy, laughter, growth, creativity, expression, love, freedom.
Each and every one of us has different needs of the heart. Record whatever comes up for you when you connect with your heart space.
Trust the answers that it gives you without judgement or analysis.
Completing this exercise daily on waking and sleeping as well as throughout the day if you are able to will have a dramatic effect on your sense of feeling grounded and connected with your heart and your highest truth.
Consider how you may be able to meet each of your hearts needs. For example when I want to experience freedom I go for a walk. When I want to experience joy I watch a funny movie. For creative expression I write or draw.
There are so many ways each of us can meet our hearts needs independently.
A loving heart is the truest wisdom – Charles Dickens
Practical Exercise: Creating possibilities through heart centred connection
Complete the following statements in a journal.
Speak these positive statements out loud, or inside your own head adding your own answers into the blend
- I love seeing myself…
Example: I love seeing myself confident and happy in any situation
- I love feeling…
Example: I love feeling of being connected to myself and others through my heart
- I love hearing…
Example: I love hearing the positive voice inside my heart
- I love knowing…
Example: I love knowing that through heart centred connection my life will be rich and full
- I am aware of…
Example: I am aware of my hearts needs and communicate those needs effectively
There is no instinct like that of the heart – Lord Byron
Mantras of the Heart Exercise
Creating daily mantras and repeating them out loud as well via your internal dialogue will raise your love vibration and heart connection
Please use these as your mantras as your own, adapt or create alternatives which may be more personal to you.
- I accept myself today
- I love myself just as I am
- I think and speak positively about myself from my heart
- I deserve love
- I open my heart to love
- I attract love easily and effortlessly
- I am willing to receive love
- I give love with a good heart
- I nurture myself and my needs
- I choose to do something thoughtful and deserving for myself every day
- I am surrounded by love
- As I move throughout my day I choose to interact with others from the love that is within me
- I seek for the opportunity to notice love in every experience
- I am grateful for each loving experience
- I choose love in my life every day
- I am love
Your heart is full of fertile seeds, waiting to sprout – Morihei Ueshiba
Communicating the hearts needs in relationships
We can communicate our needs to others as part of a loving and equal relationship, though if our needs are not met by another, we still feel empowered by speaking up and being true to ourselves.
If we are consistently honest with ourselves and others about our needs, we no longer feel dis-empowered.
There is no hidden neediness below the surface, you voice your thoughts and feelings assertively knowing that if those needs aren’t met by others you can are still loveable and whole.
Others are not responsible for our happiness, we are.
As we move closer to the new year, now is the time to reflect on the year gone by and ask yourself what your heart needs for 2016.
It is my wish for you that you experience your hearts needs today and every day.
From my heart to yours, with love,
P.S…My first book Find YOU Find LOVE is available at a reduced price for January in kindle format. Happy Reading!