29 Jul

Fear – What Stops You?

Say no to fear and yes to you.  

Now is the time to question your fears. 

Now is the time to challenge your limiting beliefs. 

Now is the time to recognise the outdated behaviours. 

Your past is not your future. 

Being aware of the past is helpful. 

Living there isn’t….

Fear only has to be acknowledged to be transformed.  Getting real with fear is beautiful, it’s freeing, it’s joyful.  It’s like no other feeling when you express what you know inside. 

Turn fear on its head.  Let’s do it together.  Feeling Excited And Ready?  I know I am…

I invite you to acknowledge your fear.  After all, it generally has had a positive intention up to now, most likely trying to keep you safe from some perceived danger or threat.  It hasn’t meant to cause you to harm or hold you back.  Fear was doing it’s best with the knowledge it had.

95% of what we think will happen doesn’t happen and now we’ve discussed that we may as well get down to business and write from the heart!

What story have you been telling others about yourself, your life and experiences which has an undercurrent of fear? 

What do you share about yourself on a first meeting? 

On those dark days when you retreat inside, how do you put yourself down?  What thoughts, actions and behaviours make you unkind towards yourself? 

With fear out of the way, what will communicate about your abilities and strengths?  Hopes, dreams, Joys? 

How will changing the meaning you place on fear and re-writing the story of your future serve you? 

What’s Your Story?  Rewriting your past – Transforming your future

I know I’ve been guilty of being a ‘so-called victim.’  I won’t even go there, I know those stories inside out and back to front.  They was sucking the life out of me and probably not very nice for those who are on the receiving end of draining and complaining.  I used to tell those stories at any given opportunity.  My negative experiences became my comfort zone, my identity, my go-to which I knew so well.  When I told those stories it was like a bad case of the farts, everyone got a waft of it. Phewwww.  Are you farting on everyone with your story and how does it serve you?

  • What fear-based story are you telling?
  • How long have you been sharing your fear?
  • What part of your experience is hindering you?
  • What is the cost of your fear? 
  • Are you willing to keep paying the price?

You are the author of your life.  You are the narrator, the publisher, the marketer.  What story are you telling?   

I invite you to write a letter to fear – Here’s mine

Dear Fear,

Thank you for protecting me and looking after me, I know you meant well.  I don’t know if you realise, you’ve been stopping me from what I know is in my heart is what I’m really want to do.  I have a calling and a purpose.  I want to live my life, not yours.   

I’m sorry fear, I have to let part of you go now.  I forgive you for the actions you have encouraged me not to take.  I forgive you for the opportunities you held me back from and the things which may have been rather fun. I forgive you for showing up when I didn’t ask you to. 

I want you to work with me now.  I want you to partner me on a new kind of adventure.  I love how you keep me safe from burning my hand, just like when my mother said ‘’ don’t touch the stove.’’ I love how you can make me run fast for the train so I can get to my appointment on time.  I welcome those times when my survival is at the threat to protect me intuitively.  I’m happy to keep that part of you and as for the rest, shall we both let go together with love so we can make the rest of our lives the best of our lives? 

I apologise for not acknowledging before the goodness and your constant giving to me. That was a heck of a lot of giving, all my life so far, all that fear, you obviously love me very much and showed that in the best way you knew how.  I understand you were doing your best to save me from myself , other people and experiences that reminded you of our past.  I am okay now.  I am an adult and I can handle it. 

I now choose to let that 95% of fear which wasn’t helping me go with love and maybe a little bit of glitter because even fear can play, shimmer and have some fun – it’s about time don’t you think?  As we are letting go of fear and there’s a hoofing amount to let go of, in its place, because we have been together for so long,  I ask you to go on an adventure with me.  We can fill that space with something far better.

I want you to stay by my side and show up this time differently.  I invite you to travel with me now so we can Feel Excited And Ready together.  How does that sound?  We can hold hands if you would like to until you are completely comfortable with this new behaviour.  Are you ready to see just how far we can go?  Come on, we can do it.  Let us explore life beyond fear and live it to the full.

I love you.  Thank you, Fear.  You taught me so well.

Wendy

Fear only has to be acknowledged to be transformed.  Getting real with fear is beautiful, it’s freeing, it’s joyful.  It’s like no other feeling when you express what you know inside. 

Your story matters.  Let it out from inside.  Write from your heart!