Christmas for many can be a happy occasion but for others it’s a stressful time of year.
The classic saying ‘let bygones be bygones’ is often easier said than done.
If your thoughts are on all the things that could go wrong over the festive season guaranteed having the expectation will bring more of the same.
The thing is – you don’t have to do what you’ve always done, you don’t have to think how you’re always thought and you don’t have to act and behave in ways which aren’t helpful to you or anyone else.
It’s natural that we may want to protect ourselves from criticism, the judgement of others, expected arguments and the continuation of a family feud but in reality it can be so different.
Just one small change needs to be made and that change begins with you.
Instead of thinking about what you don’t want, focus on the most positive outcome possible then hold the vision and trust the process that this too will come to pass.
The Spotlight Process will help you to stay sane at Christmas enormously.
You might like to copy out and carry around these questions until they become familiar in your thought pattern. Instead of responding in the old way, begin afresh by exploring the meaning and beliefs you are placing on an event, experience or in relation to the person you are in conflict with.
1. Where is my thinking right now? (Past, Present or Future?)
2. What proportion of my thinking is negative?
3. How does it affect me when I focus on the negative?
4. Where is the evidence that what I think will happen will happen?
5. What do I want instead of thinking or feeling this way?
6. Coming from my heart instead of my head what would love do here?
Ready to know more about The Spotlight Process and how embracing and applying this process in your life not just at Christmas will change your reality, simply follow this link which will take you to my first book ‘Find YOU, Find LOVE: Get to the heart of love and relationships using EFT.
Here’s to staying sane at Christmas,
From my heart to yours with love,