01 May

Live, Laugh, Love

May 1st is not only Global Love Day, it’s also World Laughter Day and what a winning combination loving and laughing is.

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I’ve come to realise in recent years the importance of really living life, not just going through the motions and every day blending into another but to actually live my life with passion and purpose to the best of my ability.

In the past six months I personally have experienced bereavements, some closer to home than others, I’ve known of friends losing loved ones and those close to me having health scares.  It’s all too easy to focus on fear and forget to direct our minds to the best possible outcome.  Fear keeps us safe from the worst case scenario but is also keeps us from living life to it’s fullest potential.

I’ve made it my mission to focus on gratitude and appreciate the wins of the day.  I use my mind to remember beautiful experiences, I use my heart to reconnect with love even after someone’s physical body has gone.  I invite you to do the same.  Focus on what is going well, what is working in your life, focus on the things which bring you joy, directing your mind to a higher feeling thought will raise your vibration and increase your overall health and well-being.

My invitation to you at the end of every day is to have an end of day reflection:

  • What did I see today which warmed my heart?
  • What did I hear today which made me smile?
  • What did I taste today which delighted my tastebuds?
  • What did I smell today which brought back happy memories?
  • What did I experience today which made me feel alive?
  • What made me laugh today?
  • What filled my heart with love today?
  • What am I most grateful for today?

Every day may not be a good day though there is something good in everyday ~ Alice Morse Earle

 

17 May

Under the Same Sky

It’s fair to say. Waking up at dawn on a Sunday morning at silly o’clock when most normal folk might be sleeping in has its benefits.

Mornings are when I’m most productive. When my brain is the most creative and when I have the most energy so I’ve taken to waking up with the dawn chorus.

Laying in bed looking out across apricot skies, with tinges of turquoise and florescent greens I marvel at the beauty of nature.

I also wondered who might be coming in from a night out seeing the exact same sky or who may have been woken by a hungry baby or snoring husband, bleary eyed and in need of sleep.

It got me thinking that we all live under the same sky.

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The sky doesn’t belong to anyone, the moon or the sun come to that and at some point maybe you and I have looked at the same stars in wonder, shared the same sunset or indeed the same dawn chorus.

As you go about your day today, tomorrow, next week and all the months and years ahead take some time each day or night to look up at the sky and wonder who else might be doing the exact same thing.

Feel the connection that we share….

You are never alone…

Somewhere…

Someone…

Living under the same sky…

Is thinking of you

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I like it that you and I live under the same sky…

Knowing we are connected through time and space…

Two people with different parents…

Perhaps different nationalities…

Different values and beliefs…

Different hopes and fears…

Different goals and dreams…

We are not separated by these things.  We are connected together through something far greater than ourselves. 

May to September it’s curtains open for me and I naturally wake with the dawn.

Whether you are still sleeping or just waking up to the day….this is for you.

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Under the same sky, you and I.

From my heart you yours with love  x

Wendy

Wendy Fry author of Find YOU, Find LOVE: Get to the heart of love and relationships, available on amazon.

My website www.wendyfry.com offers a range of free love and relationship resources and audio downloads for you to enjoy.  Please do make contact if you would like to work with me in person I have a range of support programmes helping you to live your life with purpose!

03 May

Being or Doing?

Do you class yourself as a doer?

Someone who rarely sits still, always getting on with the next project, idea, theory.

Yep, me too, I can be like that ‘most of the time’

I’ve been practising ‘being’ instead of ‘doing’ today and I have to say…I’m loving it.

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As a self employed therapist and author I’m the boss, the cleaner, the admin assistant, the blogger, the post opener, the banker, the errand runner and the tea maker…the list of what I do on most days, including the weekends is pretty endless but I do it all with a loving heart purely because I love what I do and want to make a difference in the world in which we live.

I often set my clients ‘Home Play‘, which is really ‘Homework’ (don’t tell!)

I encourage them to ‘BE’ Instead of ‘DO’.

So today I practised what I preach. I took the day off from doing and just let myself be totally in the moment.

Sitting in sunlight, reading and listening to some relaxing music I simply let go of the doing, the striving the  achieving and allowed myself to submerge into stillness.

Having some valuable time out from thinking, ticking off lists, planning and ‘doing’ there is no greater medicine than this!

By being, I noticed so much more.

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The feeling of sunlight on my face…

The stir of a passing breeze in my hair…

The joy of living in this beautiful world…

The eloquent tunes of birdsong…

Blossom petals floating from a nearby tree…

Insects going about their work…

The world was alive with doing though I was simply being…

It’s as though time stood still…

It’s hard to describe what contentment means though for me this is as close as I can get…

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So are you a ‘doer’?  Nothing wrong with that.

I invite you to..simply be……

Tomorrow is a bank holiday in the UK.  It’s a whole beautiful day to BE!

86,000 seconds where you have the opportunity to simply live in the moment….

Please do let me know what you noticed by being, rather than doing.

There is so much to hear, see and feel when we stop doing and start being. 

For me ‘being’ today has fuelled my passion for life, living and loving.

Tomorrow isn’t promised.

Today…just ‘BE’ ….

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You’ll be glad you did. 

X From My heart to yours with love

Wendy

www.bepositive.me.uk

Helping you to help yourself live the rest of your life with purpose! 

01 Feb

Always checking?

Are you always checking?

In this modern word of technology and instant access to just about anything your heart’s desire.  It’s all too easy to get caught up with constant ‘checking’ and doing instead of simply being.

How much time are you spending checking? 

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# Do you find yourself constantly checking Facebook for status updates?

# Do you keep checking your phone for texts or answerphone messages?

# Keep checking Twitter or Pinterest just to be sure you haven’t missed anything?

# Checking your bank balance to be sure you haven’t gone overdrawn?

# Checking the news to see what’s happening in the world?

# Checking your front door is locked and your hair strengtheners unplugged?

# Checking your watch to see how long it is until home time?

# Checking the bath isn’t overflowing, the gas is off, the lights are off?

# Checking your alarm is on for the morning?

PHEW!  I’m exhausted just typing that.

Be aware of your own personal energy and the time spent with all that checking and how draining it actually is….

It’s time when you could just be ‘being’ instead.

What is it you are really seeking if we drill down to the bare bones of all that checking?

  • Could it be that you’re looking for love and connection through social media?
  • Do you have a need for safety and security by checking that your home is safe?
  • Are you looking for love messages on your phone that may mean that you need to feel needed loved and cared for?
  • Do you need to feel abundant, rich and wealthy?
  • Would you like more freedom to spend your time as you wish?
  • Do you want to feel accepted, approved of, included?

Next time you find yourself checking anything, stop for a moment and ask yourself what do I really need right now and how can I provide that for myself?

We can create freedom in our minds….

We can create love in our hearts….

We can create a sense of feeling safe in the world….

We can create a connection to source/God/The Universe/Life Force Energy all by going within.

Be the creator of your own life…

Instead of looking externally for love, acceptance, approval and freedom, those things can be found within. 

  • If you want more love, how can you be more loving to yourself?
  • If you want more acceptance, what parts of yourself are you not accepting?
  • If you want more freedom how can you create the feeling of freedom within?

There are times when things will need to be checked perhaps once a day.  Times when it’s important to make sure your home is secure.  Times when you need to make and receive calls and texts.

Simply be aware from this moment on how much time you spend reacting instantly to status updates, emails, texts, calls, how much time you spend looking outside of yourself for what you really seek.  If it’s taking you away from ‘being’, what’s the cost to your emotional and physical health and wellbeing?

What are you putting outside of yourself that you can easily generate within?

Set yourself free from doing and simply be…

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If you need some help in managing your time and emotions you’re in the right place.  Contact me to learn how with a few simple techniques you find the love, approval, acceptance and freedom that’s been inside of you all along and that you maybe just forgot about.  www.wendyfry.com