09 Aug

Your Words Changed My Life

Words have the power to harm, hurt, heal and transform.  How will you use yours?

Words can make us or break us.  Lift us up or tear us down.   Bring us joy and last our whole life long. 

What words spoken by another do you carry around with you today which are echoes from words said in bitterness, rage or anger?  

What words do you remember which made your heart sing? 

Each of us has an inspiring message to share.  A unique voice waiting to be heard.  Many say in a small and childlike voice ”if only I were brave enough.”

What aren’t you saying which needs to be expressed either by talking it through or journaling? 

The words trapped inside once released can be transformational.  Pivotal.  Life-changing and lifesaving.

Sharing what we have to say with positive intention and love offers immense value to those on the receiving end of our communication.  Speaking freely from your heart sharing your love, kindness and consideration inspires others to share the voice of their heart.

What words would you have liked to have heard growing up? 

Which specific words do you wish your spouse, boss, or family member would say or have said in the past? 

What were the ‘missing words’ you never heard from that one person whose words would have made all the difference to you now? 

Say those words to yourself right now. Remind yourself of these words every day until you believe them for yourself.  ‘’I love you.’’ ‘’You are amazing.’’ ‘’It’s great having you here on this team.’’ ‘’You mean so much to me.’’ ‘’Thank you.’’  ”You rock.” ”You are the best.”

If you don’t share your words, they stay locked away inside.   Don’t die with your words inside you. 

Set your words free.   It’s never too late to say ‘’I’m sorry,” ”I forgive you.” or ‘’I love you’’ to yourself or another.  

May your words change lives.  Heal.  Help.  Transform. 

Go share your words now.  Someone’s life may depend on them including your own…

 

08 Aug

Get on your feet – You can make it happen!

When are you are being NICE and when are you being REAL?  What’s the DEAL here? If something isn’t working, change it. 

As a writing and creativity coach those I’m mentoring often complain about not having enough personal space, writing time and privacy or metaphorically speaking juggling too many balls while riding the emotional rollercoaster of the writer’s life.  Whether it’s walking the dogs, cooking the cat – oh, no I mean grooming the cat, children to feed, clothes to wash, shopping to buy and gardens to garden that’s even before the writing day begins! It’s all too much.

You may be scratching your head or your armpit and if you’ve really lost the plot scratching someone else’s and wondering what can I DO about all the balls I’m juggling along with the occasional ‘’balls’’ **B*ll*cks**variations of grammar slipping out in peak moments of tension.

Few people have mind-reading skills and whether it’s your spouse, your boss, co-workers, friends, the bus driver while you are running your little legs off to catch the bus, the people in the line-up at the supermarket checkout being obnoxious or whoever it is you want to ‘just get it and KNOW what you want.’ I suggest you don’t hold your breath waiting for IT to happen. 

So, stop the armpit scratching.  If you’re desperate to carve out writing time, need time for you or simply want whoever it is to pick up their socks or ‘just read my mind and move over.’

I need to have a quiet word in your ear – Complaining won’t change it!

So, without further ado – Get on your feet – You can make it happen!

If something isn’t working this will help you get clear in expressing the voice of your heart and will support, you in starting to be real so others can hear you. Okay….

This fabulous writing invitation and activity relates to setting healthy personal boundaries in relationships, work, life and all the B*ll*cksy areas you are fed up with and get down to the business of creating, writing and carving out personal space and time for you.   You can use this exercise on anything you wish.

 

 

 

Let’s DO IT! 

Get on your feet!

Find two sheets of A4 paper or equivalent

Draw a circle in the middle of each sheet with some space around it.

In the centre of one sheet write ‘This is okay for me’ on the outside ‘This isn’t okay for me.’

On the next sheet in the centre ‘I AM’ and on the outside ‘I AM NOT’

Write in on both sheets the inner and outer statements of where your boundaries are being violated.   What is okay and what’s not okay.  I am this/I am not this.

Go do that activity to define your boundaries and write from your heart.

When you are clear about what you want and what is okay and can begin to take assertive steps forward.  You walk your talk and voice your requests instead hoping people will just be nice and read your mind.  Set the example dear hearts and you may encourage others to be true to themselves – I invite you to be the REAL DEAL after all ‘everyone else is taken.” Dare to be YOU. 

Communicate what you would like, prefer, appreciate, welcome, need and want.  Pass over the mindreading and going blue in the face or scratching other people’s armpits it isn’t pretty.  You have your one life.  How do you want to spend the rest of your time? 

As well as this practical exercise I offer a well-formed outcomes exercise and many other fun and practical ways as part of any support programme Working with you and for you, sharing your message, your passion and your purpose. 

‘’When are YOU being NICE and when are you being REAL?

What’s the best that can happen when you write and speak from your heart?

Contact me here for further fun, creative and energising exercises to Get on Your Feet! 


 Get on your feet – You can make it happen!

07 Aug

Time – How are you spending yours?

It’s Time to Stop Wasting Time!

Go grab yourself a loose sheet of paper any size – quick, there’s no time to waste!

 

Fold in 4 equal portions vertically (in half and half again)

 

Along the bottom write the numbers 0 – 120 as 30, 60, 90, along the three folds 0 and 120 at either end

 

Mark off the age you are now on the timeline (you can write it on if you wish) draw or take a picture of what you look like now add this to the diagram

 

Mark off the age you think you will live to (make a mark or write the age you believe you will no longer be living) Imagine what you will look like if you continue as you are…Yes.  Go there.

 

Rip off the past (the numbers before the age you are now) That’s done.  The past is over.

 

Tear off the future you believe you will not live to.  What if you’re right?

 

There is only this amount of time remaining between the age you are now and the age you believe you will live to.   

What are you left with?  What you want to do with your remaining time?

Write that ‘stuff’ down.  Act every single day and make your one life count! 

IT’S TIME TO STOP WASTING TIME.  Start NOW – MAKE CHANGE HAPPEN. 

Make your time a priority and have the time of your life….

Whether you’re an aspiring or published author as a writing and creativity Coach I’m here to empower you to set and achieve your writing goals.  Offering transformational, simple and practical strategies together we will tap into your innate confidence and creativity to attract the success you deserve. 

Working with you and for your sharing your message, your passion and your purpose. www.wendyfry.com – making time for you, because you, your health and your happiness matters and your life may well depend on it.