06 Dec

Shaping Your Future with Love

Following on from last weeks blog Get out of your head and into your heart, this week we explore…

Shaping Your Future with Love


I encourage you to reflect on the following points, to make your future the best it can be.

Ask yourself-

• What do I need to stop thinking about that holds me back from achieving my personal and business goals?

• What do I need to start doing to be more connected with my heart?

• What do I need to do differently to improve my mindset?

• What can I commit to right now that will move me forwards in the direction of my dreams?

Be aware of the thoughts, actions and behaviours which will take you closer to your dreams and then go get ’em!

Communicating the Hearts Needs

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The first step to understanding if you react and respond to life from your head or heart will be to monitor your thoughts, feelings, emotions, and behaviours.

Thoughts create an energetic response in your body.

Noticing what you say to yourself and how his affects you physically as well as emotionally will offer insights into how powerful your thought process is.

Becoming an observer of your thoughts without attaching to them offers you an opportunity to move from head based thinking to heart based feeling.

This is not about criticising yourself for thinking from your head or to berate yourself.  The exercises in this section are designed for you to be very gentle and loving with yourself until you are able to master the art of heart based feeling.

Spend time noticing the content of the chatter in your mind and remind yourself ‘’I am not my thoughts’’.

Not judging yourself as having a thought being right or wrong, simply notice the content of the thought, acknowledging it in the same way you might notice clouds passing across a blue sky.

Catching your thinking and noticing how you are responding and reacting, without labelling yourself as ‘good’ or ‘bad’.

Over time, you will be able to reassure yourself that you are in fact just having thoughts.

Your thoughts are not always fact they are often imaginings of the mind.

Spending time thinking about your thoughts may not be something we normally do, though it will help to always ask yourself as you go about your day reacting and responding to people and events ‘Am I in my head or my heart?’

Recognising the early warning signs that you’re reacting from your head

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Your body is always your best advisor, it responds to your internal dialogue of thoughts and words created in the head.

Listen to your body and you will learn so much about yourself and how you react to different things.

By listening to your body, you will start to notice more and more how your body reacts energetically to internal thoughts and to external events, people and situations depending if you react and respond from head or heart.

You will either feel low negative energy or high energetic vibrations depending on what you are thinking about and reacting to.

Become aware of how your body reflects your thoughts and feelings and using that awareness to bring balance to your thinking which will, in turn, bring balance to your emotions and overall wellbeing when you can move from head to heart.

As you go throughout your day, notice the words you use inside your mind which brings you and your energy down.  These are often head based thoughts that you have attached a story or negative outcome to.

Here are some examples of head based thoughts that create low energy. 

When we tell yourself these things over and over you limit yourself and this creates a negative cycle and physical response that is far from motivating.

Heart based creating is very different feeling, it allows for a different kind of energy experience.


Head Based Thinking


Sleepy Tired
Apathetic Bored
Isolated Lonely
Inferior Depressed
Stupid Ashamed
Remorseful Guilty
Distant Hurt
Sarcastic Hostile
Frustrated Angry
Jealous Selfish
Irritated Hateful
Sceptical Critical
Bewildered Confused
Discouraged Rejected
Insignificant Helpless
Inadequate Submissive
Embarrassed Insecure
Overwhelmed Anxious

Heart Based Feeling


Relaxed Content
Responsive Intimate
Serene Loving
Secure Trusting
Thankful Nurturing
Confident Faithful
Valuable Appreciated
Worthwhile Respected
Successful Proud
Surprised Aware
Optimistic Hopeful
Playful Creative
Amused Cheerful
Stimulating Energetic
Fascinating Sensuous
Daring Excited


  • After reading through and getting a better understanding if you have been reacting from the head or heart which has been the most common way of responding for you up to now?
  • Which way of reacting to life do you prefer?
  • What difference do you notice physically when you alternate between head and heart?

Our thoughts influence our energetic vibration and being aware of this now, I feel sure that you will be more self aware in the future of when your thoughts limit you in some way.

The good news is it’s possible to bring our thoughts into check and re address the balance between head and heart.

Everyone has highs and lows that they have to learn from, but every morning I start off with a good head on my shoulders, saying to myself ‘It’s going to be a good day’ – Lindsay Lohan

I hope you enjoy my weekly blog, on life, love and living.  Please share the love by sharing the blog post if you would like to, thank you.

From my heart to yours,

With Love,

x Wendy

30 Nov

Get out of Your Head and into Your Heart!

When was the last time you were in the dilemma where your heart said yes and your head said no?  

Two parts of you in disagreement, battling with each other for pole position…

How often have you found yourself unable to make decisions based on that inner conflict, not knowing which way to go?

A question I would like you to become familiar with and to apply every time you find yourself reacting to something or someone is to ask yourself:

‘Am I in my head or am I in my heart?’

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Often times we are so much in our heads our heads analysing, judging and constantly weighing up the pros and cons of a situation.

We are so far removed from being in our heart space and connecting in love, that we wouldn’t recognise it if it came up and stared us in the face.

Our heads it’s where our ‘voice of doom/destruction/negative thinking’ lives. It will continue to rear its ugly head until we rein it in.

If we’re not careful, we could let our heads rule our hearts and our future, never considering the heart’s needs or wants.

Wherever you go, go with all your heart – Confucius

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Opening your heart

An open heart is very powerful, it has the capacity to love and be loved.

• Your heart is wise

• If you listen to it you will find that it knows all the answers to all your questions

• Your heart provides you with valuable sources of information

• Your heart has a blueprint for happiness, joy and compassion for yourself and others

• Your heart stores that which you seek…love, contentment, joy

The heart is where our true self resides, that place of inner knowing and intuition, the higher self, the source, our oneness.

Our heart speaks to us in a gentle voice and will guide us back home to ourselves if we stop long enough to listen.

Our heart truly knows what’s best for us if we can get the head out of the way.

Whatever we are waiting for – peace of mind, contentment, grace, the inner awareness of abundance – it will surely come to us, but only when we are ready to receive it with an open and grateful heart – Sarah Ban Breathnach

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Heart Based Exercise: Listening to Your Heart’s Needs

• Listen to your heart’s needs

• Be aware of the fears in your head

• Make a note of where these fears come from. Are they fears from the past, fears related to current concerns or fears about things you imagine happening in the future?

• Bring yourself back to your heart each time you find yourself going back into your head

• Go back to the heart space using heart based breathing, connect with and expand that feeling of love

• Act from the heart in every situation

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Wrist Band Exercise:

This is a great awareness exercise that supports you in bringing head and heart into balance.

  1. Wear a loose elastic band, hair tie, charity wrist band or just your watch around your wrist
  2. Every time you go into your head (over analysing, judging, labelling and categorising) which takes you further away from love, change the item over from one wrist to the other, to bring you back to heart centred awareness
  3. Filter your experiences through your heart space and you will experience life through the filter of love

It’s a very effective and simple exercise that further brings awareness to your thought process and will aid you to re-direct your thinking to that which is more positive

It will show you the habits of your thinking and make you realise where your mind wanders to…you just need to pull it back again

I offer this exercise to my clients and some of the feedback I’ve had is:

‘’ I can’t believe how many of my thoughts are negative and critical ’’

‘’Although I got annoyed at how many times I had to change the band over, it made me laugh when I realised half of what I was worrying about might not even happen’’

‘’My wife and I are now doing this together, I want my dad to do it too and he is so negative’’ (of course this in itself is a negative thought and the band has to be changed over to the opposite wrist)

You can read additional feedback about my services, techniques and the results gained from working with me.

Have fun along the way catching yourself; the more you practice the more you get your head and heart in balance.

Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes – Carl Jung

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From my heart you yours,

With Love,

X Wendy