If you ever wondered whether there was a limit to how happy you can be, how loved and cherished you can feel, how complete you can become, think again…
there is no limit, none at all!
From this moment on, when you get caught up in a story in your mind, please take a moment and reflect:
- What part of your story is a replay of what happened in the past that is negative?
- How often do you tell this story?
- When you tell this story, how do you feel?
- Is your story one that you are creating about the future with a negative expectation based on the past?
- How is thinking in this way limiting you?
- What are the consequences of thinking this way?
- What do you want instead?
The memory on replay or the thought about the future isn’t real though your mind and body may think it is real and you will find your body responding to a thought.
For example if you’re anxious about a past event or something happening in the future that worries you, you may find yourself breathing shallowly, having sweaty palms,have butterflies in your tummy or even start feeling dizzy.
There is no evidence at all except the story in your mind, that the negative aspects of your past will repeat themselves or your future fears will come true. It’s a story that you may have been playing for way too long and when you play that story over and over your body hears that story and will respond with the physical reactions based on your thoughts about fear, sadness, despair etc. The limitations that you place on your future are really just thoughts!
The future is not limited, but your thinking may be. It’s time to change the story.
Power Questions and Practical Exercise
Use the following twelve steps to bring your thoughts back into balance every time you recognise yourself going into automatic negative thinking about love and relationships. Copy out these statements and carry with you until the questioning becomes part of your natural thought process to bring yourself back each time you go into a story.
|1||Am I confusing thought with fact?|
|2||Am I predicting the future negatively?|
|3||Am I jumping to conclusions?|
|4||Am I assuming I can do nothing to change my situation?|
|5||Am I overestimating the chance of disaster?|
|6||Am I thinking in all or nothing terms?|
|7||Am I only paying attention to the negative side of things?|
|8||Am I telling myself I’m not lovable because of things that have happened in my past?|
|9||Am I focusing on my weaknesses and forgetting my strengths?|
|10||What are the advantages and disadvantages of thinking this way?|
|11||Do my negative thoughts help or hinder me?|
|12||If I bring balance to my thinking, what would love do here?|
The Past is Over
The past is over. It’s gone. It’s history. Only your thoughts and energy of ‘The Story’ and these negative experiences keep the past alive. It’s only your thinking and the energy connected to this experience that remains, not the actual experience itself.
Make LOVE Your Story
On a brand new sheet of paper or in a journal, write a story about a day in your life. This will be no ordinary day, it will be the story of your ideal day when you look through the eyes of love – think specifically here about love and relationships and include that in the main content of your writing.
- How will you be thinking differently?
- What will your day look like?
- What will be happening?
- How will you be feeling?
- What will you hear going on around you?
- How will you be spending your time?
Write this story from the truth of who you are. Write it from your heart space where you are open to giving and receiving love.
Take time to go over your story, making sure it’s complete and then read your story every day for a week.
By focusing on what you want, rather than what you don’t want and getting into the energy space of having what you dream of, your dreams are more likely to become a reality. It is also very uplifting to be thinking from the place of what is possible and that everything you have included in your ideal day is achievable.
You will be writing this in the present tense, as if what you want has already come to pass and you are enjoying your life and love relationships.
Please do make contact if you’d like to work with me at www.wendyfry.com You can also download some free resources and audios on love and relaitonships on there too.
I also have a Find YOU, Find LOVE facebook page if you wish to connect there where you will find out more about 365 Days to LOVE. https://wendyfry.com/365-days-love/