18 Jan

PAUSE for Positive Change

We all have the same amount of hours in the day though I know many of you might wish you had more time to either get through your ‘In Tray’, deal with the hundreds of daily emails or simply want more time to connect with your family and friends.

I need to let you know, the secret of success is…Less is more!

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Working yourself into the ground, running on empty and worrying about everything creates stress.

Taking just a few minutes out of your day, brings you back into balance.  Getting you out of your head and into your heart.  By slowing down our thoughts, remembering to breathe and taking a moment to pause, will allow you to de-stress, do more and have time for fun stuff too.

Now is the perfect time to PAUSE and connect with your heart space Any time you find yourself going into your head, pause and use heart centred breathing.

Re-connecting with your heart space will support you in remembering your:




Sense of Self

Energy of Love

Allow the pause to reach your heart space, breathe deeply and allow yourself to fully connect in love.  Feel that love and connection growing and expanding, filling up not only your physical body with beautiful energy.

Blast out that vibrant energy from your heart out into The Universe.

Create a positive ripple of heart connection across the planet.

Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to believe that you do great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you will know when you’ve found it – Steve Jobs

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Heart Based Exercise: Making your future the best it can be

I encourage you to reflect on the following points, to make your future the best it can be. Ask yourself:

• What do I need to stop doing that holds me back from having a more heart centred connection with myself and others?
• What do I need to start doing to allow my heart to open fully?
• What can I commit to right now that will allow for a more heart centred approach to life and living?
Heart Based Exercise (apply daily as many of these heart centred self care choices as you possible)

I have listed below some activities that will aid you in being more loving to yourself and making time for you to be with you. What can you choose from these examples that will make you feel pampered, cherished and loved and what other ways can you find to love you?

Affirmations – starting and ending the day with positive affirmations while connection from your heart will aid towards general well-being creating balance and positive energy flow.

Being out in nature – connecting to nature is very restorative and reduces mental fatigue. It is both healing and cleansing, being out in fresh air and green spaces restoring one’s emotional health and physical wellbeing on many different levels.

Complementary Therapies – there are some wonderful therapies that may make you feel relaxed and at peace with yourself – for example massage, Reiki, HeartMath Coherence and Reflexology, as well as EFT are all are treatments which aid in the release of built up emotions in the emotional and physical body whilst also easing the mind.

Eating well – choosing healthy foods that you enjoy and which are natural and energising are an important part of looking after you and maintaining a healthy heart. Prepare for yourself delicious meals and treats with love and care. Use beautiful china to eat and drink from. Make eating a beautiful ritual where you honour your body and your health.


Exercise – Any form of exercise, whether it’s walking, cycling, swimming, aerobics, dancing or using a trampoline will release endorphins (the ‘happy’ hormone) into your body. Laughter Yoga if you haven’t yet discovered it is perfect for a lasting happiness effect. Exercise can make you feel energised, positive and confident and is also great for toning and shaping as well as pumping blood around the heart. Be sure to have some form of exercise in your daily routine and to build up gradually listening to your body at all times.


Gratitude – Practising daily gratitude has so many benefits.  Read this wonderful article by Monica Cafferky, freelance journalist  ‘How Writing a Daily Gratitude Diary Changed Our Lives’  I’m pleased to have been interviewed for this article and share with you how the attitude of gratitude changed me life in the Daily Express.


Rest and relaxation – down time such as listening to music, reading, taking a nap or making sure you have plenty of sleep when you need it, is a very loving way to look after yourself and your heart.


Meditation – You may also find meditation helps you to relax after a busy day or, as part of a daily morning ritual. Check out  Five Minute Meditations by Caroline Maidment which I highly recommend. Meditation lowers the heart rate and boosts immunity feeding the body with nutrients and oxygen.


Self care – such as taking luxurious baths with scented oils, candles burning and using wonderful body moisturisers and having a pamper, generally all helps one’s body to feel loved and cared for. Body brushing increases lymphatic flow through the body towards the heart. Choosing carefully the outfit you will wear for the day ahead, how you style your hair and if you wear make-up, taking care to apply and wear the colours that love you are all an important part of you showing yourself love, attention and care.


When you are kind and loving towards yourself connecting from your heart you act from a place of self love, it’s possible to expand, connect, amplify, magnetise and bring balance to your life.  Your thought processes change and you may find yourself being more positive about life in general, as you operate more from heart focused awareness.

It is beautiful to express love and even more beautiful to feel it – Dejan Stoganovic

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When you’re ready to take the next step and make your future the best it can be contact me for love and relationship support at www.wendyfry.com or for general therapeutic support at www.bepositive.me.uk email: info@wendyfry.com.

I work over Skype and also in person from my practice in Surrey offering a range of personal support programmes, workshops and VIP Days.

Remember to PAUSE, you’d be surprised what you find in the gap! 

21 Mar

Endings and Beginnings

Yesterday March 20th 2015 marked the Spring Equinox a day of much hype as it was also a very special day marking a very rare solar eclipse and super moon.  There was a certain anticipation in the air and a stir of excitement.  The thing I love about the eclipse is it brings people together.  We all share the same planet and it was so great to see young and old together and different nationalities intermixed in the great outdoors, waiting with baited breath and camera posed for a shot of the eclipse.  Did you get a glimpse?

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New moons are times that are opportunities to manifest.  A time for new birth.  New beginnings and for me that marks the opportunity for endings too.

What would you benefit from ending in your life?  

  • Could it be dysfunctional or toxic relationships?
  • Perhaps ending a job that you’re not happy in and finding one that leaves you eager to start work each day?
  • Could it be something that impacts your health like over eating, drinking, drugs or smoking?
  • Could it be deciding to move on from the past and starting today as the first day of the rest of your life?
  • What’s the cost to you if you don’t make these changes?
  • What would creating these endings make space for and what would that give you?

I spent some time yesterday writing up my new moon wishes.  I thought about the area’s of my life where I perhaps needed to be more compassionate towards myself and others.  I explored forgiveness and who I needed to forgive, including myself.  I pondered how I want to use my creativity and develop it further to benefit others.  I got in touch with the part of me that still wants to learn and develop.  I gained greater clarity about my future, what I want and where I’m headed. I let go of the thoughts that cause me suffering.  I decided to take better care of myself and to be sure I put myself first and consider when I say yes to things when I really want to say no.

How would you benefit exploring the very same areas and writing up your new moon wishes around compassion, forgiveness, creativity, personal  or psychic development, clarity, suffering, self care?  

Take a little time to do this as soon as you can, the new moon is very potent and will support you with the changes you wish to make.

Spring for many is a time for coming out of hibernation, a time for Spring cleaning the home and starting afresh.  Have you ever thought about spring cleaning your mind?



Spend some time over the weekend thinking about what physical possessions hold an energy of unhappy memories, how do these memories and emotions limit you?  How do they hold you back from achieving what you want?

  • Do you have clothes or possessions that are worn out, chipped, broken, damaged?  
  • What are you keeping hold of that you’re attached to gets in the way of you moving on?  

In Feng Shui we are advised to recycle, to throw away and clear the things  that are not useful, practical and beautiful.  These things create negative energy.

  • For example what do you have under your bed that you sleep on top of every night?
  • How might this be affecting you on an energetic/emotional level?
  • Move it, throw it, sort it and see what happens….

Since I made some changes in my own home my business and therefore income has increased and I no longer feel held back or ineffectual,  I have well and truly had a very good sort out and it was exhilarating to be free of physical possessions and the emotional attachment I had to them.

I know someone that had photo album, upon photo album of all her failed relationships under her bed along with the divorce papers and underwear that she had bought for special occasions for these different people.  It’s not great energy to be sleeping over all this old stuff that relates to relationship failure if you want to attract a new partner!

  • Is your mind in need of a spring clean too?
  • What stories and movies from the past do you keep replaying?
  • What emotions do you experience every day based on your thoughts about the past?  Sadness, regret, bitterness, anger?

I promise you the energy of this kind of thinking will leave you feeling less than positive and will be energetically holding you back from achieving what you want!

If you need to journal these old stories and get them out.  Burn them and bury them in the soil to transmute.

Use EFT (The Emotional Freedom Technique) to release blocked and stagnant energy from your body.  Throw out the things that hold you back in mind, body and spirit.

Today is the first day of the rest of your life….

Create Your Life On Purpose! 

Today is the first day of the rest of your life and it’s up to you to make it a good one...

If you need some help in letting go of ‘the poop from the past’  join me for a VIP Day https://wendyfry.com/vip-day/ to spring clean your mind and get you back on track to living your life on purpose! Contact me at info@wendyfry.com www.wendyfry.com 

This post was inspired by Laveta Piemme one of the most awesome ladies I have the pleasure of being connected with http://www.selfgrowth.com/experts/laveta-piemme Thank you Laveta for your sharing of new moon phenomena and guiding us back home to ourselves x

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