25 Jan

The Voice of the Heart

How often do you truly connect in with your heart?

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Do you find your head ruling your heart rather than the other way round?  If so read my blog ‘get out of your head and into your heart‘ 

It’s possible to increase heart centre connection using the exercise below and also the ones included here 

Heart Based Practical Exercise: The voice of the heart

Copy out or read aloud the following statements and include your positive heartfelt endings

 
• I experience love when I…..

 
• When I think about love I feel it in my (name the area of your body where you feel the energy of love. This might be somewhere else in addition to your heart)…..

 
• I have learnt to love and take care of myself by…..

 
• Love and heart focused connection fills up so much of my time that I forget to….

 
• I can…..

 
• My heart is full of love because I choose to…..

 
• The inner core of my being recognises love through…..

 
• This is my chance to…..

 
• When I listen to my heart it tells me…..

 
• I respect myself totally because…..

 
• I’m determined to…..

 
• I’m so happy that I now choose…..

 
• I am blessed to experience heart connection because…..

 
• I will…..

 
• I am strong enough to…..

 
• Love is now a part of me and I vow to…..

 
• I’m certain that I can…..

 
• I promise to…..

 
• This is my opportunity to…..

 
• It is my mission to…..because…..

 
• I am choosing to make the rest of my life…..

 
• I love myself unconditionally exactly as I am and in doing so I…..

 

Notice what changes in you day, week and month ahead when you get into the space of love and heart centred connection.

 

One love, one heart, one destiny – Bob Marley
When you’re ready to take the next step in exploring your hearts needs to support you in achieving your personal and business goals. I offer a range of support programmes. www.wendyfry.com  for love and relationship support and www.bepositive.me.uk for general therapeutic support.

18 Jan

PAUSE for Positive Change

We all have the same amount of hours in the day though I know many of you might wish you had more time to either get through your ‘In Tray’, deal with the hundreds of daily emails or simply want more time to connect with your family and friends.

I need to let you know, the secret of success is…Less is more!

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Working yourself into the ground, running on empty and worrying about everything creates stress.

Taking just a few minutes out of your day, brings you back into balance.  Getting you out of your head and into your heart.  By slowing down our thoughts, remembering to breathe and taking a moment to pause, will allow you to de-stress, do more and have time for fun stuff too.

Now is the perfect time to PAUSE and connect with your heart space Any time you find yourself going into your head, pause and use heart centred breathing.

Re-connecting with your heart space will support you in remembering your:

 
Passion

Ability

Uniqueness

Sense of Self

Energy of Love

 
Allow the pause to reach your heart space, breathe deeply and allow yourself to fully connect in love.  Feel that love and connection growing and expanding, filling up not only your physical body with beautiful energy.

Blast out that vibrant energy from your heart out into The Universe.

Create a positive ripple of heart connection across the planet.

Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to believe that you do great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you will know when you’ve found it – Steve Jobs

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Heart Based Exercise: Making your future the best it can be

I encourage you to reflect on the following points, to make your future the best it can be. Ask yourself:

 
• What do I need to stop doing that holds me back from having a more heart centred connection with myself and others?
• What do I need to start doing to allow my heart to open fully?
• What can I commit to right now that will allow for a more heart centred approach to life and living?
Heart Based Exercise (apply daily as many of these heart centred self care choices as you possible)

I have listed below some activities that will aid you in being more loving to yourself and making time for you to be with you. What can you choose from these examples that will make you feel pampered, cherished and loved and what other ways can you find to love you?

 
Affirmations – starting and ending the day with positive affirmations while connection from your heart will aid towards general well-being creating balance and positive energy flow.

 
Being out in nature – connecting to nature is very restorative and reduces mental fatigue. It is both healing and cleansing, being out in fresh air and green spaces restoring one’s emotional health and physical wellbeing on many different levels.

 
Complementary Therapies – there are some wonderful therapies that may make you feel relaxed and at peace with yourself – for example massage, Reiki, HeartMath Coherence and Reflexology, as well as EFT are all are treatments which aid in the release of built up emotions in the emotional and physical body whilst also easing the mind.

 
Eating well – choosing healthy foods that you enjoy and which are natural and energising are an important part of looking after you and maintaining a healthy heart. Prepare for yourself delicious meals and treats with love and care. Use beautiful china to eat and drink from. Make eating a beautiful ritual where you honour your body and your health.

 

Exercise – Any form of exercise, whether it’s walking, cycling, swimming, aerobics, dancing or using a trampoline will release endorphins (the ‘happy’ hormone) into your body. Laughter Yoga if you haven’t yet discovered it is perfect for a lasting happiness effect. Exercise can make you feel energised, positive and confident and is also great for toning and shaping as well as pumping blood around the heart. Be sure to have some form of exercise in your daily routine and to build up gradually listening to your body at all times.

 

Gratitude – Practising daily gratitude has so many benefits.  Read this wonderful article by Monica Cafferky, freelance journalist  ‘How Writing a Daily Gratitude Diary Changed Our Lives’  I’m pleased to have been interviewed for this article and share with you how the attitude of gratitude changed me life in the Daily Express.

 

Rest and relaxation – down time such as listening to music, reading, taking a nap or making sure you have plenty of sleep when you need it, is a very loving way to look after yourself and your heart.

 

Meditation – You may also find meditation helps you to relax after a busy day or, as part of a daily morning ritual. Check out  Five Minute Meditations by Caroline Maidment which I highly recommend. Meditation lowers the heart rate and boosts immunity feeding the body with nutrients and oxygen.

 

Self care – such as taking luxurious baths with scented oils, candles burning and using wonderful body moisturisers and having a pamper, generally all helps one’s body to feel loved and cared for. Body brushing increases lymphatic flow through the body towards the heart. Choosing carefully the outfit you will wear for the day ahead, how you style your hair and if you wear make-up, taking care to apply and wear the colours that love you are all an important part of you showing yourself love, attention and care.

 

When you are kind and loving towards yourself connecting from your heart you act from a place of self love, it’s possible to expand, connect, amplify, magnetise and bring balance to your life.  Your thought processes change and you may find yourself being more positive about life in general, as you operate more from heart focused awareness.

It is beautiful to express love and even more beautiful to feel it – Dejan Stoganovic

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When you’re ready to take the next step and make your future the best it can be contact me for love and relationship support at www.wendyfry.com or for general therapeutic support at www.bepositive.me.uk email: info@wendyfry.com.

I work over Skype and also in person from my practice in Surrey offering a range of personal support programmes, workshops and VIP Days.

Remember to PAUSE, you’d be surprised what you find in the gap! 

11 Jan

Raising Your Love Vibration

We all need love and heart centred connection….

Since we were mere babies, to be loved, nurtured and connected with others is a natural human need inbuilt from our earliest years.

As adults, we no longer need to be reliant to find love and connection from the outside sources; we can meet our own needs independently by going into our hearts.

If you need a little more information about heart connection see my previous blog Get Out of Your Head and into Your Heart 

Heart Based Exercise: Raising Your Love Vibration- connecting with your heart space

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You can use this exercise in the written sense, writing down your answers or simply use as a visual exercise if you prefer.

Think about a dial with -10 being the lowest love score, 0 being neutral and +10 being at its highest rate of heart connection

How high is your heart connection dial right now?
• If your dial is anything less than a + 10 what do you need to start doing, stop doing or do differently to get it to a +10?
• How will your life change when you connecting with your heart space from a +10?
• What things do you love about life/yourself/others when you connect from the heart? (keep adding to that list so that you have a growing list of things to love and appreciate about yourself)
• What memories do you have of giving and receiving love?
• Remember how giving and receiving love felt, what you saw, heard and experienced, how was this achieved when you openly gave and received love through your heart?
• How can you be more loving towards yourself and others?
• What would happen if you accepted, allowed and welcomed more love into your life?
• How would your day change if you filtered for and looked for all the loving experiences you could find through heart centred awareness?
• How would your life change if you operated more from your heart and said yes to love for now and for always?

 

Reflect on your answers and notice where you might be falling a little short in the love vibration department.  If you need some extra help read my previous blog post Creating Possibilities through Heart Centred Connection 

The moment you surrender to love and allow it to lead you to exactly where your soul wants it to go, you will have no difficulty – Neal Donald Walsch

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Practical Exercise: Increasing Raising your love vibration

Use the following statements in addition to the prior exercise, either writing your answers  after the gaps, visualising the process or reading the statements aloud and ending in your own words.
Connecting with my heart I know….

Being more heart centred changes my life because….

I love how it feels when…..

I love knowing…..

It makes me feel so good that…..

I love seeing myself…..

I enjoy…..

I’m excited at the thought of…..

I love being…..

I’m delighted that….

I appreciate….

It feels so good to be….

I’m so happy that….

When you raise your love vibration through heart centred connection,  you feel differently about yourself and your future. When you can change your mind set about what is possible rather than what is impossible this changes your energetic vibration, try it and see.

Wherever you go, go with all your heart – Confucius

When you’re ready to work with me please do make contact at info@wendyfry.com to explore the range of tools and techniques I can share with you, Helping You to help Yourself!

Love and Relationship Support Programmes www.wendyfry.com

General Therapeutic Support www.bepositive.me.uk 

30 Nov

Get out of Your Head and into Your Heart!

When was the last time you were in the dilemma where your heart said yes and your head said no?  

Two parts of you in disagreement, battling with each other for pole position…

How often have you found yourself unable to make decisions based on that inner conflict, not knowing which way to go?

A question I would like you to become familiar with and to apply every time you find yourself reacting to something or someone is to ask yourself:

‘Am I in my head or am I in my heart?’

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Often times we are so much in our heads our heads analysing, judging and constantly weighing up the pros and cons of a situation.

We are so far removed from being in our heart space and connecting in love, that we wouldn’t recognise it if it came up and stared us in the face.

Our heads it’s where our ‘voice of doom/destruction/negative thinking’ lives. It will continue to rear its ugly head until we rein it in.

If we’re not careful, we could let our heads rule our hearts and our future, never considering the heart’s needs or wants.

Wherever you go, go with all your heart – Confucius

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Opening your heart

An open heart is very powerful, it has the capacity to love and be loved.

• Your heart is wise

• If you listen to it you will find that it knows all the answers to all your questions

• Your heart provides you with valuable sources of information

• Your heart has a blueprint for happiness, joy and compassion for yourself and others

• Your heart stores that which you seek…love, contentment, joy

The heart is where our true self resides, that place of inner knowing and intuition, the higher self, the source, our oneness.

Our heart speaks to us in a gentle voice and will guide us back home to ourselves if we stop long enough to listen.

Our heart truly knows what’s best for us if we can get the head out of the way.

Whatever we are waiting for – peace of mind, contentment, grace, the inner awareness of abundance – it will surely come to us, but only when we are ready to receive it with an open and grateful heart – Sarah Ban Breathnach

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Heart Based Exercise: Listening to Your Heart’s Needs

• Listen to your heart’s needs

• Be aware of the fears in your head

• Make a note of where these fears come from. Are they fears from the past, fears related to current concerns or fears about things you imagine happening in the future?

• Bring yourself back to your heart each time you find yourself going back into your head

• Go back to the heart space using heart based breathing, connect with and expand that feeling of love

• Act from the heart in every situation

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Wrist Band Exercise:

This is a great awareness exercise that supports you in bringing head and heart into balance.

  1. Wear a loose elastic band, hair tie, charity wrist band or just your watch around your wrist
  2. Every time you go into your head (over analysing, judging, labelling and categorising) which takes you further away from love, change the item over from one wrist to the other, to bring you back to heart centred awareness
  3. Filter your experiences through your heart space and you will experience life through the filter of love

It’s a very effective and simple exercise that further brings awareness to your thought process and will aid you to re-direct your thinking to that which is more positive

It will show you the habits of your thinking and make you realise where your mind wanders to…you just need to pull it back again

I offer this exercise to my clients and some of the feedback I’ve had is:

‘’ I can’t believe how many of my thoughts are negative and critical ’’

‘’Although I got annoyed at how many times I had to change the band over, it made me laugh when I realised half of what I was worrying about might not even happen’’

‘’My wife and I are now doing this together, I want my dad to do it too and he is so negative’’ (of course this in itself is a negative thought and the band has to be changed over to the opposite wrist)

You can read additional feedback about my services, techniques and the results gained from working with me.

Have fun along the way catching yourself; the more you practice the more you get your head and heart in balance.

Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes – Carl Jung

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From my heart you yours,

With Love,

X Wendy

23 Nov

How Do You Experience Love?

An open heart is an open mind – Dalai Lama

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How Do You Experience Love?

There are so many ways to experience love, it will be different for each and everyone reading this.

One way of experiencing love is to be ‘in the moment’. Fully alive and receptive with where you are in time and space. Using your senses to be in touch with the moment (seeing, hearing, feeling, smelling, tasting)

You are able to enjoy the feeling of love flowing through you with ease when you are fully present.

Neither being caught up with thinking about the past, or worrying about the future, simply accepting the present moment just as it is through heart centred awareness.

There are so many ways to connect in with your heart space and experience joy and love….

  • Self love/Self compassion
  • Simply ‘being’ in the absence of doing
  • Heart focused meditation
  • Love of another
  • Love of family
  • Love of a pet
  • Love of your work/vocation
  • Love of nature/gardening
  • Love of knowledge
  • Love of music
  • Love of people
  • Love of a hobby
  • Love of exercise
  • Love of reading/writing/journaling
  • Love of stillness/meditation
  • Love of life

 

How do you experience the flow of love in you?

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Flow is the feeling of wholeness, connection, contentment, just being in love with life and all that is regardless of external circumstances.

When you are in peak flow you are in your heart and there is no greater place to be.

Need some help in getting out of your head and into your heart?  I have a range of services and programmes to suit your needs www.bepositive.me.uk

The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched – they must be felt with the heart Helen Keller

03 May

Being or Doing?

Do you class yourself as a doer?

Someone who rarely sits still, always getting on with the next project, idea, theory.

Yep, me too, I can be like that ‘most of the time’

I’ve been practising ‘being’ instead of ‘doing’ today and I have to say…I’m loving it.

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As a self employed therapist and author I’m the boss, the cleaner, the admin assistant, the blogger, the post opener, the banker, the errand runner and the tea maker…the list of what I do on most days, including the weekends is pretty endless but I do it all with a loving heart purely because I love what I do and want to make a difference in the world in which we live.

I often set my clients ‘Home Play‘, which is really ‘Homework’ (don’t tell!)

I encourage them to ‘BE’ Instead of ‘DO’.

So today I practised what I preach. I took the day off from doing and just let myself be totally in the moment.

Sitting in sunlight, reading and listening to some relaxing music I simply let go of the doing, the striving the  achieving and allowed myself to submerge into stillness.

Having some valuable time out from thinking, ticking off lists, planning and ‘doing’ there is no greater medicine than this!

By being, I noticed so much more.

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The feeling of sunlight on my face…

The stir of a passing breeze in my hair…

The joy of living in this beautiful world…

The eloquent tunes of birdsong…

Blossom petals floating from a nearby tree…

Insects going about their work…

The world was alive with doing though I was simply being…

It’s as though time stood still…

It’s hard to describe what contentment means though for me this is as close as I can get…

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So are you a ‘doer’?  Nothing wrong with that.

I invite you to..simply be……

Tomorrow is a bank holiday in the UK.  It’s a whole beautiful day to BE!

86,000 seconds where you have the opportunity to simply live in the moment….

Please do let me know what you noticed by being, rather than doing.

There is so much to hear, see and feel when we stop doing and start being. 

For me ‘being’ today has fuelled my passion for life, living and loving.

Tomorrow isn’t promised.

Today…just ‘BE’ ….

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You’ll be glad you did. 

X From My heart to yours with love

Wendy

www.bepositive.me.uk

Helping you to help yourself live the rest of your life with purpose! 

01 Feb

Always checking?

Are you always checking?

In this modern word of technology and instant access to just about anything your heart’s desire.  It’s all too easy to get caught up with constant ‘checking’ and doing instead of simply being.

How much time are you spending checking? 

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# Do you find yourself constantly checking Facebook for status updates?

# Do you keep checking your phone for texts or answerphone messages?

# Keep checking Twitter or Pinterest just to be sure you haven’t missed anything?

# Checking your bank balance to be sure you haven’t gone overdrawn?

# Checking the news to see what’s happening in the world?

# Checking your front door is locked and your hair strengtheners unplugged?

# Checking your watch to see how long it is until home time?

# Checking the bath isn’t overflowing, the gas is off, the lights are off?

# Checking your alarm is on for the morning?

PHEW!  I’m exhausted just typing that.

Be aware of your own personal energy and the time spent with all that checking and how draining it actually is….

It’s time when you could just be ‘being’ instead.

What is it you are really seeking if we drill down to the bare bones of all that checking?

  • Could it be that you’re looking for love and connection through social media?
  • Do you have a need for safety and security by checking that your home is safe?
  • Are you looking for love messages on your phone that may mean that you need to feel needed loved and cared for?
  • Do you need to feel abundant, rich and wealthy?
  • Would you like more freedom to spend your time as you wish?
  • Do you want to feel accepted, approved of, included?

Next time you find yourself checking anything, stop for a moment and ask yourself what do I really need right now and how can I provide that for myself?

We can create freedom in our minds….

We can create love in our hearts….

We can create a sense of feeling safe in the world….

We can create a connection to source/God/The Universe/Life Force Energy all by going within.

Be the creator of your own life…

Instead of looking externally for love, acceptance, approval and freedom, those things can be found within. 

  • If you want more love, how can you be more loving to yourself?
  • If you want more acceptance, what parts of yourself are you not accepting?
  • If you want more freedom how can you create the feeling of freedom within?

There are times when things will need to be checked perhaps once a day.  Times when it’s important to make sure your home is secure.  Times when you need to make and receive calls and texts.

Simply be aware from this moment on how much time you spend reacting instantly to status updates, emails, texts, calls, how much time you spend looking outside of yourself for what you really seek.  If it’s taking you away from ‘being’, what’s the cost to your emotional and physical health and wellbeing?

What are you putting outside of yourself that you can easily generate within?

Set yourself free from doing and simply be…

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If you need some help in managing your time and emotions you’re in the right place.  Contact me to learn how with a few simple techniques you find the love, approval, acceptance and freedom that’s been inside of you all along and that you maybe just forgot about.  www.wendyfry.com