01 Feb

Crazy Little Thing Called Love!

As we step into February the month for love and with Valentine’s Day fast approaching.  Many of you might be wondering….Can any body find me somebody to love?

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Oh, yes! All things love, Saint Valentine deserves a mention. You can read more about the historical aspects of Saint Valentine and the significance of 14th February being a special day here though as nearly everyone gets on the band wagon buying roses, champagne and chocolates for their nearest and dearest supermarkets, florists, fragrance houses and chocolatiers cash in on The Day of Love.

Always one to be a little bit different and stepping away from the norm, I say ‘let every day be a day for love’.

If you’re with me on that, shout out ‘I’m in’!…now even louder…’I’m in’!

On the subject of love, my argument here, simply because I love a good old debate, is why wait for others to validate you in the love department and have to wait a whole year for the privilege.

Don’t get me wrong, It’s always lovely to receive love tokens, knights in shining armour delivering the finest milk chocolate,  bed strewn with red rose petals and a luxury bubble bath with a chilled bottle of Moet on the side, but what if Saint Valentine is still on his white charger trying to find you it’s a case of Love Don’t Live Here Any More 

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Be your own Saint Valentine every day!

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Essential ingredients for daily love (repeat daily 365 days a year)

  • Wake up, stretch, yawn, have a little wriggle and say ‘today’s the day for love’


  • Get up, put your favourite music on, (these can be your favourite love tracks) or any kind of music that makes you want to groove and shake your booty (we can start a love train)


  • While showering, imagine you’re standing under a beautiful rainbow which not only cleanses away yesterdays residue, imagine the rainbow water is also showering you with love (singing in the shower optional, if you decide to dance too, please use hand rails) Here’s one of my faves to get you in the mood. Singing tracks like this to yourself might feel a bit odd though once you get used to you will find yourself singing all kinds of wonderful things.


  • After towelling dry, dress in your best, after all you’re spending the day with wonderful you.


  • Next…set your intention and affirm the day will bring you experiences to love and appreciate (even if those things are lessons, they will help you grow)


  • Think about how you love your insides and be sure to nurture your body with healthful foods which energise you and support your health and well-being


  • Choose how you spend your thinking time, turning your thoughts to love as often as possible (example)



  • At the end of your day do what makes you feel good whether it be a jog in the park, chilling with a good book, running your own sumptuous bubble bath and having the chocolates all to yourself or simply meditating, listening to music or if you really must show the world you can dance


I hope you’ve enjoyed this newsletter and the dance tracks (you can take the girl out of the eighties but not the 80’s out of the girl)

Please feel free to let me know how you get on with the daily love…

And just for fun have a little boogie to ‘Crazy Little Thing Called Love’ 

PS…remember to download completely free 21 Steps to LOVE and Standing in the Spotlight of LOVE
It’s been my pleasure connecting with you as ever.

From my heart you yours, with love

Wendy x

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08 Feb

Glass Half Full?

When asked is your glass half full or half empty what do you say.

You, yourself have the ability to fill your glass up with self love.  You have the endless capacity to love and that love begins with the relationship you have with yourself.

Without self love and taking personal responsibility to fulfil our own needs, we operate from a place of lack and neediness; we cannot love another or receive love until we believe ourselves to be completely whole. 

Unless we truly love ourselves, we will never believe someone else does. 

By loving and caring for ourselves we show others that it’s ok for them to love and care for us too.  We are often treated by others as we treat ourselves and if we cannot love ourselves, we make it very difficult for others to love us.

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Even though we may say that we want the relationship of our dreams, we might also believe that it’s impossible to have a fulfilling and loving relationship.  What we do want and what we don’t want seem to be in conflict. Part of us may believe that true love and happiness is possible and the other part denying any thought of entertaining it.  We might push love and the opportunity for true happiness away, without realising we are sabotaging ourselves.

Personal transformation occurs, once we are able to identify how we get in our own way, so we can then release and remove those inner obstacles to love.

Feel free to download your copy of The Self Love Inventory working through to see where you may be falling short in the self love department https://wendyfry.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/Self-Love-Inventory-Heart-Based-Practical-Exercise1.pdf

There is also a full 4 page Love and Relationship inventory on www.wendyfry.com that you can print off for free to work out if you are needy in love.  This will help you to explore your love and relationship beliefs.

Please do make contact if you need some help in working through your love and relationship problems.  You can work with me in person or via Skype or attend one of my workshops which run monthly, you can contact me for dates via my website.

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Making time for yourself will be one of the best investments you have ever made.

Self care will ultimately lead to self love.

All relationships begin with you and when you are able to care for yourself, love, respect and accept yourself, this makes it easier for others to love, respect and accept you too. 

You can change your beliefs and work through any personal limitations using The Spotlight Process and EFT – The Emotional Freedom Technique.  I will be offering you to opportunity to receive completely free on  on Valentine’s Day, a copy of my book, Find YOU, Find LOVE.  The announcements and details of how to receive will be on my Find YOU, Find LOVE Facebook page.  You just need to like the page and check in on Valentine’s Day to receive details of how to claim your copy. https://www.facebook.com/findyoufindlove?ref=hl

When you become more of who you are and less of who you are not, self love and acceptance become easier and opens up a world of loving opportunity all around you.  You no longer need to hide behind a mask of falseness being who you ‘think you need to be’ for others to love and accept you.   You except yourself fully and completely regardless of another person’s words or actions and just get on about the business of being your amazing self!

Who you are is so worth loving exactly as you are.  Remember that always!

You can read the reviews and peak inside Find YOU, Find LOVE right here http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1910202460.