When was the last time you said ‘I love you’ to yourself? If it was a long time ago or never, now is the perfect time to change that.
Do you find it easy to tell others that you love them, or say it in the hope to receive the declaration of love back?
What about you, how much self love and self acceptance do you have?
It took me a long time to realise that putting love outside of myself for another person to validate me was setting myself up for failure.
I’ve spent many years working out why my relationships weren’t working and I share my insights with you in my blog posts and in my first book Find YOU, Find LOVE available on amazon http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1910202460
Creating loving relationships comes from loving yourself first. Your outer world will mirror back to you your inner world. What you believe about yourself both the positive and the negative, you may attract back towards you. When you are more tender and loving towards yourself, you will have reflected back to you boundless opportunities for love.
You have an opportunity right now to learn from the past and to work towards treating yourself differently, learning to respect, love and honour yourself completely. It’s time to start appreciating and acknowledging yourself for who and what you are.
Any time you come away from your truth, your wholeness, your centre and lose sight of your greatness and your lovability, gently forgive yourself and go back to treating yourself with love, respect and care.
When you slip back into old behaviours of self criticism, self judgement and harshness, think about what it was that made you act in an unloving way towards yourself and be aware of any thoughts, words and actions that you expressed about yourself that were hard hearted and insensitive.
When you learn to be more loving and considerate to yourself first and foremost, your inner mirror reflects to the outside world that you are happy, content and already filled with love and this is what will show up for you…even more love!
Heart Based Exercise
Complete the following love statements below by either speaking them out loud, repeating silently inside your own mind or write out in full using a journal. Re-read these statements every day adding additional statements of your own:
- I love knowing that I deserve….
- I love being….
- I love feeling…
- I love allowing….
- I love choosing…
- I love enjoying…
- I love exploring…
- I love that I have decided to…
- I love knowing that…
When you are able to love and accept yourself totally for who you are, life unfolds and supports you in a way that you may never have dreamed possible. You are completely self sufficient, whole, resourceful and complete without the love of another.
If you would like to find out more about my services and the love & relationship support available to you go to https://wendyfry.com/services/ I work internationally over Skype and in person in Sutton, Surrey.
Find YOU, Find LOVE in person workshops run every 3rd Saturday in the month for a small and intimate group of 6 people. http://youtu.be/nnBNjwKx-m0
You can download chapter 3 of Find YOU, Find LOVE from my website along with a whole range of free resources and audio downloads www.wendyfry/book/resources